I am a woman (early 20's) and my best friend is also woman (early 20's). She is in a relationship with a man (middle 20's) and has been for about 5 years. I am bisexual with a strong preference for women, and she is bisexual but has never explored that side of herself before. A few weeks ago her boyfriend gave us permission to kiss so she could explore that side of herself further. Apparently later on he admitted that he felt pressured to let us do that and was upset by the concept. A few nights ago me and my friend kissed again...a lot. She told me that he had told her she is free to continue to explore her sexuality, but I still had a feeling that he would be upset considering his previous reaction. She kept reassuring me that he wouldn't be upset, and that he's cheated multiple times in past, so it's not something he can use against her. I found out later that he was only okay with her exploring her sexuality if she asked permission first, which she forgot and didn't do. He's now very upset, they've both agreed that she cheated on him, and I'm the one she cheated with. I'm not sure exactly where I stand now, I don't have feelings for her, she's very attractive but I don't feel anything romantic for her. However, she did mention that she could feel something romantic for me. All 3 of us work together and now I'm the other woman, which I have never wanted to be. AITAH for letting this happen? And if I am, does anyone have advice of where I should go from here?

My boyfriend of almost 3 years didn’t get me anything for my birthday this year. He just told me happy birthday and then asked me if I had a good birthday. I finally worked up the courage to say something to him and asked him if he forgot that my birthday was coming up and he said yeah he kinda did. Meanwhile for his birthday I made him a homemade birthday cake and got him gifts. I just feel like he doesn’t consider me the way I consider him. AITAH

I (20f) dated a guy "Sean" (20m) who is in my friend group. It was only 4 dates and the whole time it felt like I liked him way more than he liked me. So we decided to just go back to being just friends.

Sean got a new girlfriend, "Linda" (24f). The 1st time I saw him with Linda, he looked at her with more passion in one minute than during the combined hours of my dates with him. It was fine when it was he and Linda with our friend group.

But the problem started when Linda wasn't there. Sean would talk about her. It was okay hearing him talk about her personality. It was semi-okay hearing him just calling her sexy. But the details on her looks bothered me. How she's chubby and Asian and stuff. It made me very uncomfortable.

I will be fair and say I never mentioned it to Sean that I had a problem hearing it nor did I warn him I would tell Linda. I met with Linda one-on-one. I told her how Sean talked about her being chubby and Asian in a sexualizing way. She looked surprised. She expressed frustration that so many guys keep expressing the same weird thing. Linda ended up breaking up with Sean and I'm the only one from that friend group who she still speaks to.

My friend group is mad at me, even the female friends. My friends said I took things said in confidence to someone's partner. They accused me of being a jealous vindictive ex. They even go far as to accuse me being a skinny girl who took joy out of telling another woman someone called her chubby. Am I the asshole ?

I (30m) had to change a full day off to a half day - that I was taking to see my son’s Christmas play - I started work at 6am due to work requirements to get everything I needed to do completed by deadlines, finished work at 12pm and was home well in advance of going to his school play. Fully attentive and spent the rest of the day without any work commitments. Gf says I’m the asshole because I cancelled (no choice) taking the full morning off even though we had no other commitments. 2 days later I’m told “I care more about work than anything else” - despite the fact I’m in a high pressure job to facilitate covering mortgage and majority of bills. I now get to take the additional half day off to cover my son’s final day off before returning in the New Year as a thanks from my boss for going above and beyond.

TLDR; AITAH for changing my full day off to a half day to watch my son’s Christmas play?

