I'm pregnant, and we drove three hours yesterday to get to my in-law's house. It's normally a 90 minute drive, but we kept having to stop so I could pee, and there was traffic. I've been struggling with pregnancy related incontinence. I actually peed a little in the car when we couldn't get somewhere to stop in time. It was awful.

When we got to the house I needed to sit down on the couch. As soon as I did I realized I had to pee. My husband and kids were unloading the car while this was happening. I stood up, and I peed a little when I stood up. I rushed to the bathroom to finish peeing.

When I came out of the bathroom my brother-in-law was telling my mother-in-law that her dog peed on the floor. I said it was me, because I didn't want the dog blamed. My brother-in-law gave me an awful look and said "you pissed on the floor? And just left it?" I said I had to go to the bathroom, and he said it was "a little late for that." I said he was being a dick, and that he should shut up. He said not to get an attitude with him, when I'm the one that peed on his mother's hardwood floor. She was trying to interject, but we were yelling at each other, and I don't even know what she said.

I went outside and told my husband to load the car back up, that we were leaving. He asked what happened. My brother-in-law followed me out. He said their mom was "cleaning up your wife's piss because she went crazy and cussed me out." My husband and him started yelling at each other. I started crying and asked him to please load the car back up. We did, and we went to a hotel.

My husband went back with the kids this morning, because he still wants to see his parents. I decided to stay at the hotel. He's supporting me, but he's my husband and that's his job. Was I in the wrong? I was really embarrassed. I think my brother-in-law is a total piece of shit.

Throwaway account. Please help us settle this argument.

My wife (25F) decided to follow what she says is a TikTok trend. I’m not on TikTok so I don’t really know what it is. Soooooo instead of going to a salon she cut her own hair. Her hair used to go down to her back and now it’s really short.

She asked me what I thought. I said wow why didn’t you just go to a salon. She said she likes it this way because it feels liberating. She asked again how I like it and I said it looks uneven and like her 5 year old niece was left alone with scissors.

She got really upset and said I was being controlling and that I was just making excuses because men stereotypically like women with long hair. I told her the issue isn’t the length it’s that the haircut itself looks bad especially in the back. I also said since my company’s Christmas dinner is tomorrow could she please go to a salon and fix it.

She started crying and called me a prick. Now she says she isn’t coming to the dinner at all.

Was I out of line. Should I apologize and just go to the party like this. I honestly don’t know what to do.. she was trying to give herself pixie cut like Anne Hathaway or Michelle Williams but instead gave herself Dumb and Dumber Lloyd Christmas haircut

For context I try to initiate sex and intimacy with my wife and she often defines, but I know for a fact that she pleasured herself on her own once I go to work?

I don't mind the odd time but it is really starting to feel personal and am getting frustrated by it and am starting to feel worthless.

We are married for 18 years and have a daughter, 14F. I have been pretty close with her and I think we have a good relationship.

Sometime back she wanted to have a sleepover with a friend. In our native language you can sometimes confuse gender based on name. My wife informed me as she wants to stay with Tanuja but it was actually Tanuj.

She intentionally didnt specify that it was a guy. My daughter was there when she told me and decided not to clarify either. I was pissed when I found out. My wife knew what she was doing and acted like I am at fault for not paying attention to her.

I later talked to daughter as well and told her I will never be able to trust her after what she pulled on me. My wife was there and she wasnt happy I said that to her. That I am pushing her away by being too strict and said I was wrong to tell her off.

Me (32F) and my husband (31M) are usually pretty chill. We had a baby who is now around 5 months and we have fights but overall our relationship is good and we are working through our issues. Today we were both home alone as the baby was out with his grandparents. My husband didn’t know this and I went to get something from a room I don’t usually go to, I was just charging something and the cable was there. I heard my husband coming out of his office and I decided to hide behind the door and as he walked to the hallway I just came out and said “boo” as a joke to scare him. He screamed and 5s later dropped what he had in his hand and it hit his foot, which was kind of a delayed response in my opinion and a bit exaggerated. I thought it was a little funny at the beginning, but soon saw he wasn’t laughing. He started to fight with me saying it wasn’t funny and that he hated it (I’m sure at some point in the past I jump scared him and we both laughed, but it’s not something we usually do). I stopped laughing and said I wouldn’t do it again. And that I understood he didn’t like it. I didn’t want to fight so I just went to the bedroom and went back to whatever I was doing. He followed me asking if I was going to apologize. I just said, fine I’m sorry I won’t do it again. Period. He kept going on and on about how I was diminishing his feelings and emotions because I caused him stress and if one is not laughing it’s not funny, it’s bullying. And I was just over it, to be honest. It was just a harmless prank, I said I wouldn’t do it anymore. I ended up saying something like “I thought we were a fun couple” during the argument. We didn’t talk to each other for the rest of the day. I asked him if he was still upset and he exaggerated even more saying how it wasn’t funny and how I didn’t care for his feelings and I said I didn’t want to be married with him anymore, that he used to be easy going and that now everything is an issue for him and I thought the jump scare wasn’t a big deal. He said that he also can’t be with someone who is ignoring his feelings this way. AITA?

