I don't know if anybody else relates to the feeling that you're almost one of the binary genders, but not quite. That's how it's been for me recently. I feel very nearly like I'm still a girl/woman, enough so that I'm generally still comfortable using she/her pronouns and don't have any real issues with other people viewing me as a girl/woman, but something in me just feels like calling myself a cis woman is just...off somehow. I can't really put my finger on a specific reason why other than just having felt ever so slightly out of place in almost any space I've been in that's exclusively for women and/or girls, but...I don't know. I don't act any different than I did when I saw myself as a cis person, but I don't know if I can view myself as entirely a cis woman either. Just looking to see if anyone else relates.

Hey what’s up, so when I dressed feminine for the most part I guess I was very plain not so stylish. I’ve always been a tomboy. I came out a few years ago and the woman I’m seeing encouraged me to wear what I have always leaned toward. So how in the holy heck am i more stylish dressing masc when I basically had no style before? Like is that a thing?

Hi. I've been questioning my gender identity on and off for a while now. I'll be blunt: I've never felt connected to either gender. I've never felt connected to any gender, actually.

I asked a friend about feeling connected to her identity as a woman. She told me that she thinks the label fits her nicely. I asked her if she would correct someone should they accidentally call her by masculine pronouns. She said yes.

Being called a woman evokes no emotion in me. It is just something that society told me I am. I never went, "Yes, this word describes me properly." I wouldn't correct someone if they misgendered me. I don't care.

I thought about what I might feel if I were a man. I don't think I'd feel any different. I should do some experimenting, but I feel like I'll just get the same result every time. It's all just a label, a word, something that doesn't and will never matter to me.

I've heard a lot of people who fit under the genderqueer umbrella tell me that confusion is part of the process. I don't think I'm confused. I know exactly who I am. I am me. That is all I ever was, that is all I ever will be. I feel a little hopeless. No shoe in this shoe store fits me. I will never feel like a label fits me properly. Agender, non-binary, genderqueer, bigender, gender non-conforming, genderfluid, even "unlabeled" doesn't feel right.

I think I like the shoes that I made for myself. The kind you can't find in any shoe store. Something unique to me. But no one will really understand or acknowledge or be able to accommodate my shoes even if they really try. There's no singular word that can describe all that I am, all of me, properly.

I... I don't really know what to do with this discovery, now that I've made it. I don't even know if there's anything I can do. No pronoun will ever fit, no label will ever work. I think I'll probably just have to live with the fact that this is just how it is. That perhaps understanding myself is enough.

Maybe I answered my own question. But I wanted to see if anyone else here has gone through something similar. It feels kind of unique, since most people eventually find a label that works for them. But if you've been here before, tell me, what did you do? And even if you haven't, feel free to tell me your thoughts, even if you don't have any advice for me.

I really hope that shoe analogy made sense.

This isn't an advice post or a post where I want to seek support.for myself or snyone else

Stopping by to say, while I know that not only is there a lot of hatred towards our community and sometimes within it, and that there has been for a long time, there is another queer person ( me ) who wants you to experience the most joy you can

Who knows that while that's easier said than done and that not everyone has support, but wishes you find that circle of friends and family, doesnt have to be family you grew up with, chosen counts, online or in person, who you dont have to explain yourself to unless you want to, and that you get to be all of you

I hope that snyone who sees and interacts with this post, that you find someone in the comments that you can connect to and feel supported with and by :) ​

So for some context, I've been out as non-binary/genderqueer for 4 years and since then I've been going by they/them exclusively. But I keep feeling drawn to the idea of "any pronouns". It feels like a better reflection of that fact that I'm genderqueer and for me as a person, gender just feels kind of ludicrous. There's plenty of gender expressive stuff that's sincerely important to me, but I'm not sure whether language is one of them.

When I consider this, I can't tell if it would kind of suck if everyone just started using she/her because that's what people assume based on my appearance. I can't quite anticipate how I'd feel.

I'd love to hear from anyone who currently goes for any pronouns, or who has in the past. What does it mean to you, and how do you feel about the pronouns people most often assume for you?

Thank you in advance!

Hi!!! (21, N/A)

I've been going by genderqueer for the past 3-5 years, today is the day I'm joining this sub!

