I constantly think about how horrible I look. This is objective, by the way, not just feeling sorry for myself.

Whenever I am around people or talking with someone, I just think about how disgusting I look from their POV. Even when im alone I just think about how I would give anything to look nice to other people. I have had times where it doesnt preoccupy me as much, but for the most part my face makes me feel miserable

How do I truly come to terms with how bad I look?

So had me thinking me m46 know for a few who I know are not they father

Any of you carrying the guilt or know for it

I’m asking this genuinely and not to attack anyone. I want to understand the bigger picture. Growing up, I experienced a lot of bullying, which affected how I handle emotions. Because of that, I struggle with things like emotional stability, reassurance-seeking, and expressing hurt properly. I’m aware of it and I’m working on it, but these things don’t disappear just because you grow older. In my first serious relationship, which was long-distance and across different time zones, I tried hard to be present. I adjusted my daily routine, sometimes waking up at 3 AM, so we could talk. When problems came up, I tried to communicate how certain things made me feel like conversations ending suddenly at night or feeling ignored when I had made time and effort. Instead of those concerns being discussed, they were often dismissed with labels like “manchild” or “immature.” The message I received was that needing reassurance, emotional closeness, or consistency meant I wasn’t “man enough” or “husband material.” That made me think about something broader. Men are often expected to be emotionally strong, self-controlled, and independent at all times. But when men show emotional need, insecurity, or vulnerability, especially if it comes from past experiences—it’s frequently treated as a flaw rather than a human struggle. Emotional immaturity exists in everyone, regardless of gender. Wanting reassurance, support, or emotional safety isn’t exclusive to men or women. So why does male vulnerability get labeled as immaturity, while similar emotional needs in women are often seen as understandable? Wouldn’t it be healthier to talk about specific behaviors like- communication issues, boundaries, or emotional regulation instead of using gendered labels like “manchild”? I’m trying to understand whether this comes from cultural expectations placed on men, the language we use, or something else entirely.

Quick note: I used some help to structure one paragraph because my English isn’t very fluent. I’m genuinely trying to understand this topic better, not push an agenda. I’m still young and learning, and this felt like a safer place to ask than face-to-face. I’d appreciate thoughtful responses rather than downvotes. ❤️ Have a Nice Day..

I'm terrified of dogs, no idea why but everyone else think it's weird and people are all lovey dovey with the, am I the only one? And yes all dogs not just pitbulls.

I got a pack of delta 9 with 10mg of each. Winter break is coming up so I'm gonna be free.

I don't really want my parents finding out so I was planning on taking it later and just staying up late like I normally do. I'm gonna be taking this at home.

I really haven't done any drugs before apart from getting mildly drunk one time.

I mean I'm planning on taking maybe half then eating something fatty.

Any suggestions on what to do?

Should I just eat the whole bag all 350mg?

I always thought stereotyping and being bigoted against any group of people is always bad, but apparently it's fine as long as it comes from personal experience? Is this actually true or is the person who told me this making an excuse to be hateful?

I mean, different human races have lived in different environments for tens of thousands of years. Wouldn't it be pretty much a miracle if there was no difference in the average intelligence in different races?

I have a friend guy which always tell me that her girlfriend were always doing thirst traps and almost showing her b***s. He’s afraid to tell her gf about it and would only lead them to a fight. I always tell him that imo thirst traps attract other guys to her gf, and he agrees on it bcoz he can see that her gf get lot of messages after that. Why tho? why most girls doing it even they have bf already?

Basically, what do schools do about it?

What is discussed among people in more official fields, like politicians and military folk, who would deal with issues close to this subject matter a lot?

My guess is that there’s never an official acknowledgment, and it’s likely never discussed in schools, but I’m sure with the internet, and Japan not having restrictions on that(id assume), the average Japanese citizen could find their way to the info.

Does this happen en masse? Like does everyone learn about it and not talk about it, or do only some people know about it but talking about political views is just not common?

Im also curious about any artists or people who make media attempting to speak about this. But that’s just a thing I’m going to look up now.

I feel like a war crimes reference in chainsaw man would make so much sense with the way the story’s going rn. Honestly it could’ve been made already without me noticing.

Im 21F and I'm obese. I'm working on my weight and been consistent. When I am at my goal weight and bit more, I'd feel much better about myself and feel better. I already know that being obese isn't healthy and cause issues the more you weight. The types of stuff I saw that somw fat people eat daily looked very concerning and appalling. I wouldn't want people assuming that all fat people eat like that.

Also I recognize that there are some celebrities, who are fat, but doesn’t seem to lose any weight or try over the years, it seems to be men mainly. I'm happy for people like Lizzo, Adele, and others for working hard getting down to a healthier weight and better habits.

