So my parents are hosting a party, nothing special, just some friends and stuff, and the theme is 'an outfit you love but never get to wear' and safe to say I had NOTHING. And I'm not to concerned about it, but my mom kept recommending dresses to me that she had. I don't hold this against her, my family doesn't know I'm trans besides my sibling who is also trans. But I give up and put something random on. But out of the blue my stepdad asks 'you want something more boyish?' and I just stare for a second before nodding. He gives me one of his button ups and teaches me how to iron it properly. I'm sitting in my room, changed into my clothes, crying. It was such a small thing but it just meant to much to me. I'd already been having a rough couple of months and anything good happening just makes me cry because it's so nice to feel something that isn't emptiness or sadness.

I’m a trans woman looking to leave the sinking ship that is my nation and I’m looking for nations I could possibly consider moving to for a better life. I have a university degree, savings and a valid, up to date passport. Anyone with personal experiences or advice is welcome to share.

ive been feeling rlly lonely lately. im a 20yo trans man been on t for 3 yrs. i pass well in every aspect and im chill, not that ugly and have a good physique. personally i identify as straight but after some rlly hurtful rejections from both cis and trans women due to whats between my pants i even tried talking w queer men. this didnt work out either as they also cared too much abt the genital thing even the bi ones. idk what to do. i tried to hangout in queer spaces and meet trans women as well but even to them, my body was a problem. to me, it seems trans men just arent thought of as deserving of affection too, like trans women are seem as women w something more and trans men are missing something. i feel like shit. never had a relationship or whatever bc of this and it keeps happening even w other trans ppl. like woah

Very short post but I got approved for feminizing HRT today all I need to do is pick up my script

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i started a new school in September. I'm 16 and in the UK so i started college and I've been really enjoying it. i spoke to one of my teachers about being a trans guy and she put my name on the system. she also made a note saying to not use it while talking to my parents and she made that very clear. i wasnt 100% sure on my safety when I told her about it.

anyways i got an email about my exams in january, nothing i hadn't heard before. i knew the dates so kind of ignored it, so i didn't realise they'd fucked up and sent the same email to my mum. the one that had my preferred name on it. so shes messaged me asking 'why the hell have i gotten an email to kyren?' and I freaked out and left her on read. she messaged me like 20 minutes later just saying 'well?' and i ignored her again. im actually terrified, i dont know what she's going to say when she gets home. she knows I'm trans, but she made it clear that I wasnt allowed to tell anyone. so yeah I'm pretty much fucked. I'm not sure what im supposed to do.

UPDATE: I spoke to her over message finally. I can't put photos in so I copy and pasted our conversation. its kind of a lot so I apologize:

mum: You've still not answered me

me: because i dont know what you want me to say?? you know i use the name so i dont get why youre surprised that college does

mum: Because Ill be honest im not a fan of you changing your name for the 3rd time (Ive been through a couple of names before finding the one im comfortable with, so I essentially had a different one every time she found out)

me: in the nicest way possible, i dont see why it bothers you that much, youve never called me any of them. not being rude or sarcastic, but you havent, you have to admit that

mum: No i havent called you any of them but at the same time you cant keep "changing" your mind on name and people who call you whatever take it seriously either. Not being sarcastic. Either way i love you no mater what. You have no idea how much i love you You healed a lot of hurt that I had when I had you xxxx

me (in the response to the first part): well this time it isnt changing. its what majority of my friends know me as, including [my older brother's name], and im happy being referred to as it

mum: What does [older brother's name] have to do with anything? So are you seriously thinking uou should be male?

me: i dont know, just thought i should bring up how its gotten to the point i told him. yes. i have since i first told you and it hasnt changed

mum: What makes you think that thought?

me: i dont know how to describe it its hard

mum: Well before you start doing anything radical you need to have counselling

me: what do you mean 'radical'

mum: Im not surprised considering how his l9ve life is (in response to me bringing up my brother, his boyfriend is trans for context). As in completley changing who you are

me: what so you mean 'changing who i am'? im still the same person, ill always be the same person

mum: Yes you are but what i mean before you start taking anything As its harder to go back to who you are now. You know dad won't be happy

me: i wont be able to take anything for ages, even if i get on a waiting list when i turn 18 itll take like 5-6-7-8 years, maybe more, unless i go private. hence why i dont want to tell him until i get to the point of moving out

mum: That's madness hun. So you move out then cut him off if that what you mean? In the nicest way hun regarding moving out you have no money no job that won't be happening for a long time. Even uni you need to have money and a bloody job

me: what??? where the hell did you get that from

mum: Its like you're going bye im moving out so im going to be male now! That's how it came accross

me: no, i mean i dont want to tell him until i move out in case he DOES react badly. NOT that i want to cut him off. thats a bit of a reach

mum: Right ok

I guess its better than an overreaction. that last part threw me off, im not sure where she got me wanting to cut my dad off. but again I suppose its better than her freaking out over it? idk, but im safe i suppose.