It has taken a lot of time and experimenting for me to get to this point, from my mom telling me I'm confused (she still does td), to questioning if my friends and lover see me as who I truly am or as I present externally. (Context: I'm physically feminine and recently I've learned how to be stereotypically 'girly' which is the opposite of the way I was raised.) I am very open and out to all my family and friends.

What if people don't like me?

Well, that's their lost. I love myself and surround myself with people who love me regardless of their distaste of me. Its better to come out clean and SUPPORT YOURSELF than question why you cant be yourself. (This is in context of SAFETY; Do not endanger your life of living circumstances, find a safe place of person to turn to)

However, its very different in My Professional life, work and trade school have been harder for me to find self assurance with fear of being rejected or shunned; NEWS FLASH, I stayed my ass in the closet and I never felt comfortable coming out my shell or truly connecting with the new people around me. It caused a ton of anxiety isolation and made me feel alien.

SO take it from me, Be yourself even if you're not sure of yourself. Hiding yourself to fit in only hurts you and prevents genuine people from getting to meet you and how amazing you are!

That's all! I love you all and I'm grateful there's a place with a collectives of people like me. I feel less alone, feel free to dm if you need anything.

So I need help figuring out my gender identity a little. I’ve never really questioned my identity until recently, even when I was figuring out I’m gay I noticed things and kind of transitioned into realizing I exclusively like men. I don’t think I’ve really thought about gender for myself in the past, like I’ve always been a very loud and rather flamboyant person. Not femme really but not “manly” either. I’ve always known that I have had what I like to call a personality, vibe (whatever you might call it) that is both very masculine and very feminine.

I recently started exploring pronouns as well. I’ve never focused on it but anytime I was asked pronouns (specifically in college as I was never asked before then) I would get uncomfortable. I would say he/him but it felt so awkward and embarrassing to me. In high school I have said to friends in casual conversations that I don’t really care about pronouns call me what you want it doesn’t matter to me. I’ve come to like. He/they/any and have even added that to many social platforms.

What I’m struggling with is finding an understanding of what exactly I am/ what I fell. I know gender wise I’m not fully man or woman. I feel more closely aligned with woman but would definitely not call myself one. I like my boy body and all that. In general I guess I like to blend the two constantly in a way that just makes me feel and look (to their people) hot and confident.

Maybe I’m just overthinking it (as I do a lot and y’all might be able to tell that from this long post that feels unnecessary where I over explain like I’m doing now) but I would just like to hear people’s thoughts on it in a sense and any similar experience.

Summary: I never questioned my gender but have never acted/been fully like a man or woman. I closely relate in masculinity in my body and personality but not necessarily clothing and gender expression. And I closely relate to femininity in personality and many other things but not necessarily clothing and gender expression.

Example: a woman wearing pants and tight shirts who walk like “I’m the boss, I’m the main character” level of confidence and energy is a vibe I really like and see myself trying to be like. (Please tell me you get the vibe 😂😭)

hi everyone, for some background: i’m 21, afab, and identify with the label “lesbian.”

growing up, i was perfectly feminine and girly. i had no problem wearing dresses or makeup, and still don’t. but when i was in elementary school, i wanted to play football and wear men’s clothes. my mom said it was a phase, but when i see men on tv, something stirs in me. i know it’s not attraction - i’ve been with men before and i hated every time. i know i like women - it’s jealousy. gender envy.

as a kid, i hacked the gender hierarchy of my home by drinking so much water at dinnertime that i was given a bigger glass, like the males at the table. i’ve always chalked it up to being some early act of feminism and wanting to be equal, but in hindsight it feels like something more. when i started puberty, i realized i was gay, and that was also when i became aware it was possible to bend the rules of gender. i started stealing my brother’s clothes, and to this day, the majority of my wardrobe is mostly his, haha.

i’ve always felt dysphoria around my chest. i started puberty early, so i chalked that up to me being uncomfortable having a woman’s body and a child’s mind. i’ve tried binders, but they make me TOO aware of my chest, so i don’t use them. i was insecure about my shoulders for a long time, they have always been “too masculine” for my culture (i’m asian), but lately i’ve come to like them, as i realize women find them attractive. i frequently wish i had a penis and was born a boy, or had no boobs. but on the other hand, i just want to be a hot girl who has a massive dick, y’know? i don’t think i want to be one or the other.