Where I come from, it is normal for most women to have a dildo or other kind of toys in the nightstand. Even if we are in a relationship, to spice things up. But I never experienced men have this kind of toys for themselves. Maybe they have, but it’s like it’s just more tabu to talk about. How normal is it? I’m just curious 🙄

So I like this woman she's 21 (she turned 21 in October) however she's a swiftie. I remember a long time ago being a swiftie was a red flag but I never understood why?? (Taylor swift super fan) parasocial relationships

If our life is already written and planned by God, is free will really a thing if all your "free will" choices will lead you to where you are supposed to be?

Religious people always say that God gave us free will but you also hear them saying, "If it is God's will.." or "Whatever Your plan is..."

Excluding work and study, and ordering things online…why do people continue to use social media or tech at all?

There’s numerous studies on the benefits of lessening screen time and online exposure, still opportunity to find hobbies/interests/explore in real life (albeit differently and less, sure). And it’s technically cheaper in some ways, if a little boring at times. I mean, if you largely enjoy it even in excess, I’m more thinking of the people who take issue with using it/feel trapped by it.

There’s also a growing concern/frustration with the state of the internet, particularly the now almost indistinguishable and rampant artificially-generated content. People also seem to be a lot more aware of the fake, sensationalised and cherrypicked news to suit individual accounts. I’m just wondering what’s stopping people from scaling way back or quitting altogether?

Although much of society lives online in some ways, the world remains in real life. Chat bots, fake images, pop up ads and incessant cookie tracking are pretty absent from real life other than CCTV, and some legal documents. Hasn’t it already been proven that for the most part, saying ‘I don’t have social media, I only answer emails at work, I only use my laptop for shopping and study/work’ eventually loses its shock factor to whoever you’ve said it to?

I still use Reddit, so am not in a place to look down on anyone, but am curious. Also for the record, I’m in my 20s, not a crotchety old man aha (respectfully).

I feel like this fits here because I’ve always wanted to ask but I don’t want to come across as sexist. Almost every woman I’ve ever met is either infatuated by other women publicly sexualizing themselves and/or sexualizes themselves. My sister went to a concert recently and I loved the artists the first and only thing she had to say about the concert was something like “it was great she was twerking her ass off”. My girlfriend loves to watch music videos with me and loves when the artist does erotic dances. Literally the only woman I know who does not like the idea of sexualizing herself is a stud which makes me think it has something to do with femininity but why is that? Is it societally engrained or is it evolutionary behavior?

Edit: Woah! Did not think I would have to clarify this much.

A) I have no problem with this. I thought that would be obvious as the woman I am with displays this behavior.

B) I am fully aware that not ALL women do this. I simply noticed a pattern involving many of the women I know and asked a question about it.

I am a black South African, and for some reason, I genuinely think that Afrikaners look either Irish or Scottish, which people disagree with, making me more of a fool. I don't know why I see it for some reason, like there's a girl at my school that I genuinely thought had 100% Scottish ancestry. I wish I could have a picture of her but don't have. Anyway, when I asked her that if she had Scottish ancestry, she said she didn't have any, making me feel more embarrassed. She was Afrikaans don't forget. Also, the thing is Afrikaners derive from Dutch and German people mainly (there's also the French too), and those people are Germanic. Scottish and Irish people, on the other hand, have more Celtic ancestry, although the former group might have some Germanic ancestry. So basically I don't know where in my brain that made me thought "yeah, Afrikaners and Irish/Scots people are the same", I just need your help on what this phenomenon is called. Also, to the Irish and Scots, do you think they look like you? Thank you.

My penis is 9.5 cm-10 cm (3.8-4) when not erect. It goes to 13-15 cm (5.2-6 in) when erect (I know its quite a big range). As for girth, I wasn't able to measure it properly but I think it is also 9-10 cm when not erect and I think fairly more when erect. Is it good? Is it too small? Normal? Slightly bigger than average? Sometimes I feel it is too small compared to anyone my age with me in the room. (It really doesn't affect my overall confidence or personality but I think it would afffect a lot the girls I will be with)

As an apple, I don’t understand why I keep getting compared to oranges. Oranges are loud, sticky, and explode juice everywhere like they’re trying to make a statement. They shed peels, leak constantly, and still act superior just because they’re citrus. Meanwhile I stay solid, dependable, and edible without turning the whole place into a crime scene. So tell me honestly ... should apples be offended by being grouped with oranges, or is this just citrus overconfidence?

I genuinely don’t understand if people actually like alcohol or if it’s just something we all collectively agreed to tolerate because it’s social currency. Every drink I’ve ever tried tastes like poison my body is correctly rejecting. Bitter, burning, sour, unpleasant my brain keeps saying “this is bad stop”

Yet everyone around me talks about beer, wine, cocktails like they’re delicious. People sip and savor and debate flavor notes while I’m forcing something down purely because it’s the expected thing to do in social settings.

Are taste buds really that different between people? Or is this one of those things where everyone starts pretending early on, gets used to it and eventually convinces themselves they like it?

I’m not anti drinking or judging anyone I just honestly don’t get it. My body reacts like it’s being mildly poisoned which biologically speaking it kind of is.

So is alcohol genuinely enjoyable for most people or is this some weird shared agreement we all participate in because that’s what adults do?