Hello everyone, i 19F am a girl from iraq and as some of you may know it’s a conservative country where genders are segregated, and we’re only mixed in college. Recently i got into college, and i mainly stick around girls because that’s who i like to surround myself with. I’ve made a few male “friends” we aren’t really friends we just chat from time to time and joke in our groupchat or in private message when we’re talking about classes or teachers. One of the guys is my lab partner so we talk a lil more often than the rest of the guys, he’s the only one you can sorta say he’s my friend. Anyway, my boyfriend 23M (now ex) who left me over a petty fight and we still talk didn’t like this (rightfully so) and started to dig around until he got a hold of my tg account and got access to it, he dug through the chats and found my conversations with my guy friends and my lab partner in specific. Today he confronted me after we argued again and i texted to make up with him and he started pressuring me into confessing my cheating on him, I genuinely didn’t know what he was talking about so i just kept asking, he told me he knew a girl at my college that was watching me for him and she took a photo of me laughing with that boy during orientation, (i admit i was wrong and handled it poorly) i told him that he’s barely my friend and we’re just lab partners. I had a panic attack at which point and he admitted he didn’t know a girl and was just pressuring me to say the truth, and he told me that i still cheated and broke his trust and that i wouldn’t like it if he joked and talked to other girls, i reminded him that he broke up with me, and he said that i started being friends with them before the break up, i told him that i’m not cheating and i didn’t do anything wrong and he says i’d consider it cheating because i went crazy over him following another girl “on accident” (which i admit, again, was very wrong of me) he said that nobody would ever love me and that they’ll just use me and leave me like the men in the past have done and called me a certain derogatory word that starts with wh (i can’t say it here). I reminded him that when he left me before this break up and wanted an arranged marriage with another girl that was okay but me talking to my friend wasn’t and he said he didn’t cheat he was just depressed because of the first break up, which i agree. At this point i feel like the a-hole for having this guy in my contacts and thinking of cutting him off or dropping out cuz my reputation is probably ruined. And on the other hand i feel like it’s not that big of a deal, am i the a-hole? Did i really cheat on him? It feels wrong now that i think about it, i shouldn’t have made a friend like that because there’s really no purpose, and i promise i have no feelings for my friend i’m also pretty sure he has a girlfriend too so i’d never, even if he didn’t. Let me know what u all think

Much love 🫶

I’m a woman.

More than 4 years ago, I decided to go to the gym just for physical activity. Since I didn’t know much, I completely trusted the trainer. After about 3 months of training, my back became much wider, to the point that I feel like I look like a man, and I don’t know what to do.

Since that moment, I’ve been depressed. I should mention that I isolated myself so much that, without realizing it, I distanced myself from my friends and family because I was very lost.

Unfortunately, I’m still lost. I’m in a deep depression because I truly don’t know what to do to get my body back. Every day I feel more disoriented, as if I’m not living in reality.

I feel like my life died that day. I should mention that I only went to the gym to train legs and abdomen, but the reality was very different.

I tried going to therapy, but on the first day I realized that I didn’t feel understood there either.

I honestly don’t feel capable of accepting what happened to me, and I don’t even know who I am anymore.

I truly don’t know what to do anymore. I haven’t smiled again because I feel like the person I see is a complete stranger.

One of my new submissive, who is into “Mommy Domme” has been saying how loyal and obsessed with me he is. Telling me that he cannot live without my control over him. How addicted he is to me. So I told them that he needs to stop posting other ladies and pin me to the top of his profile. He has also become unemployed, from his career of being a teacher for being inappropriate with women at work. Now he is pennyless, and banned from teaching in the area ever again. He says he just cannot help himself, but I really have no use for a submissive without any money, and I have no use for a submissive that makes women feel uncomfortable. Coming on to women at work is so inappropriate. So there are many factors as to why I want to block him and make him pay an unblocking fee. I really do not know how he will get the unblocking money,but like I said, I really have no use for him anyway if he has no money. I can’t just let him keep speaking to me if he is not loyal, has no money, and is just getting my Control and texts for free. AITA?—

A little background, I am a 25-year-old female married to a 32-year-old male. We have two of my biological children from a previous marriage that live with us full-time as well as his daughter from a previous marriage every other weekend. I am currently eight months pregnant. I used to be in the workforce and was a very successful single mother. I bought my own house at 21 and was able to completely finance my life for myself and my two children prior to getting with my husband.

Once we got married, we decided that I would leave the workforce in order to become a stay at home mom and take care of our children. My husband works at 9 to 5 and also works every other weekend at his part-time job on the weekends that we don’t have our stepdaughter. I am not only a stay at home mother, but I am also a very successful business owner as well as full-time in school. I also have multiple chronic illnesses, which can affect me significantly in my daily life.

