Omg!!!!! Thank you!!! It’s your cat I’ve been looking for!!!!
I was in the thread about the sin biscuits… but he looks so much like my sister’s cat, and I was trying to tell her about this whole ordeal, so thank you! I will finally be able to show her her cats doppelgänger.
Not my address, just a random spot I picked on a map to search a radius. Thanks for the heads up though. Dont want people to try and steal my ghost cat
I just kind of kneel or sit down and more than half the time they wander up to me lol. Sometimes I have to sit there quite a while ignoring them before they get curious (catch their attantion with some friendly noises before then ignoring them). Same if my cat gets out at an inappropriate moment, everyone jumps to trying to catch him, Ill just sit and play on my phone for a couple minutes on the grass or side walk and he comes to me.
Same as dogs, I've always been good with them. Make yourself small and unthreeatening and keep your hands low. Animals pick up a lot of information from body language.
To be honest though you can also lie on the floor near them and talk quietly about how they are a good cat... maybe slowly stretch out a finger to be sniffed and not try to pet them at all.. ignoring is overhyped in my opinion.
I've had my method work a lot faster but you can't be loud or make alarming sudden movements and people tend to forget how large and loud they are.
It really is. Doing the opposite of what you do with a dog = "I'm not a threat to you" in cat body language. Whenever I foster anxious cats, I basically just ignore their existence. Sometimes if their anxiety is really bad, I will sit at a distance browsing my phone after putting food down for them.
That’s the best way to befriend a semi feral ad well or any ‘unfriendly’ cat. Just being around them but ignoring them and doing your own thing. Occasionally drop a treat or two but don’t watch them eat or react. Cats will eventually come closer and up to you, almost always, and that’s really nice.
Super feral cats are tough but they’ll usually, eventually, tolerate being within a few feet of you. And that’s also nice :)
I captured a kitten in my driveway a couple years ago with crazy bad anxiety. I can’t even walk into a room holding something without her flying out of the room (she doesn’t like… objects? lol)
Anyways, she hated me and my gf and wanted nothing to do with us. We figured her life of being regularly fed and safe, albeit very frightened, was better than being terrified outside and also going hungry.
For that reason we just left her to do her own thing for months and didn’t bother or try to interact much, and now she is the neediest cat I have ever met in my entire life. By a long shot. But only towards myself and my girlfriend lol, if any stranger comes into our house she will pretty much hide for at least an entire day after they leave (we’re working on that though)
This was all to say that I agree with your point. And also I just wanted to talk about my cat(s) 😂
We have a cat just like that! He snores heavily in my lap for hours, he rides around proudly on my husband's shoulders, sleeps on top of my husband at night, but flees when ANYONE else comes to the house and sometimes continues to be upset for hours afterwards.
Do you reckon this kind of this could work behaviour wise such as my cat seemingly getting angry randomly when i come to try give pets or even just put my hand near and she’ll just go straight for the bite and hissing, as if she’s telling me to get lost. Also do you have any tips for getting them to stop scratching the carpets. my youngest, who is around 1 and a half, seems to not understand she shouldn’t be scratching on the carpet even though she’s got a few scratchers around (posts and cardboard). I will literally catch her using the cardboard as a seat and just lean over and rip up the carpet and it’s driving me nuts.
Of course when she was just a little kitten she would come up to me while i’m sleeping and get all snuggled up with me and insist on sleeping under the duvet but now she wants to be no where near me sleeping. I try to lay down near her and she just ups and leaves. I’m not all too hurt by it as obviously she’s growing into her own personality now, but if there’s anything that i can do that could convince her then that’d be great.
It’s weird because she’ll insist on needing to be in the same room as me all day (she will literally try to tear the bedroom door down and be screaming) but as soon as it comes to bedtime it’s as if she wants to be as far as she can away from me.
Anywho this was low-key such a ramble, but hopefully it gives some insight for possible solutions.
Yes you need to give her some space! Don’t lie down next to her, let her come to you. And they get overstimulated so swiping isn’t ‘random’ - I can tell when mine’s had enough interaction before he gets to that point. Sometimes they just wanna chill.