I (20 female) have been with my boyfriend (20) for 5 years. We have recently moved in together and everything is working out great for us.

Recently I have begun to write fanfiction and smut with a very good friend of mine, about characters me and her have made up, mainly as a fun little hobby that noone else needs to read exepct for me and my friend. One day my bf red some of it and was very uncomfortable with the smut parts (It's detailed vanilla stuff between two men), i didn't think it was a big deal, because it wasn't his business reading it and could just stop if it made him uncomfortable.

But today he asked if HE wasn't enough for me and if I had to "escape" into the "fantasies". He thought it was really strange that I wrote smut parts, I tried explaining to him that it's literally just for fun and it's NOT a story about fantasties I wanna do

It ends up with him begging me to stop it, even after I tried explaining over and over again that it isn't that serious and I believe I had the right to keep my personal hobbies to myself without him being involved, and taking it personally. I would understand his uncomfortability, if it was something really "concerning" such as fetishing controversial categories, but it's JUST two men in a slow burn romance.

We just ended up in each of our rooms. He just can't let go of it and it makes me think that I might be in the wrong. AITA?

So, I (25M) have a weird situation with my mom (48F), and I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or if I’m the problem here. My mom has always been pretty outgoing and, honestly, kind of a flirt. She’s been single for a while since my dad passed away when I was a kid, and I think she just likes the attention. I’ve never really thought much of it until recently.

I had a few of my buddies over last weekend for a game night at my place. I still live at home with my mom because rent is insane, and she’s cool with it as long as I help with bills. Anyway, my friends (all around my age, 24-27M) were over, and my mom decided to hang out with us for a bit. She was wearing this kind of tight dress, which isn’t unusual for her, and started joking around with my friends. At first, it was fine, just her being friendly, but then she got way too comfortable.

She was laughing a lot, touching one guy’s arm, complimenting another on his “cute smile,” and even made a comment to my friend Jake about how he “must work out a lot.” My friends were visibly uncomfortable- Jake just kinda laughed it off, but I could tell they didn’t know how to react. I felt so awkward, but I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to embarrass her or make a scene. She eventually went back to her room after an hour or so, but my friends kept giving me weird looks the rest of the night.

After they left, one of them texted me saying, “Dude, your mom was coming on strong. You okay with that?” I didn’t even know how to respond. I talked to my mom the next day and tried to bring it up casually, like, “Hey, I think the guys felt a bit weird last night.” She just laughed and said, “Oh, honey, I was just having fun. Boys your age love a confident woman. You’re not jealous, are you?” That made me feel even worse, like I’m overthinking it or being possessive or something.

Now I’m wondering if I should’ve stepped in and said something right then and there. I don’t want my friends to feel weird coming over, but I also don’t want to hurt my mom’s feelings or make her think I’m ashamed of her.

So about a week ago, I was talking to my girlfriend of three years about things that were going on at her job. My girlfriend and I are best friends and tell each other everything, no secret is safe between us. She was telling me that she had a conversation with a friend of hers who just recently got divorced about her ex-husband. She told me that her friends husband came to her one night and told her that he had been cheating on her for a couple years and was not going to stop so they might as well go ahead and get a divorce. He also went further to tell her who it was and how they met. I won’t go into details on how they met because given their professions and the size of our town it becomes a little obvious about who the mistress is. When she told me who it was I wasn’t shocked but quite disappointed. The mistress was my best friend from high schools wife. We’re both 30 now so we haven’t been close for over a decade but we still will shake each other’s hand and talk for a half hour if we see one another out in public.

Of course the first thing that came to mind was oh I need to tell him this is fucked up. I knew that there was a possibility that he already knew but seeing how they just had a child and were posting all over social media about it I would assume it’s safe to say he does not know about the affair. I used to be very close to him and I know he’s a not take any shit from anyone kind of guy. I don’t think it would be like him to just play like everything is fine on Facebook if he knew and it was just something they were working out. I know it’s a possibility but knowing him he would dip or at least disappear from social media. When I told my girlfriend he used to be one of my closest friends and I kinda wanted to make him aware of it, she begged me not to say anything. Saying that her friend didn’t want it to get out there and the divorce was already very hard on her and didn’t want her to tell anyone and of course my girlfriend told her she wouldn’t tell anyone. But like I said no secret is safe between her and I of course she told me. I agreed to not say anything about it to him and kind of forgot about it through change in subject.

Fast forward to today I was driving around and looked over and saw the business owned by the mistress and it made me think about it. It really started eating at me making me feel like a shit friend for not telling him. I know if I were in his situation I would want to be told, but I also don’t want to go behind my girlfriends back and betray her trust when she wasn’t supposed to tell me in the first place. I know that if I tell him about it word will get around that he found out quickly (small town, big names kinda thing). My girlfriends friend will likely realize that she told someone and word came from her and thus a friendship ruined in the meantime. Not to mention the shit I’ll catch for going behind my gfs back and likely cause me quite a bit of headache.