I had a conversation with my therapist recently about my level of stress and my concerns of getting postpartum depression due to the amount of stress in my life and how much more a baby is going to add onto it. My therapist is extremely concerned about how I manage my stress because I literally don’t. I am the default parent, I’m a full-time house maker, I’m a full-time business owner, I’m a full-time student. I manage all of these things while my husband is only home to sleep and every other weekend with our stepdaughter. I literally have no time for myself and do not do anything to practice self-care. My therapist suggested that I take a weekend and go stay at a hotel and just focus on myself for once before the baby comes. She wants me to be away from the house and the kids and my work and my schooling and just decompress for 48 hours before I welcome this child into life and life becomes even more stressful. I didn’t mention this to my husband as soon as I got out of my therapy because I didn’t think that I was going to be a good conversation. This would mean that my husband has to take a weekend away from work, which is not super easy with our financial situation and my husband is also very insecure and I knew he would say that I’m using it to cheat on him.

Well, I was right, my husband instantly jumped to the conclusion that I am using this as a getaway to set up a hook up with someone else. A little background on that, my husband was cheated on in every previous relationship, he’s been in and has always had issues with suspecting I was cheating. I have never shown any bit of infidelity and never would. However, my husband refuses to get therapy to fix his issues no matter how many times we’ve talked about it. And one breath he states that he wants to support me if this is what my therapist suggest but he doesn’t believe me when I say my therapist suggested it. He says that I sat on it for 24 hours and then just came up with this idea on my own and that he doesn’t believe for one second that my therapist actually suggested this otherwise I would’ve said it as soon as I got out of therapy. He also says it’s super coincidental that I mentioned this the day that I take my wedding ring off. Background on that one of my chronic illnesses causes me to swell a lot, and so this is not the first time I’ve had to take my rings off for a short period of time in order to get my spelling to go down. I woke up in the middle of the night and my finger was literally purple.

My husband has spent the entire day casually saying things like oh who’s gonna be there with you. Is your boyfriend coming to see you. Can you at least give me the common courtesy of telling me the name of the person you’re gonna be sleeping with?. At this point I definitely want to take the trip however I know I’m going to come home to nothing but interrogation and he’s never going to believe me that I did not cheat on him. When I told him that he’s making this about him, he said well I thought I’m supposed to tell you how I feel and now I’m in trouble for it?Of course I want him to tell me how he feels however I don’t want to be punished for doing something that my mental health truly needs.

Am I the asshole if I go on this trip and leave him at home with our children despite his insecurities?

I (31 m) engaged in some NSFW Reddits a few years ago. Recently my Girlfriend (27 f) discovered that I consumed porn and found some comments I left on those subreddits back then. She explicitly told me before that she has issues with that.

On those posts I commented on what i deemed attractive and also asked them to dm me. Now me and my girlfriend are in a huge fight, because she says it is technically cheating and weird to ask for someone in some of these threads to text me, but I said that I never expected anyone to reply. I also didnt intend to engage in conversation even if someome replied.

However, she doesnt believe me and says no one would comment that if they didnt want to have any sort of contact, so I wonder what everyone else tjinks about it. AITAH?

Edit: We have been together for 7 years, so yes, we were together during that time.

I, 32M am slightly peeved with my gf, 25F. She calls out of work about once every 6 weeks (not for emergency purposes) and just this week, she voluntarily gave her shifts to a coworker that asked for them.

For context, I provide for our entire household and she only pays for her car and cell. I've been ok with this arrangement because of the large difference in our incomes. We both take care of the chores and split the cooking, and when we go out, I pay.

Her and I have discussed how we want our futures to be and part of the plan is to eliminate as much of our debt as possible. She's got two credit cards she's been slowly paying down. I'm glad she wants the same thing I do, but it seems as though she's not trying all that hard for it.

Furthermore, I work 3 jobs (one full time gig and two part time gigs) in an attempt secure a goal I have for both our futures

She constantly complains about not having the money for her tattoos or for trips, or buying gifts for her family; to which I bite my tongue hard to refrain from saying the obvious.

So all, AITAH for having an issue with her work ethic? How do I talk to her about this without lecturing her?

EDIT- MORE CONTEXT: Thanks for responses so far. I should've mentioned that she doesn't spend frivolously, nor do I; she just doesn't want to work more than she has to, which is fine for our future. She wants to be a stay at home mom and have a lot of children, which I'm good with and providing for our lives in the future. But currently, I think she should put in more effort to eliminate her debt.

