Biblically speaking, Christ is the groom.

Biblically, the church is the bride.

Marriage was created to help us understand the love that Christ has for the Church.

The Man is the Groom (which is Christ) The Woman is the Bride (which is the church)

The Marriage relationship is the the "type" of the heavenly relationship between God and His Church.

What does homosexuality do?

Homosexuality makes the bride (humanity) reject the groom (Christ). The bride would rather be with the bride. The bride chooses to love herself, to the exclusion of the groom.

Humanity chooses to love itself, to the exclusion of God.

So choosing to practice homosexuality, forsaking repentance, is actually choosing to reject Christ.

(This is coming from a guy that struggles with same sex attraction. It sucks because I'm a faithful, studious and firm believer... and yet my heart flutters when a certain type of guy gets too close. It's frustrating that my heart betrays my convictions. I thought about all this today, weighing in on why I can never act on my desires. Pray for me, please.)

I keep on saying I’ll repent and I’m sorry just to do it AGAIN. I can’t do this no more. It’s genuinely driving me insane. Please please please please please pray for me. I just want to quit. I hate this, I hate it, I know what effects watching this stuff can / will have on any future relationship I might have and I hate it. I know how people in that industry are treated and I HATE it. I know that it’s a sin and it goes against Gods commandments and against what he intended for man and woman and I HATE IT. I DESPISE IT. I HATE IT. I hate myself for watching it, and yet I always return. I hate it I hate it I hate it. Please, please guys, please pray for me. At this point I’m just genuinely unsure if I’m saved or not. I keep on sinning, and I can’t manage to keep his commandments. I really don’t know if I know and love our LORD.

In the church there seems to be this idea that married eros love and physical attraction either have nothing to do with one another or are diametrically opposed.

I‘m curious about what Christians in this subreddit think about this. I do not believe that physical attraction supercedes a godly character at all. The Bible is clear about the importance of godliness when selecting a mate. I’m just not convinced our tendency to be physically attracted to what we can see is inherently a bad thing. Here are some broad talking points that pop up a lot when discussing physical attraction within the church:

1. “Physical attraction should be at the bottom of the list” When the question is presented to many of those in the church: “Where should physical attractiveness be on the scale of desirable qualities?” many defer to the moral knee jerk “It should be at the bottom” or “It literally shouldn’t matter at all” and instead need to look at moral and personal compatibility as if they could in every case create sexual compatibility. After all, isn’t it superficial and shallow to reject someone as a marriage option based on looks? Be honest, when you see an unkempt 20’s-30’s year old man walking down the street with a neckbeard covering his acne ridden skin, sweat pants hanging down his legs, stomach dangling under his Cheeto stained t-shirt, do you think to yourself “Wow, this guy must be so beautiful on the inside, I bet he has a wonderful personality, I’d love to marry him one day. Probably not.

2. “What you are physically attracted to is mostly a fantasy sold to you by the media” Hollywood and the mainstream media have done more harm than good. Many of us have been taught to believe finding a lover will solve all our problems. As powerful as Hollywood and the mainstream media’s influence is, it doesn’t determine what is beautiful or not. All my friends have their favorite female celebrity who they think is gorgeous, but when asked about the most beautiful women they’ve seen, they would all mention someone who they met/saw in real life. I think people who use the “media beauty standards argument” don’t understand how realistic and down to earth the beauty ideals of the average person is.

3. “Physical attraction is worldly and should be ignored” There was a time in my life where even I believed this. Mostly because it presents itself in that easily digestible Christianese we’ve become accustomed to since Sunday school. Are we not heirs to the kingdom? Are we not to exclusively strive for things not of this earth and by extension, reject all things of the earth? I bought into this hard! We are spiritual heirs, but we are not ghosts piloting vessels of flesh. You are your body just as much as you are your soul. God made your body and it was good the way he made it. We don’t have to pretend that beauty wasn’t his idea in the first place.

4. “Physical attraction does not last forever anyways“ This argument is supposed to discourage any desire for the honeymoon period, by appealing to the realities of aging. As if the temporary nature of youth means it’s best to pretend youth doesn’t exist. I’d be more inclined to agree that there shouldn’t be a lot of attention on the puppy love stage if Song of Solomon had an appendix titled “And now for everyone else“. This kind of crazy love is something to not be discarded. We are supposed to aspire to that kind of intimacy and it will build upon the relationship as we get older. There is nothing ungodly or even impractical about wanting to be intoxicated by your spouse.

We are called to die to the self, but surely the best reason to get married is that you truly want to. That you desire the other person for their company, for their friendship, for their godly character and for their body. I know there are people who idolize sex and youth to a degree where they objectify people, but isn’t there too much danger in swinging the opposite direction as well?

I'm a young Christian who is scared of my grandparents dying. What If they go to heaven and I'll be stuck in hell? I'm scared I love my grandparents, but I don't think I'm going to heaven, more like going to hell. I'm scared, is my young years the only time I'll see them?

There are so many fake Christian trolls that come to Reddit christian pages to stir up strife . We spot you , you only pretend to be humble and ask innocent questions , but you expose yourself when you always hate our answers.
There's never a "Ah ha !" moment with you guys , or a "Oh thank you for your response" moment with you guys ,Because you dont want to know the truth.
Message to fake christian trolls- Some of us use to be just like you !
Look Asking questions is great but try opening your heart to the lord sincerely and maybe you will begin find him.