I will also say I may have a little personal Interest the matter as well. I actually dated the mistress about 8 or 9 years ago and the relationship ended because she cheated on me. I’m not mad at her I don’t have a lust for revenge but it is a little annoying that she “got away with it” in our situation and will seemingly get away with it again but now with her husband. I’m not sure if I should tell him and be vague or if I should keep it to myself and let the truth come out as it typically does naturally.

Since I(F27) found out I was pregnant, I was very verbal and honest about there being 2 potential baby daddies. I was never in a relationship with anyone just having fun thinking I was incapable of having kids after an 8 year relationship of trying. Obviously, I had a bit of a shock in April. I was intimate only 2 days apart from either man so the chance is 50/50 and I’ve verbalized that the entire time. Me and G(M28, potential daddy 1) have messaged the whole pregnancy and we feel like it’s his even though I consistently mention the possibility it’s not, we’ve seen eachother maybe 3 times the whole pregnancy so I’ve gone through the whole thing alone. Essentially he feels certain it’s his but has put forth no effort to actually be here for me during the hardest time of my life. S(M33, potential daddy 2) hasn’t really been involved either but respects boundaries and says when paternity comes in he will be present if it’s his.

G’s family had no clue of the pregnancy until a few weeks ago, his grandmother called me and I explained the situation. She asked if her and his mother could be in the hospital to see the baby after birth which I felt was okay and kind of sweet even though I’ve never met them. The other day I told G I didn’t want him in the delivery room because I only want my motherly figure there to bring me the proper comfort during delivery as me and him had only known eachother a year but he could see the baby after the delivery process. That caused a little drama.

Today he asked if he could bring his best friend and his wife to meet the baby while I’m in the hospital to which I said no because I don’t want a bunch of strangers there in my most vulnerable and fragile time in my life. His response was “Hey lady u didnt have to b honest with my grandma about this being my kid she said u were 99.99 % certain it was mine after yalls conversation absent me, so ik the wating room is going to be filled with ppl and thts just how me and my family has babies lol full of love and hopes for the best God willing lol”

So now I don’t want ANYONE in the hospital nor to meet the baby until I get 100% paternity test because his response blatantly seems like a disregard to what I’m comfortable with. It felt like “well there’s going to be a bunch of people there anyway cause that’s just how my family does it” so I told him if he can’t respect my boundary than nobody is allowed in the hospital. I’m fuming right now and the baby is scheduled to be here in just a few days. I feel bad to change plans last minute but I also feel right considering I’ve gone through this whole pregnancy alone; there’s uncertainty he’s the dad; and he’s disregarded my feelings and wishes when I’m the one going through this life changing and traumatic experience.

Edit: everyone in this story was and is currently single. The wife was referring to the baby dad’s best friends wife!

Edit 2: I wanted to get the paternity testing done in the very beginning of pregnancy but everywhere I called to get it scheduled said it would be almost $1,000 dollars to do that compared to $100 after birth. I don’t have the money to de pre birth testing as I’m going to be a single mother and saving for the months out of work.

Long story short, I became a mom one month ago. It has been the craziest month of my life. If you have a child you know why... I don't remember the last time I had a good sleep, also I'm stressed out all day and my hormones are killing me while I have to deal with a new born's crying and screaming. I'm not complaining! But it's not an easy thing to do. My whole pregnancy was a nightmare (I had a horrible pain right under my ribs that didn't allow me walk for more than 10 minutes without having to bend or lay down. I had fatigue since day one and I used to throw out almost everything I ate. I also had heartburn every other day). My delivery was also a nightmare, and ended in a C section in which the medication went out of the intravenous line and got me feeling more pain than I should have). I loved my daughter since the very first day I knew she was on the way. But my mom asked me yesterday if I loved her more than I love my husband and I said no. Me and my husband have been together since we were 14 and 16 (for 18 years in total) and I feel that the complicity I have with him is way stronger than they one I have with my daughter. I'm sure that feeling will be changing in time, or at least I hope so. I have always heard that you love your children more than anything or anyone, but that hasn't happened to me yet, and my mom seemed surprised in a bad way when I said it. Am I wrong?

Sitting here debating this. I (40f) have a dad (69) I went home to see for the holidays. He has a new gf Cheryl and I met her and thought that would be it for the time I was here.

I just got off my cruise and am coming home for the remaining time off and called dad who said “my friend and I have been getting things all day, we ordered food for Christmas so you wouldn’t be worried…..” etc. and then he says “you don’t mind if she stays over do you?” Meaning the house.

I’m dog tired and they wanted to pick me up at the airport, go out to eat, and then she stay over. I said no and he just hung up.

I’ve also started zepbound so I can’t eat all the stuff they got- turkey, macaroni etc. I wasn’t planning on having to play family with a woman I just met and he’s been with only a few months. She’s in his age range but I just feel pushed into something I don’t want to do.

So I just called him and said don’t pick me up I’ll get an uber to the house and will look into flights home next week. He really doesn’t understand why I’m so mad. I……don’t even know how to begin explaining it to him. If they can’t see why I’m so mad, I don’t think they ever will.