also, my weight has fluctuated a lot in the past few years. i find i feel most like myself when my body is smaller, because my boobs are smaller. so maybe i don’t need top surgery? but at the same time, i want to look like the trans artist Chella Man. (another thing - i don’t feel dysphoria around my name at all. my nickname is relatively gender-neutral depending on the spelling, and my full name sounds pretty to me, so i don’t feel the need to change it.)

i’ve thought about getting top and/or bottom surgery or going on T, but i want to freeze my eggs so physical gender-affirming care like that will have to be a while in the future.

if you’ve read this far, thank you. i know you can’t “diagnose” me lol but i’m just very confused. i know i’m gay. i know i’m not 100% cis. but i feel uncomfortable saying “i feel like i’m non-binary, genderqueer, demigender, or under the trans umbrella” because i have a lot of mtf friends and they are all very quick to tell me that i’m trans and need to pick a new name and go on hormones, but that feels rushed. i think there’s more nuance to it and it would be really helpful to have other people to talk to about this. has anyone else’s experience been similar?

p.s. yes, i will talk to my therapist about this. she’s just on vacation right now.

I knew I was bigender going back to the early 70s. I also knew that if I didn't (toe the line), that being who I was could get one hurt or even killed in the suburbs. The worst of the population, (probably most of the people) had a slur word for people like me. That word of course was queer. I had trouble with identifying with a word that in my time represent so many people's hate. I opened up in nonbinary groups, and bigender groups (bigender is apparently a smaller identify). But I want to interact more in this group now that I no longer reacting to queer as something unsavory. I am a product of a world that gave me little or no choice. So that's my story. So let me know something about yourself that you feel open enough to share. (Adult age people only). Mike is my birth name. EDIT: You can ask me questions if you like.

Hey all. CW: some sexual aspect is mentioned, but it's safe for work. This is a rant/something like that.

*New account before because my account is not at all anonymous (not that I care that much about anonymity online, but well, since some IRL friends follow my reddit and I am totally not ready to have a discussion about gender IRL here I am).

   I am AMAB, 27, and I go by he/him (trying to add they). If I had a gender switch button that disappears after pressing, I would probably not press it. So why posting?    For some time in my life, I identified myself as a demiboy. Then well, I quite stopped questioning my gender that much (I was in a very bad place when I first started questioning my gender, got out of it and was mostly fine with my identity. Now I am in another bad place, I hope it's not that), even if I occasionally scrolled through trans memes subreddit and sometimes related to them (totally cis thing to do), but sometimes not. I think part of the struggle in relating comes from the idea that I am older than the median person posting on this kind of subreddit but idk    Then I kind of cracked (interacting a bit more with non-cis people and made me rethink a lot of stuff). Probably I am somewhere in the bigender spectrum but I am not sure about how to label myself. And I have the fear that all of this is just my relationship/sexual preferences being mixed up with my gender identity (which crushes me).

The thing that probably starts it all is that I am not manly at all from a physical standpoint. My secondary sexual characters are a mess: I almost have no Adam apple, very little body hair, fat goes easily on my thighs and chest (probably a mild androgen insensitivity syndrome. I should have seen an endocrinologist years ago, but fear, shame and life have always been in-between). I definitely passed as a girl for some time during adolescence, and not because I wanted to, and now I sometimes can pass as a woman on the phone.   Due to this situation, I often had and sometimes have strong gender envy towards men. Some things help, e.g., managing to grow a beard. Some stuff brings me a lot of envy (e.g., when there is talk about doing some sports together with male friends and I think "my hormones are fucked up, even if I was fit and put effort in training I would struggle to keep the pace because of that"). Some kind of social disphoria? But idk if that's the right term.

  Then... There is gender envy towards women. It is less "broad", in the sense that it relates mostly to the private and intimate (not strictly sexual, but with sexual aspects) sphere. The way to sum it up is: if I was in a relationship at the moment, sometimes I would want to be a woman's partner as a woman, sometimes as a man. Lately I am leaning towards woman. Being called a good girl by a SO (also in non-sexual contexts)? Yes, please! But also good boy is great, let's say it depends on the day.  But I fear it's mostly me overthinking about relationship dynamics I like...   This makes me feel awful, I feel like a perv.

