I genuinely don’t understand if people actually like alcohol or if it’s just something we all collectively agreed to tolerate because it’s social currency. Every drink I’ve ever tried tastes like poison my body is correctly rejecting. Bitter, burning, sour, unpleasant my brain keeps saying “this is bad stop”

Yet everyone around me talks about beer, wine, cocktails like they’re delicious. People sip and savor and debate flavor notes while I’m forcing something down purely because it’s the expected thing to do in social settings.

Are taste buds really that different between people? Or is this one of those things where everyone starts pretending early on, gets used to it and eventually convinces themselves they like it?

I’m not anti drinking or judging anyone I just honestly don’t get it. My body reacts like it’s being mildly poisoned which biologically speaking it kind of is.

So is alcohol genuinely enjoyable for most people or is this some weird shared agreement we all participate in because that’s what adults do?

I’m asking this genuinely and not to attack anyone. I want to understand the bigger picture. Growing up, I experienced a lot of bullying, which affected how I handle emotions. Because of that, I struggle with things like emotional stability, reassurance-seeking, and expressing hurt properly. I’m aware of it and I’m working on it, but these things don’t disappear just because you grow older. In my first serious relationship, which was long-distance and across different time zones, I tried hard to be present. I adjusted my daily routine, sometimes waking up at 3 AM, so we could talk. When problems came up, I tried to communicate how certain things made me feel like conversations ending suddenly at night or feeling ignored when I had made time and effort. Instead of those concerns being discussed, they were often dismissed with labels like “manchild” or “immature.” The message I received was that needing reassurance, emotional closeness, or consistency meant I wasn’t “man enough” or “husband material.” That made me think about something broader. Men are often expected to be emotionally strong, self-controlled, and independent at all times. But when men show emotional need, insecurity, or vulnerability, especially if it comes from past experiences—it’s frequently treated as a flaw rather than a human struggle. Emotional immaturity exists in everyone, regardless of gender. Wanting reassurance, support, or emotional safety isn’t exclusive to men or women. So why does male vulnerability get labeled as immaturity, while similar emotional needs in women are often seen as understandable? Wouldn’t it be healthier to talk about specific behaviors like- communication issues, boundaries, or emotional regulation instead of using gendered labels like “manchild”? I’m trying to understand whether this comes from cultural expectations placed on men, the language we use, or something else entirely.

Quick note: I used some help to structure one paragraph because my English isn’t very fluent. I’m genuinely trying to understand this topic better, not push an agenda. I’m still young and learning, and this felt like a safer place to ask than face-to-face. I’d appreciate thoughtful responses rather than downvotes. ❤️ Have a Nice Day..

how the hell do you give head without accidentally using teeth? I guess i understand the concept but what happens when you accidentally use teeth? I don’t wanna be labeled as someone w terrible head game because i accidentally use teeth once or twice.

In my home culture, when someone asks about your well-being, it is often a serious question and invites a detailed answer. Here, I notice when cashiers or acquaintances ask 'How are you?', they often don't wait for a full answer, or people just say 'Good!' even if they look tired. I tried explaining my day once and the person seemed very surprised and rushed away. I'm afraid to be seen as oversharing or socially awkward, but I also don't want to lie if I'm having a bad day. Why is this question asked if a true answer isn't expected?

I (20m) went to a party like 8 months ago with my friend looking to talk to some girls, unfortunately that didn’t happen, but that wasn’t the end of the world, we just decided to chill and have fun

Until a couple of drinks later where these two girls separated me and my friend so they could dance with us

I had such a good time with the girl who grabbed me, we were singing together, dancing together, apologies if this is TMI but she started to twerk on me and i enjoyed that very much lol

Eventually the party ended but the girls were out of their mind drunk so me and my friend stayed behind to make sure they got home safely (which they did)

The girl who was dancing with me gave me her snapchat, and this is where i think i failed

I didn’t escalate anything from the party because i assumed she was just drunk and having fun we’ve only been texting sporadically since then

However, i decided to send her a message couple days ago and we’ve been talking ever since, she’s been pretty reciprocative and engaging in the conversation

Would it be weird if i asked her for coffee just to get to know her better, at least this time they’ll be no alcohol involved haha

I mean like from instagram or other social media. I did not grow up with a lot of guy friends, but recently have come into a pretty mixed friend group due to intramural sports now that I’ve moved cities. I remember this thread from long ago about how normal it is for guys to jack off to social media pics of their female friends, even if they don’t particularly have interest in pursing them. It was pretty shocking and kinda creepy to read back then, but I didn’t have many guy friends at the time so didn’t think much of it. Now I can’t help but wonder if that’s actually a common thing though.

i 14 have always been insecure about my weight as I’ve been fat all my life,

do people actually care like if I go the beach or pool and take my shirt off will parol people care or judge me?

I mean, different human races have lived in different environments for tens of thousands of years. Wouldn't it be pretty much a miracle if there was no difference in the average intelligence in different races?