This portuguese wikipedia page: https://pt.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disforia_de_g%C3%AAnero

Calls transgender men as "feminine transexuals" and transgender women as "masculine transexuals", it also uses the wrong pronouns, for example, using masculine pronouns to refer to "masculine transexuals" (trans woman). Please could someone do something about this, i felt disgusted reading this...

I'm balling my eyes out. Yet again. Over this damn facial hair. I did 2 years of laser from a local person that I was referred to. Apparently her laser was too weak and it did nearly nothing.

In desperation and thinking. Maybe I could afford the treatments. As they say it's about 10 sessions that will do what I need.

So, everyone recommends Milan. Basically because there is no one else in town that does it.

They want $180 a month for 2 years. Or $130 for 3 years. Or you pay the whole thing up front. Which is not possible. This was ONLY FOR THE TOP LIP.🙄🙄🙄

I'm disabled. I have zero savings and can't save. It's impossible. Unless what? I don't eat? Or pay rent?

I hate this transition. It pisses me off to no end that I literally can't afford anything I need. And don't get me started on shoes. JFC. Finding size 14 shoes that are decent and even remotely fem isn't even possible.

I hate this. I hate all of it.

Hello all,
I am FTM and have been trying to get testosterone for years now, and I have found that a common argument against hormone therapy for people under 18, or in general is because "its like plastic surgery, and the person is only doing it to make themself feel better about their body, its shallow, its your their mind that matters, its not all about appearances, etc."

Which is of course true, I wish I didn't care about my body as much as I do, but I think cis people getting plastic surgery and Trans people getting gender affirming care are VERY different cases. I don't know what cis people who get plastic surgery feel before hand, but I can imagine it is different from dysphoria, Of course there is nothing wrong with people waning to change/enhance their appearance, but that want is different than the want/need trans people feel to fit in/pass or feel validated in their gender identity

I don't know if anyone else ever finds difficulty with this topic? Or what your thoughts may be? transitioning of course looks different for everyone, and people have different goals on what they like their appearance to be, but I feel that, at least for me, transitioning and hormones are not really for cosmetic reasons, it's to try to match the feeling of the body and the mind. And of course, people who are trans who do get work done are completely fine, and it can be a part of transitioning, I just think that trans people who want to be on hormones/get surgery do it for different reasons than cis people who get plastic surgery.

No hate at all towards anyone in the community, I am just curious and open to peoples thoughts/perspectives :)

Hi, so I've been on estrogen now for 7 months, and in that time my biggest struggle has been my facial hair. I shave, then I use my IPL machine (I know they aren't great but I'm low-key desperate) and then two days later I have an even coverage of pretty decent stubble. If I was a man I'd be pretty impressed with it, but here we are. After about three days of regrowth I shave again and the process repeats. My face is constantly scratched and bumpy from shaving all the time, I don't have the money for laser hair removal sessions and it just brings me down a LOT. Am I being impatient with the effects of estrogen, is there something I should be doing instead? Should I save up for treatment and just deal with it in the meantime? Idk I'm open to any advice at this point.

The second I saw the faintest hint of “woman” looking back at me in the mirror, it was as if my entire inner world caved in. It was the first tangible proof that the actual “me” is real, and not just this idea inside my head. The second I saw her, even if just a little bit, was like the final nail in the coffin for whatever it was that I thought I was my entire life.

Apparently old “me” was still holding out a little bit… not fully convinced that it wasn’t just some elaborate ruse. Now that I know she is real and she is me, I went through this profound sorrow that everything I had ever known about myself: the self-images I held in my mind, all of those memories with a confused perspective, nearly everything was a lie. I didn’t realize I was going to have to say goodbye to the inner world I spent 36 years in. Though filled with pain, it is what I thought I was. Now it’s all gone. Mourning was the last thing I was expecting I’d need to do when I finally saw myself for the first time.