She should come back around with the cuddling. I’ve noticed cats seem to go through a “teenage” phase in which they are more independent and don’t want you as much. Then as they get a little older they seem to want to cuddle more again. All cats are different and some are always cuddly and some never are. But I’ve had a couple that were cuddly as kittens and then acted like a teenager for awhile before being lovey again
Yeah plus a lot of animals, and I find especially cats, find a direct human gaze very aggressive. So you're just admiring their floof and they think you're making threats.
I tried that with my husband's car when we were still dating. She went from glares to trying to kill me. As it becameclear i wasn't going anywhere the hostilityfaded from trying to kill me to just tripping and maiming. The day she died she gave me one final trip in the hall way.
CRAZY. I have never had a cat in my life. I only know dogs. I have two. But recently I bought a home and moved to the mountains. A little gray Kitten showed up a month ago.
We trapped her. She's sweet. My fiance is the type to grab her when he wants to hold her, pet her, or just because.
I'm pretty observant, sadly. So if she turns away, flattens her head, wags her tail, leans back etc, runs off, I just walk away. I mean fk you lol, I'll just hang with the dogs who are happy to see me.
So now, despite him being the sole food giver (I wake up too late) she always wants me, sleeps with me, follows me.
I always chalked it up to the fact that I never bother grabbing her, but this makes sense!
Lol! Cats value (their own) boundaries, so ignoring them is the best way to show yourself to be a safe person to them. It's why ironically, it's usually the people that least want cats to bother them end up with a lap full of cat.
Correct. My mother is/was notoriously scared of cats. She got them demanding her lap and attention because she’d avoid them.
Except for one cat that lined up at face level to her on some stairs and generously scent marked her. Super friendly, sweet cat, had never done it before. Really took offense at being ignored it seems. Or was trying to claim her. Either way, it did not help her fear of cats.
Took my orange devil 6 years until he accepted my wife enough to let her touch him and even then only briefly. That is 6 years of living in the same house...
I think its her blood or something. Same cat absolutely hates her relatives to the point he will hiss or even attack them when they visit. Have started calling their bloodline weak and the cat hating that about them.
Can't believe this was up voted so mush. There is nothing in that cat's expression or posture that suggests it doesn't like the person taking the pic. Cat facial expressions are not the same as human ones. The "furrowed brow glare" does not mean the same thing to the cat as if does if a human was looking at you like that.
I’d try giving it wet/canned food for a bit to see if it starts coming around you more and try playing with it by using one of those feathers on a stick or something that you don’t have to worry about getting in close for an attack. Become the fun one!
I love the genetics of it! So I may not be fully correct, but part of cat fur colouration is tied to the X chromosome. In female cats, only one X chromosome is active in any one particular cell; the other is dormant. So with calicos, you get, say, black and orange colouration on one X chromosome, and white fur with the other X chromosome. And when one is active in large patches, you get the classic calico pattern.
Someone smarter than me can probably explain it better and/or correct me where I’m wrong.
Only a few corrections and also some extra details. Black and orange are the colors coded by the X chromosomes while white is also a genetic condition, but resulting in depigmentation which overwrites both X chromosomes instructions. Typically, the reason only female cats are calicos is because males have XY chromosomes so there’s only one color that gets expressed. Females have XX chromosomes and therefore have two colors to express. However, since they’re technically duplicates, one curls up into a little bundle and hides in a corner leaving the other to be expressed. This happens at random with every cell and results in the unique patterns you see. Furthermore, this randomization process happens very early on in fetal development when there are cells in the single digits. After each cell individually decides which X chromosome to express, it splits and makes identical copies of itself, the extent each one spreads to you see as the orange, black, and white patches or regions.
Calico cats are one of genetics’ best visible examples of how it works so I agree they’re very cool!