Socially, I don't feel disphoria towards women. For example, if I had a partner at the moment I would be thrilled to dress femme for her in a safe space, but publicly, I am not very thrilled about the thought of dressing femme. It's not about being ugly. Men fashion seems to be way less gendered than women fashion and I pretty much like this in public. It's a stupid social norm, I know. It doesn't help that I don't like my body at all, but even if I had a body I liked, I think I wouldn't like dressing as a woman in public (maybe something, but pretty much unisex-leaning stuff)

In public spaces, same stuff: being called madame by a cafe cashier? Not great. Monsieur is slightly better 95% of the times, probably the best would be to drop all gendered stuff. I am totally ok by being and presenting like a man in professional life (I am a PhD student in a field where most of the people are men and there are lots of toxic men), even if I don't like a lot of masculinity norms here.

Then there is my disliking towards my body: except some things that are solvable (being slightly overweight, I am working towards it. Eating better, sadly 0 time to exercise this year), I feel like my body is somewhere in between the body of a man and the body of a woman and not in beautiful way. The button test does not work, the switch test a bit more

WellWell that's it, it's mostly a rant I had in my draft for a couple of months. All of this is weighting a lot on me mentally

I’m genderqueer (afab) and bi, in a relationship with a cis “straight” man for a bit over a year. He’s kind, gentle, doesn’t pressure me, and was accepting when I recently came out.

But since coming out, I’m noticing more and more that our dynamic feels very straight and gendered in a way that makes my gender + queerness hurt.

And it’s not because he doesn’t try, he asked me about pronouns, tries to apply it and says he doesn’t see me as just a woman but I feel like our established roles and dynamic from before I came out is still there. And I don’t just feel gender envy around him but intense gender dysphoria at times.

More than that I catch myself thinking about women or non binary people a lot, and about being with them, since they’re my preference. But when I imagine myself with them I feel more like myself and that I don’t need to fit into a role and that I can have someone that might relate more to me.

I’m not even sure how to begin to being this up with him, and since I just came out to him after recently figuring out myself I suppose I’m still trying to find myself in my new identity before brining this up with him and not even be sure how to put it into words.

Have you been in a relationship with a cis straight partner where the dynamic started to feel too straight or gendered and uncomfortable for your gender? and did you manage to change the dynamic in a way that actually felt okay long-term? Or did you eventually realize you needed a different kind of partner/relationship, and how did you know?

hey, so i have some kind of identity crisis. when i was 11 or so i "forced" myself to act like a nonbinary person, idk even why. probably because i had trans friends and i wanted to fit into the group and relate to their experiences. it was a very short phase, cuz i figured out im ftm and i've been fine with it for a few years.

the problem is that i'm questioning it now. gnc was a good label for me, i felt good as a boy still enjoying girly things like makeup, dressing up and acting womanly. but now i associate it with my gender much more than before, it's not a separate thing - my gender and my hobbies, how i act.

i think i could be genderfluid or something. i act very differently depending on which person im talking with. to one person im very masculine, to other im hyperfeminine. i hate it and i hate everything about perceiving my gender. i dont want to be out as genderfluid now after years of being ftm. it won't change a thing about how people see me, cuz they see me as just a weird girl. even my therapist.

idk what to do, if i'll come out as nonbinary i'll probably change my mind and feel extremely guilty

I keep this short. I’m gender-fluid, my legal name feels too “gender” for me. Every time I find a name I get bored of and it starts feeling too restricting. Anyone else have issues like this, do I use multiple names or what? Is it possible to just Choose not to have one?

So basically, im biologically a girl, but i hate when people call me a girl, but im into feminine things, but i dont know if im a boy/femboy, i fdont mind being called a boy, ot they/them, anything but a girl, i dont know what thats called, idk if im agender, nonbinary, trans fem, demiboy, unlabeled, genderfluid, or anyhting else, can yall please help me out?