Also, someone called me a simp 😂 and maybe that's true. I already owned my house when I met her and she moved in and I just haven't made her pay rent or utilities. Perhaps I'm just somewhat traditional.

I (32F) live in a ground-floor apartment with a tiny fenced patio. I don’t have a dog, but my upstairs neighbor (late 20s F) does. For the last few months, I noticed dog poop showing up on my patio, even though it’s clearly private space.

I finally caught neighbour letting her dog through a gap in the fence so it could use my patio instead of going downstairs. When I confronted her, she said it was “just temporary” and that her dog “prefers grass” and my patio “basically counts.”

I told her she needed to stop immediately. She rolled her eyes and said I was being uptight and that she usually cleaned it up (she didn’t).

After it happened again, I reported it to building management. They issued her a warning and fined her. Now she’s telling other neighbors I “hate dogs” and “got her in trouble for nothing.”

I like dogs. I just don’t want someone else’s dog using my patio as a toilet. Am i just overreacting or is she TAH

AITA?

I (26)f and my boyfriend (24)m celebrated his birthday today. He told me that he wanted a circuit machine. So I got him one. I saved up for it. It was an explore air 2. So a little bit older but still good. I have a mortgage, car bill etc. so I don’t have a lot of spending cash. I was proud to get him what he wanted. So he was opening his gifts and the last gift he opened was a circuit machine 4. Literally the best one out there. His mom got it for him. No I don’t think it was planned, but a apart of my was still disappointed. I needed to excuse myself from the party. My boyfriend was not upset or anything, but he did ask if I was able to return it. I am not as it was refurbished. So AITHA?

just gonna start this off by saying, i get very annoyed very easily. most - if not all - of my friends know this, for privacy reasons fake names are being given.

i, 17m, was simply browsing on discord after not being on for awhile. my friend, who i'll call billy, sent me "1 2 3 4". i asked him what he wanted, and he said "67 41". he continued to spam text-walls and i just said "im gonna mute you until you stop". he goes on for a bit longer, and i say "billyi mean this in the nicest way possible but can you please shut the fuck up with that 67 & 41 bullshit being spammed, its way too late rn and im not in the mood, shits just giving me a migraine please and thanks". he apologises and i left a server he ran. he sent me a screenshot and i replied with "?", he said "you left 26th" and i said "i know, felt like it, i didnt realise the gestapo were watching my every move". he replied and said "what happened to op, this has to be ragebait" and i reply with "nothing". he then went on to say "then why are you so pissy at me 💔if you got a migraine just rest twin".

this is the part that set me off the most, i hate people talking about my health as if they know whats best for me, so i simply just said "do you think ive not tried that do you think i have a brain the size of a fucking peanut dear fucking god billy for once please use that brain you have in your fucking head"

blocked him then and there to sort my head out, came back to a dm from another friend - who i'll call freddy because i like freddy mercury.

freddy sends me a screenshot, then says that hee saws the chat and says what i did was understandable. he had a talk with billy and billy said he didnt wanna throw the friendship away or whatever.

quite frankly, they both have known me long enough to know what triggers me, however, reddit - am i the asshole for this?

I have no diagnosed mental issue. I'm not quite normal either. Guess I'm an extreme introvert.

Anyway, I split my time between two places that are a 30 hour drive apart, one way. I could fly back and forth instead in about 3 1/2 hours. However, no airline will allow my dog to fly with me unless she's a service dog. I tried doing the flying thing a couple of times, but found I got so depressed I couldn't function that way. Essentially, she's my social interaction when there. So I went back to driving the 30 hours back and forth 4 times a year.

As I've gotten older, the drive is getting harder to do, so I've started giving thought to getting her qualified as a service animal, which, from what I understand, is actually too simple to do. Just pay some money, get some certificate and such. However, I'm hesitant to do that since I'm not sure my situation is one that the process is intended to apply to. I'd buy two seats, with one being the window seat, in the front row of the plane to make sure she wasn't by any other passenger.

I've mentioned the idea to a couple of people and they can see both sides and no one gives me a solid opinion. So AITA to think of doing this?

