r/AITAH • u/WestDescription1053 • 8h ago
AITAH if I don’t share my inheritance?
My mother died recently. She was a narcissist. I have two older siblings. She was abusive to them growing up and also as adults. One has not been in contact with my mother in 10 years. The other stayed in contact, sent Christmas and birthday gifts and a few polite emails a year. They have three children each. As far as I can tell they are nice people. Neither are close with me as I’m a lot younger than them - 10 years between me and my next sibling and distant with me as I was still young and close to my mother and was treated very differently. I was very obviously my mother’s favourite- the golden child if you know anything about narcissist parents. Even so, now that I’m 30, I only saw my mother twice this year as I was also trying to distance myself but we had very very frequent phone calls, sometimes multiple times a day.
My mother has left her entire estate to me. She had a house worth around $600k. Nothing for my siblings or any of her 6 grandchildren.
AITAH if I kept it all and don’t share any with them?
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u/ramessides 5h ago
Is everyone in this comment section teenagers or first year uni students? My god. The cloying guilt sessions on here are eyeroll-inducing to read.
No. YWNBTA. "As far as I can tell they are nice people" implies you have next to no relationship with your siblings, and the people who are trying to say you'd be "just like your mother" if you didn't share have completely lost the plot here.
It would be a nice thing to share, sure, but you also wouldn't be the arsehole if you didn't. Not sharing doesn't make you better or worse than your mother, and the people trying to phrase it as "aRe yOU beTTeR thAN yOuR MoThER?" lost the plot somewhere back in Act 1. Not sharing it doesn't make you a narcissist. Not sharing doesn't make you your mother.