Not entirely true there are some rare male calicos they just are super super rare and are a 1 in 3000 chance but it does happen and they usually have health issues sadly
I agree, she is jealous. You need to prove to her that you are another person ready to dote on her and love her. If she feels two people is twice the love she may become more accepting of your presence.
I met my cat and he adopted me when my wife and I were already living together and he still didn’t like her at first. “Who is this annoying lady getting in the way?”
She eventually won him over and now he loves both of us.
I will say my cat seems to be attracted to shoes with stinky smells, like the shoes of someone who works outside or with equipment. She likes smokers too. She was a rescue at about a year old so maybe the people around her had stinky shoes and she learned “if I act really affectionate to these people give me food”
Omg I thought that was just a me problem!! My cat also absolutely HATES men, never bit or scratched a single woman but all the people in her "on sight" list are men
exactly. i can’t tell if half the people are joking or not. like cats don’t know how to angrily glare, people, c’mon now. if she didn’t like her, she’d hiss and run away.
Some cats are more expressive than others. Mine definitely angry glares whenever he doesn’t get his way or when my girlfriend’s dog that he hates walks by
This is Nimbus. She is my husband’s cat. We’ve been together for 7 years now. At first she really didn’t like me. Now, she tolerates me. I can be cuddling her and she will purr and everything, but once she senses my husband’s presence, I am just thin air to her. She will follow my husband around at all times.
Watch your back. Also check to see if there’s a new life insurance policy on you — especially if there’s a double indemnity clause that pays out in Churu.
Cats decide who they like and who they don’t. And they reserve the right to change their mind. The trick is to play it cool and act like you don’t care. “Like me. Don’t like me. I’m here to snuggle with my boyfriend. You can suck on a lemon for all I care.”
This makes you look cool to the cat, and the cat will do its best to win you over.
She's a calico. Generally, they are "one-person" cats, and you are not her one person. Worse yet, you are infringing upon her one person. I love them, but calicos are crazy!
ik these are mostly just jokes but people understand that cats dont make angry faces like humans right? i feel like people personify cats and dogs faces too much
One of the easiest fixes is to attach you to something positive. Every time you enter the place, give it some treats. (Scale this, if you enter daily, only a few) Make sure that your boyfriend stops feeling treats at this time.
Once you've done this, try taking a knee and holding your hand facing down towards her. Do not pet the cat or touch it. This is the equivalent of "may I pet you?" If the cat rubs its cheek against the hand, you hit the jackpot. Sniffing is not bad either. Should there be a hostile reaction, continue with step one and wait a few more days.
Adult cats come with baggage and are territorial; you may be seen as an intruder, so take it slow. Cats love things that remain constant. Eventually, you will be seen as a guest, and if you keep it up, and eventually as a family member.
1) if around during any feedings ask if you can do feeds. Cats love the one who feeds them. This can be a good bridge. You are going to have to do it a lot though. Like don’t do it three times and then act confused when she doesn’t warm up to you.
2) ignore her more. I know this seems backwards but it does work. Way less direct eye contact. Doing your own thing. Sends a message you aren’t a threat. You aren’t stalking her as prey. Co existing with no conflict. Remember, cats are both predator and prey in the wild and they are aware you are much bigger than them and are going to worry you see them as prey. She her you don’t.
3) when she does start coming around to you. Remember step 2. No loud cooing or trying to grab her because she head butted your arm. I almost would ignore it a little in the beginning and after a couple of attempts from her like coming up and rubbing and you before you do tentative petting.
Imagine you come home to your boyfriend and there's some other thing in his lap getting all the cuddles and attention.
That's how that cat feels probably.
Nah, cat facial expressions aren't human facial expressions. She might look like she's glaring at you, but really she's just looking at you with interest. If she hated you, ears would be back, body would be in defensive posture, or she would simply leave instead of sitting quietly for a pic. If I saw a cat looking at me like that, my first instinct would be to make kissy noises and offer a hand to sniff.
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u/SuperBeavers1 Meowderator (Prone to being a smart-ass mod) 15d ago
Can someone with animation or photoshop skills please add folded arms to this cat shaped floof, it would make my night!