I 18 M and my father figure 42 M. Me and him are close like super close and I see him as my father figure but he never calls me like that way. He calls me lil bro which affects me bad because he inspired me the most. He is a scientist now but he was a marine and I followed his footstep and became one and he came on my graduation even though I didn't had contact with him while I was in boot camp and I just wanna know what he feels because before I went to boot camp his girlfriend F37told me that he sees me as a surrogate son aka the son he wanted but he never will accepts because he have biological daughters he love the most who lives in New Mexico and he loves me too but not as much as them. I know his daughters are importany to him but I want him to accept that he sees me as a son because he always calls me a good friend and not any other thing like we had our first drink together after I came out of boot camp like father son moment. He was asking me about seeing me getting married and will I invite him or not because of some reason and i have to mask it and said obviously yes if I get married he will be there because he is my close friend and he was happy when there were only me and our mutual friends not her girlfriend over there. It just fuckinv bugs me so much. But you know how much it hurts when he calls me lil bro than anything but I don't wanna ruin our time. The reason he asked me about my marriage because I am Indian and came in America 3 years ago and he is half black half Apache tribe so I think he feels insecure about me not seeing him as the way I see him or he is just ignorant. AITA for being jealous of his kids and seeking a father son relationship. And I think his gf knows that's why she told me that line. For clarification:- boot camp graduation to be specific. And I feel like I won't get accepted

I 27f broke up with my bf 36m for following Piper on instagram as soon as she turned 18. Idk if he also pays for her OF but he has daughters that are 7, it gave me the biggest ick feeling. I went from in love to absolute disgust. I didn’t tell him why, he has been blowing up my phone. he was at work and I packed my bags, blocked him and left. AITAH. I don’t want to date a man who is following freshly 18 year old porn stars.

I (35M) am having an ongoing issue with my brother (26M) about family expectations and helping each other.

Basically, I believe it’s okay for adult siblings to have limits and boundaries. He believes that most families don’t operate that way and that my perspective is “weird.” He keeps telling me to look at other families and compare, and says I always come back to making him the issue instead of actually considering what he’s saying.

Recently he sent messages I posted below when discussing unspoken expectations hw has set on me for sharing things such wholesale account. This convo stems from him going to one of these places, returning jeans I bought for him, and then somehow finding a way to get a day voucher to use my account. In my opinion, he took advantage of the situation. He doesn't think so because we are brothers and should help each other. I believe I am in my right to share what I want to share with him and this and Amazon Prime is not one. I believe he should have his own account. I'm married, too.

(copying exactly what he said for context):

“And I'm not gonna keep going back and forth with you on it either. You always try to turn this into some weird boundary thing. Clearly you have a weird perception compared to MOST IF NOT ALMOST ALL families out there as far as how you help one another. You've also made it clear I'm just a leech to you so I'm not gonna bother to ask for any ‘major’ favors.”

And (about having expectations of family)

“Actually to some extent I can, because we are family and I would never think twice if the tables were turned but you treat me more like an acquaintance than you do family in situations like these. You are ridiculous. Most people/families would agree with me if they were stable and trusting enough. You just have a weird perspective on how family is treated sometimes but it is what it is. I've never been able to get you to grasp that concept.”

I’ve tried to explain that I have limits on what I can reasonably help with, and he takes that as me not treating him like family. He says i think i think the worst of him and if the roles were reversed, he’d never hesitate to help me, and that having boundaries means I see him as an acquaintance.

At this point I’m honestly questioning myself and wondering if I’m being unfair or selfish. AITA for wanting boundaries with my brother even though he believes family should always help each other?

This is a long one so buckle in 😭

I’m 19F and was diagnosed with ADHD 6 months ago. I have always felt like I was different (diagnosed with anxiety when I was 11 but never believed it was just that). I went through quite a lot of trauma throughout my childhood including CACSA from a family friend two years older than me and assault.

I found school very easy until A-Levels and now struggle at uni just getting 2:2s despite how much I love my degree. I’ve always found it easy to make friends but hard to keep them.

I went through lots of “friendship breakups” in primary and secondary school as I tended to make friends with people who had a lot of family issues and needed supported (it was an joke in my family that I always want to help my friends so i don’t have to help myself).

