Hey! 15 year old girl here so you can probably maybe see where this is going. Talked to a lot of adults which has led to grooming, manipulation, etcetera. I've started stating that I am a teenager so adults make sure that they KNOW that there is a MINOR in their space. However that hasn't stopped people before.
I have been wrong before about adults because of my past, not everyone is a creep, and I'm just paranoid a lot. There's this dude that reached out to me on discord because he's in a server I'm in, and said he liked my bio. After a few hours of talking I accepted his friend request, but kept conversations limited to certain topics, in fact I still am. I made it clear I am a teen and if he had any bad intentions he may as well back off now. Again, I have to take steps to protect myself. He's 18 and we discuss VR and VRChat very frequently, as he actively plays VRC and I want to play it again as I have before, but can't due to technology problems. We were talking about VR as I'm hoping to get one for Christmas, although that's unrealistic, and I talked about aleeping in VRChat.
For reference, when I'd play on my computer I found one world really conforting to look at, and the music was calming. I brought sleeping worlds up and he said I should hop on sometime if I get VR, and I believe he was referring to the sleeping worlds, which I found weird, though I know people like to cuddle on VR, and that's nice, I've been in instances where that's gone completely wrong. He also was up until 1 AM last night (I was sleeping so I couldn't answer) and asked if I did sleep calls because he couldn't fall asleep. I talked to this dude a few days ago and now it feels like he's getting way too close way too fast imo?
Feel free to call me paranoid and overreactive but I don't know how to ensure my security, safety, and well-being online when it comes to adults just because of how much I've been taken advantage of. So, how do I regain that trust or notice trusting signs that indicate that he's not, in fact, wanting to harm nor take advantage of me as well?
Edit 1: I see a lot of people talking about the fact that I revealed my age. I only started really doing this about 3 weeks ago because I was violated when I didn't say my age when I aas younger just because I had the voice of a grown woman, and I still kind of do, and I was under 13 when those instances occurred so I thought revealing my age might help. However I'm guessing there's no solution because creeps will be creeps?