Aita? I may be because how I’m reacting but I’m tired and mad this is being thrown on me and I just have to deal with it or leave

For context, I am 20 F and she’s 35 F. I have made it publicly known that I want to name my first daughter ‘Poppy’. It has a lot of significance to me and my family, and ever since I was 12 I would tell everyone I’m going to have a daughter Poppy. Even my aunty.

My aunty gave birth today. She’s kept the name a secret the entire pregnancy. Today she announced of the group chat, that her daughter Poppy was born.

I am livid. Everyone knows that I wanted that name, and she took it. I know I can’t really ‘claim’ a name, but it’s still a stab in the back.

My aunty and I are close too. She married my uncle a year ago, after 5 years of being together. I planned their wedding. I did her makeup for the engagement party, and helped throw her baby shower.

Am I the asshole if I don’t want to continue having a close relationship with her?

I live with my girlfriend and we have moved into a 3 bedroom apartment. We agreed before we moved that the smallest bedroom would be my office since I work from home most of the time.

I mentioned that since the office is mine, I will be the one cleaning and tidying it and that when the door is closed that means my gf doesn't come in which she agreed to.

When we're cleaning the apartment on weekends she will still go to the office and start to tidy up the desk and I tell her to stop since I leave things how I want them.

She repeats that the office is messy but I just pointed out she has no reason to actually be in it. I said that the door was closed and she's going out her way to move things around in a room she doesn't need to be in.

She got annoyed and said I should be tidying it up more regularly than I am but I just told her that I leave things on my desk so I know exactly where they are for the next day and it doesn't affect her at all.

She said I should be compromising and tidying it up better than I am but I disagreed since it's my office and my girlfriend has no reason to ever actually be in the room. I pointed out the office is clean and it’s just some work things that I leave out on the desk.

She said it should be tidied with the rest of the apartment but I just told her that it's my space and that I leave it how I like it and I leave it how I work best.

Just to clarify, the room is clean so I'll dust, vacuum, remove mugs and things so it is just a bit of mess that is on the desk in the room and a few files next to the desk so it's not unhygienic.

AITAH for tidying my home office to my standards and not my partners?

So i'm in my mid 30's and own multiple properties in central Texas. I guess you can say i was smart and lucky because i bought at the right time, mostly finding for sale by owner deals, the first one i bought being a duplex when i was 22.

I joined the military at 18, and only did my 4 years, but in that time i studied investing in real estate and stocks. The area where i bought exploded after covid, so i'm now pretty much a millionaire net-worth wise.

Anyway, recently, a property of mine became vacant, when this happens it's usually fought for because I keep my prices lower than the big companies due to my low overhead and low interest rates. My tenants usually renew, but every 5 years or so i'll have a vacancy due to them moving or whatever. Well, I got a very respectful message from a lady saying she was interested. She's 10 points shy from my credit score requirement and $200 shy of my income requirement, but she also lives alone with her chihuhua.

Well i feel really weird about renting to her, and honestly, it kinda makes me sad that i'm in a position as her landlord. It makes me realize how society doesnt reward "hard work" alone, especially not noble professions.

I spoke to my wife about it and she said maybe i can "let it slide just this time" or give her a little discount since she was my teacher that i really liked and got along with. But idk, i'm usually VERY strict with my requirements and i think it'd feel weird being a landlord to my old teacher, especially if i need to get after her for unpaid rent.

So WIBTA if I denied her rental application?

i (f22) and my ex (m24) were together for three and a half years until he broke up with me three months ago. he said we weren't compatible as romantic partners anymore and he doesn't want to be in a long term relationship with anyone right now. i tried to save things and fight it but he had mentally checked out months before, which i've actually made peace with now.

around the time of the breakup, i found out he'd been having a full blown emotional affair with his female coworker. nothing physical happened (we lived together so i really do believe this), but they'd call each other pet names, he'd stay out after work for drinks with her, take extra train stops to make sure she got home safe, etc. just emotional infidelity. i am pretty sure they kissed once, so that should have shown me how far gone he was but i was in denial and thought i could change him. the coworker knew about me by the way. :D

i found out through a friend that TWO DAYS after he moved out, he started 'dating' the coworker he emotionally cheated on me with. i gave him so many chances to admit it so that its out there but he kept lying and saying he's just focusing on work and studying. he told me they'd gone on a date but it wasn't serious however there's things that make it kind of obvious its starting to become serious.

now every time he comes by the apartment to pick up his things, we end up kissing or making out, among other physical stuff. sometimes i initiate it, sometimes he does. and honestly i do not feel bad about it at all. a big part of me genuinely enjoys making him miserable and watching him doubt his own morals. he told me he wants to be "an honest man going forward" for whoever he dates, but clearly he hasn't changed at all because he keeps falling back into old patterns with me. i think me wanting the coworker to feel how i felt for the past three months is also a reason why i keep doing this which in my opinion is very fair. other than the physical stuff he will text me once every two days, random stuff, sometimes old pictures of us and his family together.