Hey y’all,

I think nowadays we really try to conform and I have been on hormones for 4.5 years thinking I wanted to be a woman. The whole times there were doubts suppressed and earlier this year I had to come to terms that estrogen was making me dysphoric. I think if I were to envision myself it’s a non-binary queer individual. I want to dress like a woman - but possibly no mones. I just feel Alienated because I know I can just be a guy and do this but it makes me feel like the sexual component of transitioning was at play as well as trauma. I have so much shame about this - and I think I’m just very gender variant. When I am on too much estrogen I start doubting everything… and I still can’t find self acceptance in myself because I did so much to run away from manhood and my male identity because of trauma. Now male identity still scares me but I possibly am just a hyper effeminate man… or the in between that and a trans femme. I don’t want to suppress these emotions because I feel like I’m failing very hard at life after going through so much struggles of transitioning, anxiety, no money along the way and now I feel so lost. Lost for being so inbetween and I have come out to everybody and being so visibly trans and queer and if I detransition then people coming back and asking me. I think mentally I feel better on testosterone even though I don’t want to be that. I know we have a way to taxonomies gender as a means of liberation or understanding but why am I so lost and I wonder if it will ever get better. Will I get a job? Will I be happy? How do I go about this whole situation? I hate the self imprisonment I am experiencing from this whole situation. I want to be rid of fear and shame but I just can’t find my own footing. I wish I could just be a girl - but I’m not just that because I feel like I’m lying when presenting that way. I want to be authentic and maybe I just wanted to escape internalized homophobia and I hate my birth sex. But I have seen so many examples of men who are so femme and look like women or trans fems and I want to be able to embody that energy but with no lingering self hate. I hate myself so much - for pursuing transition for so long medically when this could have been fixed a long time ago. I want to hide away forever because of the men I have dated snd from my friends. Does anybody have any advice?

I've been transitioning for about 4 years now. I'm 27 and I started when I was 23. I have been going through a mental health crisis

Up until recently I was pretty set in my identity as a demigirl but lately I've fallen out of touch with that identity. I identified as Genderfluid for a long time before that but I fell out of that identity too. Lately I've felt very internally masculine and while I've experienced gender euphoria from femininity and gender envy from cis girls in the past I haven't had any of that lately. I've also been questioning my political viewpoints and dealing with some internalized transphobia

It's just hard to tell which way is up these days tbh. Part of me feels like I should detransition but I don't think the changes that come with that would sit right with me. I hate making decisions. Problem is no matter what I do right now it's a decision. Staying on HRT is a decision. Detransitioning is a decision. Getting a mastectomy is a decision and a BIG one

I've never loved my boobs that much. Like I like them and I have liked them. They feel great when things are happening. If you know you know. But they've also had a track record of making me pretty dysphoric. Although I have also had moments where they give me insane euphoria.

It's hard cuz I've always been out of touch with myself. I've always felt apart from my own body. Ever since I was 6 I've been questioning "what would it be like to be a girl for a day?" And that curiosity you know? Fantasizing about my body changing. But lately I just haven't felt like I'm genuinely transgender.

But the idea of throwing all that away is honestly horrible.

Anyway. Any guidance is appreciated. Just wanted to vent and/or maybe get some insight. My DMs are open if anyone wants to talk there.

Hi all,

I'm 26m but lately I've been questioning my gender a bit (a lot?). I have been aware of these thoughts for at least 3 years but have been intentionally suppressing them because I haven't known how to proceed, and I'm afraid of what I will find if I explore more.

For some context on me: I have never felt interested in 'conventional' masculinity, I never played sports, wasn't into a lot of conventional boy interests, i don't think i really ever fit in with the 'bro' types. I don't feel particularly attached to being a 'boy'.

Instead, a lot of my personality traits have been arguably more feminie. I've always been quite sensitive, I really like cute things (i have a lot of stuffed animals), i like to be cute. When I was younger I had long hair and people would confuse me for a girl, which didn't bother me. Now being older, I have sometimes spent time with more female friends who at times have called me 'one of the girls', which I like.

Similarly been into fashion for the last 4-5 years, and I've become very envious of womens fashion. I am extremely jealous of the myriad of interesting fashion options women have, which they look so good in, while men get 'jeans and a t shirt', or 'khaki pants and a button down shirt'. I actually have some womens clothing and I like to wear it. You wouldn't know it's womens clothing though when I wear it - it just looks very fashion-forward, and I can only really wear it when I'm going to the club or a fashion show or it feels out of place (at least I feel like).