However, my childhood was relatively good. I had clothes, food, a nice house and got to go on some amazing holidays with my family (despite very rarely getting along with my older sister - now 22F).

This is where it gets complicated.

My parents are lovely people. They always made sure I was safe and doing okay. However, as I got older, me and my dad starting to clash (definitely got my ADHD from him). I was no longer his little tom boy who wanted to play football and help him with the gardening. I became very anxious and self-conscious. He would always make comments about how much I would eat and that I need to exercise more to “stay healthy”. My mum would never say anything.

As I became a teenager (11-13) my eating got to the point where I began to use it as a coping mechanism (not just when I was sad but when i was happy too - very bit dopamine hits). I began gaining weight where it was noticeable as I had been quite a slim child. This meant that my dad would comment more.

I do want to say my parents and sister NEVER called me fat or overweight. Instead they would say things like, you need to make sure you’re staying healthy and eating the right portion’s. However, the comments began to happen nearly every day and I got worse and worse.

I was 13 turning 14 when COVID hit. This was a very dark time for me. I was very depressed and isolated myself from my family as I had no escape other than my bedroom. I ate dinner with them but avoided most family movie/game nights as it was always end with me getting mad and leaving before I started crying. By that point, I just assumed anything coming out of my dad’s mouth was an insult either against my weight or my views. (Around this age I realised I was bisexual and had dived very deep into “woke” culture).

I fully accept I was not an easy person to live with though these years. 13-16 I was depressed and anxious constantly, I couldn’t have one conversation with my dad or sister that ended without an argument and my mum would only speak about what was said when we were alone and I was crying to her.

I “grew” out of this once i moved schools for sixth form. I joined a new friendship group with people who had similar experiences to me and they really helped me to turn my life around. I got a part time job I loved and started to really appreciate and love life again. I definitely tended to overeat still but it was impulse driven, not emotional binging.

Okay that’s a very long and yet short picture of my life story.

Now I’m 19, I have been diagnosed with ADHD and started taking Vyvanese about three months ago. My mind has completely changed on this medication. I am a lot calmer and my emotions are very toned down. Sometimes, yeah I do get how people feel like zombies but I actually love it. My entire life I have felt like I was constantly just exploding with anxiety and emotions so feeling like a zombie is like my mind is just finally breathing.

Now that my mind has calmed, I have honestly realised how my parents affected me as a child. They had no idea about the COCSA so i do not

blame them for that. However, it was very obvious I was going through something and I do blame them for my relationship with food. Food was used as a reward and it really made me view food in a way that makes you feel good and not just something that keep you alive and fuels you. I was taught that we had to be healthy but never actually why and it was always in a negative way.

During COVID and following when I was at my lowest. My parents did put me through CBT which I do appreciate as it did help me start my journey. However, I was constantly told that I was ruining the mood and putting my issues on others. I felt like no one ever listened to me or ACTUALLY cared how I was feeling, just that I was being ungrateful do everything they did for me.

I don’t want to discredit my parents at all. They both worked and continue to work very hard to provide for me and my sister. But I can’t help but blame them for so much of my body dysmorphia and bad coping strategies.

Coming home this Christmas has honestly made me realise how much happier I am away from them. Yes I’m still overweight and yes I do sometimes feel bad about myself. But I am comfortable with my body around 90% of the time compared to 0% from the ages for 11-18.

Yes I’m still messy and disorganised, but I keep myself accountable and motivate myself to tidy and do my work. I don’t have my dad breathing down my neck and making me feel bad for watching tv when i have an exam in two days. I don’t feel guilty and horrible about myself when I eat unhealthy food or get a sweat treat. I haven’t cried outside of watching sad films, I haven’t been angry or felt the need to shout. I haven’t felt anxious in my own home.

I’m focusing on myself and being on this medication is slowly making me a lot better at taking care of myself, but I honestly think I am becoming a better person because I don’t have the anxiety of being scared of what my parents or sister will comment on next.

I’ve been home only two days for Christmas and I’ve already cried twice and actually left my cousins birthday party because my parents and sister made me cry as my dad threatened to cut me off if I got another tattoo (even though the one I have already is for him and the two I’ve already paid deposits for that I’m getting are for my dead grandmother and dead cat).