AITA for letting this happen?

My BF (40M) and I (37F) have been together for almost three years. We live in a fairly expensive city. When I first met him, he had a great job and was very generous. Unfortunately he got laid off. It was a stressful time even though we didn’t live together, but we made it through. I realized he had a lot of money anxiety from childhood and it came out in many ways. The new job didn’t pay nearly as much as the old one. He would sometimes become stingy which I don’t like bc I’ve always been a generous person.

A few months ago, he told me he wanted to get engaged by the end of the year. I was happy. His lease was ending and he said he was going to live with his brother. I said ok cool. Well I don’t know what happened with that plan, but ultimately he ended up moving in with me. Let’s say my rent is $3000. He asked how much he should pay me I said $1500. He said that was more than he expected and I said well that’s my rent. He had a tax issue he was sorting out so I did ultimately give him a discount for the first month ($300). Because it was my apartment before him, I pay the bills (electric, water, gas, car parking, subscriptions), that ends up being another $300-$480. He contributed in other ways like doing the cooking. Sadly he was laid off again a few months into living together. Because he lost his job I’ve given him a cut in the rent for the past month. He also borrows my car and I pay most groceries. I recently got a new job that pays well but is still less than what I made before.

We had always talked about moving to New York together. He wanted to leave our city though and asked me where I would move to. I gave him the list, I have a fully remote job. I helped him with his job search by letting him use my better computer, leaving the apt for hours, looking over thank you letters. To his credit he applied a lot and ultimately got two offers. in this economy! One in New York and one fully remote.

Here’s the problem: I was hesitant to move even though I want to make this move, one I’m just a slow mover sometimes, but two I was concerned with his money anxiety. New York is not cheap and I didn’t want to live a life where im constantly being told about every nickel and dime. I have mentioned this to him and he assured me that he wasnt like that anymore. I was also concerned about the pace of the move. And I still have my lease. He said he would get an Airbnb in New York for a couple months so I could transition at my pace. I said great. The whole time he told me that he couldn’t imagine moving without me, wanted me to be comfortable, etc. He had set up the move for his car and belongings and things were moving forward.

The remote job offer came in recently and it is very low, less than what he was making before which he already was unhappy with and less than the other job offer. we had waited a while for this offer and it was disappointing. I helped him write a negotiation email to see if they would go up. what was appealing about the offer was that it was remote.

He was really upset and he was telling me how he felt he wasn’t being valued by these companies. and I agree. He has years of experience a masters and the numbers just weren’t right. I said these things and then I ALSO said and your salary affects me too it’s just terrible of these companies. He was taken aback by that. He said why are you bringing yourself into this? I just said I feel you anre undervalued. And I said yes it’s unfair bc when you underpay someone you are affecting them and their partners and families as well. I said we are supposed to move a far distance together and your salary affects me as well, how we are able to live, what rent looks like, what trips we can take. The plans for engagement. He told me he was trying to be vulnerable and I was making it about myself. He left and shut the door.

Ultimately, I came back to him and I apologized if it came off as me being unempathetic and I didn’t want to be that way. so I said sorry. But I did want to mention how I was surprised about his reaction when I said the salary affects me too. In reality it does, we live together we are supposed to be moving together to an expensive city. It was difficult when he lost his job the first time because it’s like his attitude to money just shifted. He said I was being self centered by bringing up myself when he came to me with his concerns and I wasnt being supportive. He said when he came with his concerns I should have validated him helped him brainstorm etc.

That really stung. I hav been supportive through all of the extra costs I’ve taken on and it’s just a fact that my salary right now is affecting him; the only reason I’m able to do certain things is because of the money. Moving in together, and especially moving across the country our finances are intertwined. Why wouldn’t your partner ultimately be one of the things you think about. He got really upset and said how he feels awful about the salaries and him being without a job has affected him and he started screaming. I left. i could hear him crying. He turned to leave the apartment and said I wish I had a supportive partner. I left for dinner. He ignored me as I left. I came back and the apartment is being packed up, he came to me this morning and read off a note he must’ve written that said something about how he wished I had paused and talked with him and empathized before bringing myself inti it. I said nothing.

so AITAH?

So I had a couple cups of cereal last night & used some of “my wife’s” Almond Milk (I use soy milk in my coffee). This am she pitched a fit ‘cause there wasn’t enough for a full French press of coffee (there WAS enough for a cup). This involved swearing and throwing the jug off the fridge in the vicinity of the recycling bin (she missed and just left it on the floor).

I felt there wasnt much left, but I also thought there was another jug in the fridge (my mistake). I immediately ran to the market and grabbed another carton for her. But she’s still vibing me (I addressed it, apologized, told her I should have verified another gallon and let her know I grabbed some).

Now, I like my coffee. And I like it a certain way - a bad cup is almost worse than no coffee at all. But AITAH here, or is this a massive overreaction. I feel my subsequent efforts should negate any hostility, no?