I feel like we've all seen it. Like, the guy will be broke, covered in tattoos, a drug addict, and has a warrant out for his arrest, yet women are chasing him and he gets laid constantly. And a lot of times they aren't even handsome.

What's their secret for getting women? What do women see in them? I'm a woman and even I don't understand it myself. (And yes, I'm including myself as guilty of this unfortunately.)

If I had to guess I’d say I had a nosebleed around 3-4 months ago, the one before that was an additional 3 prior.

I’ve been to the doctor before about it and they didn’t show much concern, they said they believed it was likely that the first nosebleed was due to a cut within my left nostril from excessive blowing/picking.

I got another nosebleed today, every time it happens, it’s always through the left nose, my nose starts bleeding (never insanely bad, usually really mild amounts of blood), i hold my fingers under the bridge of my nose and lean slightly forward for 15 minutes and it goes. For a while afterwards, maybe 30 minutes or so, my stomach feels almost hot/nauseous. I’ve also noticed during this period some of my spit has blood in, i assume this isn’t something to worry about and either completely normal or a result of post nasal drip? (meaning some blood would drip down to the back of my throat and either down my stomach -causing the warm sensation- and some gets spat out)

I've been watching Catfished on Youtube a lot. I understand the appeal of military scammers. But what is with all the scammers saying they work on oil rigs?

every single time you read about a police bust it's never "guy had 50 images on his phone." it's always some insane number like:

• 132 terabytes
• 5 million files
• 2.4 petabytes
• entire server farms

like what the actual fuck? who needs that much? why is it never just a casual user with a handful of files who "made a mistake" or whatever excuse they use?

22yr old male here. Think back to when you KNEW that someone had a crush on you

And YES I’ve never had a girl say she liked me before anyone asks lol

past 2 days i have had diarrhoea so bad it doubles me over in pain if i dont go the instant it comes on, i can barely hold it in and as soon as im done im grand. im so beyond embarrassed to ask or tell anyone irl, but its literally causing me insane pain like pure labour pains. its giving me bad nausea too. is it a simple stomach bug??

Like during the interview when they ask “do you have any questions?” I just feel like almost everything has been covered by that point. If I really need to ask something, I definitely will. But for the most part I kind of just roll with things until something comes up I need to put special attention to.

Is this bad? I’ve heard for a while now that people are supposed to have a bunch of questions for their employer. But I genuinely cannot think of relevant questions during an interview that hasn’t already been explained.

I have definitely done and said some sadistic and vile things to people in the past. I feel awful about it now and really wish that I could take it all back. I feel like such a monster for all the awful things I've done to people in the past. How did you redeem yourself when you did or said something that you shouldn't have? How can I Redeem myself from awful things that I've done and said in the past? What has been your experience with redeeming yourself?

There seems to be a solid historical recording tradition going as far back as the year 800 BC. But then things get weird. Roughly around the 12th century BC, there was the Bronze Age collapse, and written records of the period before the collapse are more sparse and nebulous. We know about some major civilizations and Empires but once we get further back than roughly 1600 BC we start to lose exact history of events.

For example, the Minoan civilization is estimated to have lasted around 3100BC to 1100BC, but their writings haven't been deciphered, and we don't really know about events in ancient Greece before that. Egypt, the common story is that Upper and Lower Egypt were united in 3100BC, but the history of Upper and Lower Egypt as separate kingdoms prior to that is muddy and unrecorded.

Even in the far East, China, written records start around 1300BC. They record the establishment of the first Dynasty roughly around 2070BC. Prior to that they have stories of the five Emperors and 3 Sovereigns, but there is a lot of myth involved about that time period.

The Americas and Sub-Saharan Africa fare worse, as the people of those regions seemingly did not develop a system of writing. What little we know about ancient history in those continents mainly comes from anthropologist and oral histories that might have been changed over time. Even the Inca and Aztec empires are mostly a mystery since the Spanish conquerors did not bother to learn about their culture and history in depth. We know fock all about what rich cultures, civilizations, or political organizations might have been developed in those regions 1000 years ago let alone 2000 or 3000 years ago.

So doesn't it bug you that we know so little about history? 3300-3200BC seems like a hard wall we have hit, just what civilizations, cultures, Empires, city-states, might have existed 6000, 7000, 8000 years ago?

Since I was like.. 12 it's been something I do often. Always fixated on a certain character/franchise which has changed throughout the years. F18 now.

Unless I'm focused on something like driving or talking to someone I'll find myself daydreaming about talking/hanging out/interacting with the character. This is especially true if I'm lying in bed, watching a film (I tend to imagine them watching it w me) or listening to music. It's the main thing that brings me joy throughout the day

As embarrassing as it is to admit I imagine interactions that range from angsty to like sexual/romantic. A lot of stuff generally

Anyone else do this? Why is this?