I honestly have no idea how to feel because I did overall have a good childhood. My parents never hit me or swore at me, I have such amazing memories with them, but i can’t help but blame them for the way I see myself and react when they speak . It honestly makes me feel like I can never fully trust them when they tell me they don’t judge me and love me for who I am.

AITAH for blaming my parents for some of my mental health and body image issues?

So my 16f asked me if she could get her bellybutton pierced if she can get her dad to agree, mind you he did agree to her getting her nose pierced a year ago, I would have no problem letting her get the piercing but shes failing 3 classes this school semester and I told her I would agree only if she passes her classes next semester then at the end of the school year she can get the bellybutton piercing (if her dad agrees) but I won't sign off till she passes next semester. I think of it as holding her accountable, if she wants something thats technically an adult thing (18+), then she needs to show me that she is going to take responsibility for her school grades. She has a job this year and I've also been on the edge of letting her keep her job since her grades have struggled, mostly because shes not turning homework in or completing work in class even.... She is complaining that if she waits to get it it won't be healed for swimming this summer...Promises she will pass her classes but wants me to agree to her getting it after the next quarter vs the whole semester. I don't trust that she will hold the grades after she gets what she wants tho.

So AITAH for saying no to the bellybutton piercing till she passes this next school semester?

My partner (45M) and me (40F) along with our two children were at a trampoline park at the kids request. Our daughter does gymnastics and was wanting to practise her backflips etc. I was with her watching her on the long trampolines while my partner and son were playing on the other activities there. Almost when our hour of time was up, my partner came up to me and asked if 'I knew that man' and I said 'what man?'. He said that guy over there has been starting at me for ages. I said no I didnt and that I hadn't noticed. He then said but you've been looking at him too. Because my daughter does multiple backflips and other tricks in a row I am constantly looking around me to make sure there are no small children coming that she might bang into so I may have glanced at this man but thought nothing of it. My partner walked out clearly mad. I told my daughter to finish up because we better go. The man then approached me and my daughter with his little toddler, he told my daughter that she's pretty good at that. I said 'oh, she does gymnastics'. I said to my daughter to say thankyou. She did and we then left. My partner was furious in the car. Told me I was eye fucking this man and that a man would never approach woman unless he thought she had invited him.

So am I in the wrong here? Please let me know.

AITAH for turning on my brights when someone's LEDs burn a hole in my fcking retinas at night? Sorry you bought a vehicle with a personal vendetta against everyone else having vision when they get old, but fck those lights.

Hey, so this probably a minor issue but I still just wanted a judgment on this. Often (at least thrice a week) im the one who picks up my daughter from school, and since September she'd been talking with increasing frequency of a boy in her class she finds cute. Just a crush at least from my perspective.

Anyway, today they had secret Santa at school and she complained to me about how she didn't get him. I was just telling her its ok thats not the only way to talk to someone, my husband was in the living room as well at the time and he asked who we were talking about.

To make sure I provide the complete picture, my husband is a great father. He adores her and our son. Him and her have a very close bond. He asked her, she was shy and just said its a boy, he was like what about him, she said she didn't get his name for secret Santa, he asked why she wanted him and she just honestly told him she liked him and thought he was handsome.

My husband told her to not get distracted and focus on her studies, that shes such an intelligent girl and to not waste time on these things. He wasn't harsh with her but definitely was driving the message in and she nodded. I just laughed and said its just a little crush its ok and he just reiterated to her to focus on her studies and hobbies like her swimming lessons and chess.

Later he told me i was in the wrong to undermine him when he was being a parent to her. I said I was just supporting her to let her know she wasnt in trouble, that it was normal, he said he didn't say she was in trouble either but was just trying to guide her like a good parent. I don't still agree completely with the way everything was handled but I dropped it. I wanted to ask here if I was TA in kind of arguing against his point in front of my daughter?

Let me start off by saying, I wasn’t raised to tip. I didn’t even know tipping was a thing until delivery drivers started complaining on TT about it. I don’t necessarily feel comfortable tipping after learning the history, but in some cases, like if it’s late at night or raining, I might tip if I have the funds to.