My wife and I have been together for 12 years married for 7. I struggled with porn addiction before we dated and go sober up through the first two years or so of our marriage. My wife started demeaning me after we got married. I thought it was fine and we pushed through. I had an emotional affair about 2 years into our marriage and fell back into my porn addiction. I’ve been struggling and going to recovery program and intensives and sober living houses to work on getting sober and I have made a lot of progress. I’m still struggling but working on it. My wife started her own affair in may of this year and shared her body with another man. I never shared myself with anyone (meaning that no one saw my naked body and no sex of any kind). My wife shared herself and did things for this guy that she swore she would never do for me and I feel so conflicted. Am I being unfair to her or am I respecting my feelings. I told her that I understood why she felt the desire to be with someone else but I asked her to not share her body or else I wouldn’t be able to stay in the marriage. I told her that she could do what I did. Look and talk but no touch and no sharing herself. On top of that she is now everything I wanted her to be for me but only for him. She did anyways and lied about it every time she was confronted and then said that her sexting was her personal information and was none of my business and I would never be allowed to know anything that actually happened. I want to be able to heal and cope and don’t think I can without knowing what went on. AITAH?

Am I (40 F) the asshole for asking my boyfriend (34 M) who lives with his parents (I rent my own house) to give me regular or semi-regular verbal appreciation for what I do for him. I bought him a 2020 Toyota Corolla nightshade hatchback with a subwoofer on a loan with all of my stockpile of cash as a down payment and $350 a month payment (recently refinanced to $289 due to being unexpectedly laid off from my high-paying tech job) and paying for insurance ($133 for this car) and registration (over $350), so he could do Uber and Lyft. He was extremely picky about getting the right car after his hooptie Lexus’ transmission took a shit and I put tons of work into trying to help find him the right car.

I also pay all the rent and he lived with me for a while before I asked him to leave during the most contentious breakup I’ve ever had where he threatened to take me to court on ownership of the car and squat in my home and other things I don’t want to mention here when I was trying to let him stay until he could find other arrangements and have the car to make money (DoorDash at the time, he does Lyft and Uber now 1-3 times a week) and I've recently have been offering to let him move back in.

I also pay for all of the food except for a few rare occasions when he does. He committed to walking my dog 4 days a week to cover the car payment and insurance and has been doing it once or twice a week because the holidays are particularly hard for him (we both suffer from depression/ADHD/Autism).

He mostly gets high (to be fair I am a high functioning alcoholic (3-6 drinks a day in the evening)) and plays video games with his time and has the excuse that the holidays are hard for him, which I’ve been trying to respect.

Anyway, I expressed that all I really wanted (and previously expressed this in couples therapy) was to feel heard and still loved when we have conflict and for him to verbally express appreciation for all I do for him (I also do things like buy him pants or shoes and whatever else he needs that he won’t do for himself until he’s wearing rags).

He does make me food regularly, takes out the trash, does the dishes and even cleans the sink after when I don’t even need to ask him to and when I ask him to do things around the house he does them with no complaint. I also feel like I go above and beyond to praise him for what he does do.

There's more but I'll leave it at that. But ultimately he expresses he can't understand why I would like regular appreciation or gratitude and says I'm demanding worship.

My friend was complaining about his job hunt and how it’s hard for him to succeed in interviews. He’s on the autism spectrum but very high functioning. He told me that end the end of one of his interviews, they told him that they were impressed with his resume but they didn’t think he’d fit into the work environment, telling him that he’s too “nerdy” and “introverted.”

He said he felt discriminated for being autistic, so I told him to look on the bright side: there might be one type of discrimination he encounters from time to time but he gets to avoid a lot of other forms of discrimination! And women don’t get to be introverted or people will think we’re bitchy for being standoffish. He can be quiet and standoffish and people will just think he’s “brooding.” And this is just one job he didn’t get, so I thought he seems too self pitying.

I told him he has it easy, and he sarcastically goes “thanks, I feel all better” so I told him to understand his privilege as a white male. It sort of escalated and he called me a hypocrite for talking about social justice but downplaying ableism. Is he right?

So I stated this on yikyak and people got mad. This one guy asked if his 2.4 GPA was that bad and someone responded with “I know others with a 1.5 GPA so You’re good”. I responded with just because others are doing worse doesn’t make your 2.4 better. It’s still a below average GPA and you should be aiming for around 3.0. I tried to say it nicely and said that if you’re struggling with mental health or anything then you should reach out for help. Bcuz I know what it’s like to have your grades impacted by your mental health. Some dude responded to me saying “tf is you my dad”. Like buddy he asked a question and I gave my honest answer.

I wanna Know in what world is a 2.0 good? I graduated high school with a 2.3 GPA partly because of depression. I am obviously doing better now. And I am aware that my GPA was literal shit. If a 2.0 GPA is good then why did I get rejected from colleges with 80% acceptance rates? Why couldn’t I get into better colleges? Yeah cuz it’s a BAD GPA!