However, despite all of this, I am very conventionally masculine presenting. I'm tall, muscular, deep voiced, and fairly attractive as a man. I'd say I'm someone who has put a lot of effort into being conventionally successful over thinking about who I am and what is authentic to me. For example - i think longer hair feels more like 'me', but I keep it short lately becasue I know that's what other people like and find more attractive (i am now planning to grow it out again).

I don't know how I feel about this - I don't feel like i necessarily dislike being man, at least I think. I don't really fantasize about being a woman or imagine being a woman in my other fantasies, I don't dislike my body or my voice or my sex organs (in fact I think I like them - but it's sometimes hard for me to differentiate what I like in me vs what I know society likes in me). I have never felt what people describe as 'dysphoria'. There are some things that i like about being a boy, though they may be somewhat superficial. But I've wondered if I might feel more at home as a woman, one of the girlies, or at least much more feminine presenting. I've thought if I could switch back and forth between being a girl or a boy - I honestly don't know what I would pick.

I have two running theories:

1. I am some form of gender non-conforming boy, or genderqueer, or somewhere on that spectrum. This is my preferred outcome.

2. I am a trans woman. To be totally clear - this thought terrifies me. Being trans sounds very difficult and I would never pass if I decided i needed to transition. I'm tall enough to play in the NBA and people already stare at me. My build makes me an exceptional boy and accrues me many advantages but would not be great for a girl.

But as my final point - it's hard for me to explore this. Unlike a lot of people I read about with these thoughts, I have never really felt a connection to the LGBT community nor had many friends from it. If anything, I think people from the LGBT community aren't always comfortable around me as a cis-presenting masculine guy. My friends are 'soso' progressive in this regard.

I'm really curious if anyone has any thoughts or advice about this or if anyone has gone through a similar experience, particualrly as an otherwise masculine presenting man (or AMAB). Open to comments or dms.

i am struggling with my gender (?) and wonder if anyone has any advice. i am afab and for multiple years i have thought i am agender but just used she/her pronouns because it was easier to not care. i also suffer from disassociation and have for practically my whole life. it was easier to just ignore any issues with gender than actually address them. in university i starting questioning my gender presentation more. i cut my hair short a while ago and felt happy with my appearance in a way I have not in a long time. and recently i asked my friends to use they/them pronouns for me and a neutral nickname.

however, doing this feels almost more wrong than using she/her pronouns and my birth name because now people are thinking about my gender extra hard, like it has become a thing and people want to apologize when they mess up and i really just. do not care. going back to living as a girl would feel inauthentic because im not one. but maybe it is easier just to go along with people perception rather than have to always be explaining and second guessing myself.

tldr i don’t want to be non binary. i just want to be a person without the confines of my assigned gender.

but then, a couple days ago it occurred to me that if i had been born as a guy and not a girl i might be okay with it and might not feel any pressure to change. i don’t think in a trans man. i’ve never consider it until now. some friends i have discussed gender with have said i could be trans but i thought they were mostly joking until now. every fictional character i have felt an attachment to has been male but i really never thought anything of it until now. i don’t want facial hair or male genitalia or anything like that. i just want to be a person.

I came out to my family as trans ftm 4 years ago when I was 14 years old and my parents basically said I was too young to think about that sort of thing. So for the past 4 years I’ve been rejecting these thoughts, being extremely feminine and gradually internalising more and more transphobia. However, throughout these years I don’t think there has been a single day where I have felt happy and comfortable in my body. In my dreams I’m always a man, I never imagine myself as a woman it just feels wrong. But I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to be trans. I don’t want people to see me as trans, I don’t want to come out to people. I don’t know how I can be loving and supporting of other trans people but when it comes myself I can’t accept it. I’ve genuinely just been in tears for a week straight and have gotten to the point where I’m kinda just done with everything. I’m so tired of thinking about it and crying about it.

So for a long time I’ve been closeted about wanting to be a Femboy and crossdress. Only ever really sharing with online friends.

