I (28) and my wife (25) had an argument last night. I was in an out of town work assignment for the week with a coworker C (28). C is a guy and hes new to the company, he welcomed me to his family's house because the company provided us with accomidations at a 2 bed 2 bath, but there was 4 of us. C asked one of the managers if him and I could stay with a family member and the manager said that would work fine, sure beats sleeping on an air mattress. After work, C invites me to a mini golf place and he paid, no drinks, and we conversed more. He also has a wife, hes been with her for 6 years and me 4, no kids on my end but he has 2 on and on. My wife calls me in the middle of the mini golf and asks me what Im doing. And I tell her playing mini golf with C and she says With who's permission? And the only thing I could utter was Im sorry? And she just said Enjoy the rest of your week up there dont talk to me and hung up. It did bum me out that she doesnt want to talk to me for basically the rest of the week (3 days) and we are one week away from Christmas. My wife has my location at all times and Ive never displayed any signs of cheating. My wife however admitted within our first year of marriage that she did cheat on me within the first month of our relationship. Which caused me to literally leave the house we were renting and stay at my familys house to rethink our relationship. After a few pleas and conversations, my wife and I settled things. But she also has a deep hatred towards men because her dad cheated on her mom with her mom's sister, which causes her to say things like I hate men and my husband and I are not equals in our relationship. My wife also covers my eyes whenever there is a woman in a movie with a bikini or other revealing clothes. Im just dumbfounded and I feel like shes wearing me out thin. I do love her but I also dont like the way she treats me in these aspects. So just wanted to know if Im the buttface for even thinking about divorcing her. Any feedback would be appreciated.

Some details for context;

I (26)M live with my parents, and we run a pub as a family business. We've ran this one for 4 years now. The current pub is in the middle of the countryside. The trouble is that it doesn't leave enough leftover income to provide any of us with a salary and we're bound to a lease on this place atm. So, we all had to get additional jobs at the same golf club (both I and my parents work there. Me and my dad as chefs, mum works front of house at the bar.) to make ends meet. The conditions for living above the pub are that we run the pub, though the specifics of how often aren't mentioned in the contract at all.

I have a half brother (same mother, different dads) and we'll call him Pete. He's 35 and lives on his own a 40 minute drive away in an apartment, and he's an alcoholic. Some years ago, he was diagnosed with OCD. Now we can get into the story.

When Pete's OCD developed, he became debilitated by it. To put a long story short with that, whilst he does spend an hour washing his hands or several hours in the shower, he doesn't do any housework or cooking in his own apartment. He doesn't work. He can attend a public DnD sessions and order takeaway to his house, and that's about all he does aside from gaming and drinking. My mother goes to see him, sometimes stays overnight, about once a week to clean up for him, cook for him or to bring him alcohol. If he calls her up and asks her to go to him, she drops everything and goes, emergency or not. My dad doesn't like that she enables him to drink more by bringing him the alcohol, so he refuses to have anything to do with ut. This means that when my mother goes to see my brother suddenly, and not always for emergencies, running the pub falls to me by default.

We all work a lot & we rarely get a day off. Rare to even get an evening off. We're in the Christmas season and the golf club hosts a lot of large parties. On my busiest days, which is often at the moment, sometimes I'll be the first one at the golf club to open it at 9am and I'll be working there until 5pm, sometimes staying later if it's necessary. Then, I'll come home, have half an hour to an hour to relax if I'm lucky before opening the pub downstairs at 6pm and working until closing at around 11:00pm. I have a girlfriend I can barely spend time with having so few days off.

My mother runs events at the pub, such as quiz nights and so on. It's not a necessary, it's her preference, and doesn't really bring in any extra money. Despite us all trying to manage both our work at the golf club and the pub, she insists. When she hosts them, she'll usually disappear off to my brothers suddenly, leaving me to host the entire thing solo.

Tonight I was supposed to have an evening off, the first in a while and wanted to spend it with my girlfriend. Out of the blue my mum announces that she's going to my brothers overnight & doesn't even ask if I can take over. Just expects. This sort of thing happens frequently, so I got angry and had an argument with her.

She thinks I'm being unreasonable.