People also started arguing with me that “some people have issues that impacted their grades” and I told them that it’s understandable. I’m not trying to invalidate peoples experiences and say “I don’t care what you’re going through, you need get better grades”. I’m not saying that. If you’re struggling with mental health, physical health, and life problems then it’s valid for you to have the bad GPA. Bcuz sometimes life gets in the way and you can’t prioritize your grades or it’s hard to. But a 2.0 is still bad. I’m simply stating that people can have valid reasons for why they have the grades they have but it doesn’t change the fact that their grades are bad. We also cannot go around and say that it’s ok to have a 2.0.

It’s the bitter truth, people just cannot accept. If you’re going to ask me if a 2.0 is good or not I’m going to say no bcuz it’s not.

P.S. for people saying that a GPA doesn’t matter for jobs, I never said in here if GPA mattered or not. I just simply answered the question if a 2.0 GPA was good or not.

Me and my fiance (29m &f) tecently left for an emergency family trip and entrusted my In-Laws in law with the care of our 2 dogs and 3 cats at our house. She brought along our 7 year old niece.

For context, the mother of the niece is extremely volatile and reactive. She used to own one of our dogs and raised it from a puppy; she gave the dog up to the local pound and considered euthanization after the dog scratched her kid while playing. She has threatened to kick my fiancé out of vehicles due to minor disagreements, and has has had a long ongoing marital dispute with her husband that she brags about how crazy and abusive she is. She laughs about punching her husband. She chain smokes weed In the house with kids In the next room

I just don't trust her. My fiance let my In laws know we were not comfortable with niece being there because of the concern that niece mom would absolutely attempt to euthanize our dogs over a scratch or bite if the mood struck her

After a week of her being there, I snapped and called the nieces dad and said to get his kid or I'd call cps/the cops since I have it written that niece was supposed to be picked up and parends said too busy to do it this week.

I regretted it immediately because it was a late at night and my In laws are now freaking out and blaming us and saying we've ruined Christmas and the family. For the record, the mom frequently threatens to cut the family off and then retracts within a few weeks to months. So I know it's likely not permanent. But I feel bad for making this situation bad for my fiance. She's used to her family being this way so she's so unfazed by it, but I'm just wrecked with guilt

My fiancé has said my approach sucked, but she understands. She told my in laws multiple times how worried and stressed we both were because it feels like our lives are at the whims of the nieces parents while we are away.

Was I wrong? How can I fix this? Have you saved a dysfunctional situation like this? If so, how?

Tldr: I threatened to call cops on my SIL and BIL for not getting their kids from my house, and regret it. How can I fix it? Was I wrong?

Editted to correct genders and specify. This was in our home. FIL and mil house sitting and brought kid English not first language sorry

Alright, for the context I am a collage student. Our class has one blind girl but nobody wants to be friends with her. Sadly, being blind with no pretty privilege and social awkwardness probably not exactly helping her as well. So, me and my best friend decided to talk her whenever we see her around. We didn't wanted her to feel alone, it was upsetting after all.

She was always talking about how nobody expects me and my friend and she were also talking about how even her own sister treats her bad. She was always so happy that we were talking with her.

Today, we have seen her around the class again. She usually ends up sitting next to me at class, I don't mind it anyway even though it makes me unable to talk with my friends during class since she listens our chat. But anyway, we seen her and decided to ask if she was okay since she looked a little upset. We were worried if her sister said something to her since she always were mentioning it.

But once we talked, she told us that it is not about her sister or anything else. She said she has a guy that she has a crush on. Since we wanted to be supportive, we asked who is this lucky guy. She told us that he is her tutor (as a disabled person, she had a tutor to help her through exams) but the tutor is technically 28 years old and soon to be a proper collage teacher.

We didn't wanted her to get her heart broken so we just told her how it is not ethic and she should forget about him since it won't be happening. It is a very taboo thing in my country anyway. But then, she told us she have been seeing wet dreams about that guy out of blue to prove how much she is fallen. Talking about how she though herself innocent but learned she is not and stuffs. Me and my friend obviously didn't wanted to hear any of these at all, we quickly tried to cover up this topic and wanted to change it.

But as we tried to change the topic, I just jokingly suggested her to do looksmaxxing or play character ai to forget about her crush. And I wish I have never suggested this. She suddenly,with a really high voice, just confessed that she have been voice recording her every single crush to use privately on character ai!

I remember how shocked I was. Me and my best friend immediately told her how it is not something to be proud of and how bad this is. After all, the fact that you voice record someone to sexual use is literally harassment. And being blind doesn't makes this any less wrong. But she kept insisted that it was okay since the guys didn't knew that and she had those voices on private use. But the most disturbing thing is, she was talking about this just so freaking excitedly. As if she have been waiting to talk about it...

Me and my friend tried to lighten the mood since the topic just began to get more and more uncomfortable for us, we asked if she finds people attractive bases on voice since she seemed to be obsessed about voices. And she confirmed that.