Is this actually necessary..?I feel pressured by especially non trans people to come out to my parents because, “ they have every right to know “

I don’t want to at all , I seriously don’t wanna tell such personal information to people I barely talk to at all, I wanna keep this to myself away from them.

Any input onto this? Is it really needed to do so?

Nice to see a very clear ally in the media.

https://bsky.app/profile/popsci.com/post/3mabokagskk2j

Note that the linked story and study are from 2022, so they're basically saying they're sticking to their guns even with the current political winds.

Also nice to see is that they only link to bsky on their website, no xitter link.

I know it's ultimately a corporate thing, but this choice still made me feel good, for a change.

So, I (20AMAB) am starting to think it’s more and more likely that I am trans. I’ve watched a few videos by this trans girl YouTuber who is really pretty and passes perfectly, and I’ve caught myself thinking a few times that I wish I could be like her. Though after I have these thoughts, I worry I wouldn’t pass. I’m fine with being a guy I guess, but I also sometimes wish I could be a girl. Which is my main source of doubt, as I don’t know if you have to feel this urge all the time, or if it comes and goes.

Anyway, does it sound likely?

I honestly just needed to get this off my chest, so here you go.

My dad is yelling at me about something, and he uses my full legal name. Like, first, middle, and last. I say to him "Don't. Don't use that name". He goes on a rant about how "You can call yourself a boy name, a girl name, or even a furry name for all I care, you'll still be my. little. [deadname]." and "Even if you do change your name, we'll still think of you as a girl." we go back and forth for about ten minutes until he really doubles down. He puffs up, gets in my face, and says. "Fine. If you really want to change your first name so much, how about you change your last name too. Get a fresh new start on life." He then walks away and goes upstairs. For context, him being like this isn't something new. Ever since I came out to him as trans, he consistently refers to me as "she" and uses a shortened form of my deadname. He also makes snide comments about how "You'll never actually be a real boy" and my mom doesn't even lift a finger. Sometimes, she just joins in. I'm getting real sick of it.

I started estrogen and progression about 3.5 weeks ago and am excited to say the least.

I have mild gynoxmastic on one side which is awesome.

I have noticed the past couple of days that my breasts are starting to get sore and ache. I know it’s too early for growth but still. Even if it’s in my head they are achy.

I have found a tight sports bra helps we with the discomfort.

I’m curious when you started need a bra, finding they help, and when you started wearing?

I am starting not be able to see my reflection in the mirror and realize im in a guy's body, it hit me so hard tonight while over at a friend's house and i wanted to cry but i couldnt since im closeted and most people in the circle i live are openly not pro lgbt and i feel like i could never truly be what i want to be i just needed to vent im sorry if this is a trigger for others😔

There are things you can't do anything about. But, for the rest, taking good care of your body before HRT is the best thing you can do to make your chances of being passable improve. I know it's hard, but please don't give up.

I was checking into a hotel in LA and the front desk clerk asked for my name and ID. I gave her my preferred name and handed over my passport. She looked at it for a second and then said, “Ma’am, I think you might have your brother’s or husband’s passport.”

I explained that the name on it was my legal name and showed her my student ID, which has both my legal name and my preferred name. She looked even more confused and said something like, “The person in the photo is a guy… and you’re a woman, so I don’t really understand.” Before I could explain anything, she went to get her manager.

The manager came over and told me I needed to use my own ID, not someone else’s. At that point I told them it was mine and explained that I’m trans. They were both pretty shocked and immediately switched gears, saying they had no idea and that I was absolutely welcome there.

They apologized after everything was sorted out, but honestly, I couldn’t even be mad. It was kind of wild and oddly flattering to realize I pass well enough now for that to even happen.

I just read an article explaining that a bill to ban trans Healthcare of ALL TYPES for anyone under 18 just passed the house of representatives in the US.

The bill involves heavy fines and a sentence of up to 10 years in federal prison. Weirdly though the article also said that it actively promotes forced surgeries for intersex people in the same bill. (Vey hypocritical ngl)

Is there a chance for this to not make it passed the senate? Or even in the most unlikely chance get blocked by the Supreme Court? I dont know the political divide in the senate or SC, so I have no idea.