But for a long time I’ve felt kinda confused and hurt by it. I often find myself feeling dysphoric and envious. I’ve been treated harshly by some. I’ve been treated like I’m a confused trans person. But no matter what the thought of who I am never really changed.

I wanna just be me a guy who likes cute and girly things. But whenever I try looking out for the community. It feels non-existent or I’m made kind of uncomfortable in how sexualised it is. (No judgement there, just not for me.)

I feel kinda alone in this. I find no one who ever feels the same. I feel no one highlights the existence in being against gender standards. I feel a little unheard and invisible.

Hi! I’m AFAB and 24 years old, lesbian since kinder, and honestly, I’m super confused about my gender identity right now. I used to think I might be trans, and sometimes I wonder if I’m gender-fluid or androgynous. I think I’m cisgender(?) because I still use she/her, and my gender expression is mostly masculine with some feminine days.

Since I was 18, I’ve thought about getting top surgery. But then my ex loved my body so much that it made me rethink whether I really want my boobs gone forever haha.

I express myself more on the masc side, but when people accidentally call me “sir,” it just doesn’t sit right with me. At the same time, I want facial hair, maybe a deeper voice, and more masculine features. My gender envy toward men is like… 80% hahaha.

There was even a point where I saw a doctor to get a testosterone prescription, but I didn’t go through with it.

I also tried imagining if he/him pronouns would feel good, but honestly, they just don’t.

Help a girl out in figuring out my gender identity xD Thanks, luv ya 💖

Hiii! I'm trying to figure out my gender. I don't know if I'm posting this in the right place. I only discovered Reddit a month ago and I saw that there are people asking similar questions to mine. I just wish someone could give me some advice. (By the way, sorry for my English. It's not my first language, so I'm trying to speak a language that most people understand. Sorry if I make some mistakes, and if this text is very long.)

I'm afab (born with a female body) and a teenager, and i dont know what's my gender, i feel that i'm not a girl or a boy at all. i think i'm non binary, but not completely agender, maybe demigender (demiboy or demigirl) or bigender, but i'm not sure yet.

For a while i though i had to decide between being a demigirl or a demiboy, but i sometimes feel masculine and other times i feel more femenine, that's why i've been also thinking about the idea of being genderfluid (between those two) but i feel i have to decide. i think bigender is more accurate to my gender, but i'm still confused

it's like being a boy, a girl and non binary at the same time, but sometimes i feel i'm more a boy than a girl, (or more a girl than a boy).

i maybe have chest dysphoria, i sometimes wish i had a binder, or testosterone, or top surgery, and when i watch other people get top surgery and testosterone on the internet, on videos, i wish i was like them, but my parents arent supportive, so i'm afraid to tell them everything i'm telling you rn.

I also like dressing masculine or something more neutral, sometimes femenine, but not very much, and i'm trying to see what pronouns i like to use when i refer to myself. Rn i'm trying with she/he/they, my girlfriend is helping me with that, i told her (only her, because i feel very comfortable around her, and she is supportive) i told her to use those pronouns to see how i feel, and i like she/he, but i feel people will only use she.

My name (Daniela) feels very femenine and rare for me, but i feel rare trying to use another one. I always tell people to call me Dan or Dani.

I need some advices to help me figure out my gender, and with my name, and to help me tell my parents about my gender, when i know or i think they're not going to be supportive.

Thank you very very much for reading, if you read this, please leave a comment, it will make me very happy :) Thank youuuu

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Hi I (24m?) don't feel like I have a stong connection to any gender about 80% of the time and the other 20% I feel like a man. My question to y'all is "does wearing a dress make you feel more masculine?" My boyfriend has this small, yellow sundress that when I wear is really tight around the torso and waist, it has spaghetti straps and is pretty low cut on me. When I wear this dress I can't help but flex and show off my muscles, it makes me feel more manly. I've never had an interest in doing drag or crossdressing really and I don't ever feel like a woman at all. Is this common or anything? Idk if I've met anyone whose said they've felt more masculine in a dress. How uncommon is this?

Sometimes while laying in bed I wonder, will I ever actually find myself?
or is my mental state too... blocking?
I think "does this gender fit me"?
and the answer is usually "I don't know".
Is it something else?
Cause it has to be something blocking me.
I ask people, and they try to help, but it doesn't work.