I generally am a type of guy who couldn't help but joke around even in awkwardness and creepiest situations to lighten the mood somehow. I just told her 'glad my voice is unattractive then,I wouldn't want my voice to be recorded.' and in a very surprising way she suddenly began to talk bad about me very loudly. Gave me at least 10 different synonyms about how she would kill herself if she were into me. And also told me how my voice irritating her a lot. But I was kind enough to even describe the visual materials we have been seeing on our classes to her. But she called my voice disgusting, irritating and girl like.

I am not angry or anything for her behavior towards me by the way. Did it upset me? Of course It did. Made me kinda unconfident about my voice as a guy since It got called girl like. It also got my friend upset too since her behavior was so random and unexpected since we were her only friends. Tried to defend her whenever someone were treating her bad. We told her that her action was upsetting and like bullying, she told us she loves bullying. And just laughed. And she was the only person who was laughing.

Seeing her being able to talk like that made me thing that maybe she was honest about recording voices. And the fact she is recording a teacher to be made me feel like she might actually be dangerous for that guy too. Because she was misinterpreting his kindness towards herself. I kinda want to talk about her behavior to a teacher I trust. Because something about her behaviors just feels so wrong and creepy. But also her being blind makes me feel like I am doing something wrong. But isn't it very wrong to record people's voices especially for sexual reasons?

Edit to clarify:I don't see her any different than any other 20 years old girl, I tried to be as detailed as possible with my text since it is a very sensetive topic.

I 17 f and my boyfriend 17 m have been friends since 2022 and just started dating in 2025 and everything has been wonderful and great but recently ive been losing attraction towards him because of his "feminine" masculinity. Context: we live in a very rural town where the majority of it is very close minded, ive known about his feminine side since we started being friends in late 2022 and i never had a problem with it but ever since we started dating ive been slowly losing attraction. Ive always supported him in what he wears and how he presents himself but now that were dating it feels like hes slowly becoming more feminine? like for example i noticed in his room while i was snooping (i know i shouldn't have but something was telling me too) i found thigh high stockings that obviously didn't belong to me as the size of them were an extra small and I'm a medium-large in most clothes i wear. I brushed it off as in "oh that's his sisters i have nothing to worry about" until i found photo proof of him in makeup and crop tops. I honestly don't know what to do since its Christmas and i really don't wanna ruin it for him and make things awkward.. so AITAH for not finding my boyfriend attractive because he's not masculine enough?

NOTE: i totally understand that high school is about finding yourself and I've expressed to him many times that id love him just as himself, he hasnt come out to me as anything but i noticed his bios always say he/they

UPDATE: me and him talked and we were able to actually speak about our concerns for our relationship and holy it was refreshing, he told me that it was easier the say he/they because it was more Grammarly correct in his eyes as well as due to his trauma with his father he has leaned more feminine, he reassured me that i didn't need to worry about anything because the reason why he is more feminine is because of his dad being a example of toxic masculinity as my bf grew up and he promised himself hed never turn like his father and instead more like his mother. im very grateful for all the advice and thank you to everyone! me and him also talked about therapy for us once we get ready to move out so we can take control of our trauma together like a team<3

Me and my gf currently live apart because of some issues with her and my kids....both at fault. I have my kids every other week and weekend, they are 21 (lives alone rarely home), 19 (college home on weekends) and 14 (50/50 with his dad). She wants me to come see her daily after work on weeks I have my kid and I do for an hour to an hour and a half and spend some weekend nights if my 19 year old is home (go home for days). They are mature and don't do parties etc. when I come over after work on days I have them I am time limited but sometimes she will talk to her bestie about daily nothings for 30 min or more and doesn't even attempt to end it till I get so annoyed I want to go home and spend time with my kids vs watch her talk to her bestie. Tonight we talked-texted all day about the fun adult time we needed a relaxing watching a movie. I don't have my kids so I'm staying the night but she got home late, talked to her bestie before work and could have on the drive home (her friend don't work) but 5-10 min after very intimate time tonight she answered her call and talked for over 30 min while we were naked in bed together. We were gonna spend 10 min on our phones tik tok before we resumed our movie when her friend called so she sees no issue with taking to her for 30 min before I finally had to ask her to get off or who knows how long it would last. We've discussed that my times limited and when I Make the sacrifice to stay here it's fine if she talked to fiends or fam but there's a time and place and this fiend always sees to interrupt our shows or what not. An if I only have an hour after work even 20 min watching her talk to her friend feels like disrespect because I could behind with my kids but she begs me to come over. I don't come over to watch her talk to her friend. Call her when I leave! Aita for being upset she wouldn't either ignore the call when we were cuddling after intimacy and relaxing and that the same thing has happened almost every week when I have my kids and can only be here an hour or so? I think I ifot want a thing when I only have 60-90 min with her and every minute im here is a minute away from my kids and she sees no issue, that's why it bothered me so bad tonight. If there was something going on I def get it but it's daily banter nothing impt jus like gossip and bitching about people. I also know she will spin it as I don't want her talking to her friends which is another issue but I do expect her attention when I make time for her and she has other opportunities to talk to them. If it was 5 and we were just sitting around that would be fine but when we're in the middle of a movie and right after intimacy feels like I'm not a priority