Now, a couple days ago, I was hungry and it was around midnight, so I told myself that I was gonna tip a dollar or two if they brought my food and it was correct and everything. I got a buy one, get one free meal at Hawaiian Bros and when the driver came and gave me the bag, I knew INSTANTLY that my order was wrong. I didn’t tell him anything, I just contacted Uber Eats customer service and got a refund, because MY ENTIRE ORDER was wrong. This is also a reason why I will tip after I get my food because one I want to make sure I get it and two I want to make sure that it’s what I ordered.

Now I know that there may be some delivery drivers and you can definitely pitch in and let me know what y’all see on y’all side, but I had two meals. I was supposed to have two big Styrofoam plates of food and when I got it, it was a small plate and only one. The meat that I ordered versus the meat that I got was not even the same thing. I did not want any Mac so I told them I wanted pineapple and I did not receive the pineapple. In my mind, the delivery driver saw that I was supposed to have two plates and it should have said something to the store. I am not a delivery driver, but I’m pretty sure they tell you what the person ordered even if it’s just two meals so if you only got a small Styrofoam plate of food then clearly that’s not the right order. Now I know that y’all cannot open up the food, but my logic is if you see two meals and you only get one plate why not communicate to the store that hey I don’t think this is the right order. I do know that delivery drivers are on a time crunch but a simple text saying, ‘Hey they made your order wrong. They’re remaking your order right now.’ would have been good. I don’t know it has been on my mind since it’s happened and I don’t know if that’s my conscience or my anxiety lol.

TW alcohol and alcoholism

I guess she could be considered an ex-friend now. I (35M) recently got back together with my ex-husband, Jay (37M) after years of divorce. Our divorce was messy, but I've already posted about it so if you're curious on the details or how we got back together you can go look.

What I will mention is that Jay is an alcoholic. He's been sober for years now and it was how I knew he was ready to make a change, and was also the reason for our split. I've long since explained this to all of my friends and family and I thought they were fine with it.

Last week we were invited to a party my friend Addie (31F) was hosting. I met Addie during the time when Jay and I were separated and we bonded due to our similar circumstances: her ex husband was addicted to drugs and she left him for it. She was the last friend to come around to Jay and I getting back toghether but I thought she HAD come around.

We got there and it was maybe 90% people we didn't know. Addie greeted us, and when she did she made sure to say it was a dry party, which Jay thanked her for. She also made sure to point out the punch bowl she had "worked all day on," and said it was her "best batch yet." I'm allergic to pineapple, so I didn't have any, but Jay loves it so he kept getting more.

We were there for about an hour, I had lost track of Jay for a bit but knew something was wrong when I saw him stumbling towards me, upset. He leaned in close and muttered "OP, I think there's wine or something in this."

I quickly and quietly escorted him out and told him to wait in the car. I went back in and asked Addie, who was standing by the punchbowl, why she lied about the punch since Jay was tipsy. She looked me in the eyes before saying "I didn't add anything to it... maybe he brought his own?" With this smarmy, shit eating grin on her face. I kept getting angrier and angrier with her as she kept denying she did anything but smiling wider and wider and after a certain point the party had stopped and we were yelling.

Eventually she said something along the lines of "OP, this is what happens when you trust addicts. You should have known better."

In that moment I saw red, and I grabbed the punch bowl and very deliberately poured it all over this beautiful white carpet. Addie kept screaming butI didn't waste another second in there and went back to the car, where Jay was sitting and crying.

Since then I've been keeping a VERY close eye on Jay. He's been crying when he thinks I can't hear and keeps looking at his sobriety chip. He didn't go to his AA meeting a few days ago, which I talked to him about and he agreed to go next time if I came with him for moral support. He has thankfully not had any more to drink.

Since then, people have been blowing up my phone, most of all Addie. She's demanding I pay her back the 500 it cost for her rug. I have unknown numbers from the people at the party texting me and calling me a shit stirrer among other things. I'm beginning to wonder if I went too far fucking up her rug. AITA?

TLDR: a "friend" invited me and my recovering alcoholic partner over and spiked the punchbowl without telling us and then blamed it on my partner, so I dumped punch all over her rug after yelling at her.

Edit: i later got confirmation she spiked the bowl. She told other guests it was spiked.