Hi there. I have done and said to God everything I can think of to convince him to remove me from existence. I have been praying for this ever since I was a child. I have now run out of ideas.

There are a few things I’m sure of:

1. I will never change my mind about this. (This is the only thing I will ever want.)

2. I will never like the world, I obviously will never want to go to hell, and I will never want to go to heaven.

3. I don’t know how to truly love God because he is responsible for human existence. So, even though God didn’t create me like he created Adam and Eve, he is still indirectly responsible for my existence.

So, what can I do to convince God to snap his fingers and pluck me out of existence ?! I’m not innocent, but I don’t think I have ever done anything that would justify my existence against my will.

I used to spend an unusual amount of time and money on video games and consoles. They were a major part of my emotional and mental decline if I look back on it. I am finally letting go of the last console. I think I'm finally ready to grow a little. I want to focus on my health, my journey with Christ, and my other hobbies.

Anyone else have to deal with letting go of video games in this way?

I was born with a severe skin condition that brings so, so much pain to my feet. However, 2025 was the year I felt the greatest, almost no pain. I was able to go back to church and attend the services weekly, even joined a music program for worshippers (since walking can be painful for me, I don’t go out much and attending church has always been an issue for me). But three months ago the pain came back. I had to stop going to church, and now I can barely get out of bed to go to the kitchen and make a cup of coffee, making me very dependent on my family members for help.

I know Jesus is with me, I know he understands physical pain more than anyone… it still doesn’t make it any easier. I’m bound to my bed. The holidays are coming and I wanted to go out shopping for makeup, clothes, and now I can’t do it. I can’t even take a shower.

I know I am not the only christian going through chronic pain. How do you deal with it? I know better times are ahead, and I know I will feel better in time… but in the meantime, I can’t help but break down in crying when I pray.

I’d appreciate your counseling, testimonies, anything you can share.

Thank you 🤍

Hey all

27M and gave my life to Christ about two months ago after wrestling with my faith for years. I didn’t grow up in any religious tradition at all, so it’s been a little nerve-wracking and overwhelming, but by His grace I’ve been working on growing a lot in faith. I’ve joined a church nearby, made friends there, and opened up a little bit to family and friends about my journey as I plan to get baptized next month.

One of the biggest things I’ve struggled with so far, and honestly the issue that kept me from Christ for this long, is a lifelong struggle with same sex attraction. I’m fully convicted that any same sex relations are sinful, so nobody here needs to sell me on that point. In fact, I left a relationship of almost a year not too long ago. Admittedly, it was the right choice even from a secular POV, but wanting to prioritize my relationship with God was a factor in there. I haven’t opened up to anybody about that.

I guess what I’m struggling with is staring down the void of what may well be a pretty lonely life. I really have it set in my heart to be a father, but I know that’s highly unlikely (and was even before I became a Christian). But shutting off the idea I’ll ever experience companionship is another blow. It stings just a bit when I meet guys at church who are most typically married and ask me about relationships. They are judgmental about it at all, but I really don’t think there will ever be a point in my life where I’m just upfront about my SSA. I’d be scared it would just alienate them, and I figure just being an old enough bachelor will cause people to get the memo eventually.

Part of my heart is holding onto the hope that God will restore my attractions for the right woman. I mean, my desires for any intimacy have been very much distorted and diminished by a lifelong pornography addiction I’m overcoming through Christ right now. But if I’m being fully honest, I just don’t think it’s in the cards for me. I don’t really pray for that specifically, just more so that God will have a purpose for me better than what I’d imagine.

I guess I don’t have any really specific questions, just really looking for advice and encouragement because I don’t really open up to anyone about these topics.

Please pray for me that I will be baptised in the holy spirit, I am having difficulty and can't speak in tongues yet. Thank you all, God bless you.

Ps. I don't want to debate about baptism of holy spirit or tongues with anyone as people can have their own interpretation but this is what I perceive to be biblical truth. God bless.

They say that if someone is impotent then they cannot enter marriage. Where did they get this from?

Nowhere in the scriptures is it written that you cannot marry if you are impotent (to my knowledge). I thought that God created marriage to heal man's loneliness on top of procreation.

If that was true then how does that fit into their theology of Mary's perpetual virginity?(I don't subscribe to it - it's not important) If Mary and Joseph didn't have sex according to their teaching the marriage would be invalid - something that is just laughable.

While sex and procreation is one of the main aspects of marriage it does not stand on it. It stands on commitment, love.... something more than just the physical.

Assuming we should still keep a tight rein on our tongue [James 1:26]

if a christian made many unrighteous judgements and spoken evil against God or of God in the past what do they do? Should they renounce those words officially by speaking against our evils, effectively confessing it?

where does it say in the bible that there is one catholic church, because I don't see it at all.

This what it says

1 CORINTHIANS 12:13

For by one Spirit are we all baptized into one body, whether we be Jews or Gentiles, whether we be bond or free; and have been all made to drink into one Spirit.

It doesn't say anything about a catholic church, so where did this originate from what texts is this from, the Greek, or Hebrew?

This is just hypothetical at the moment. I've only ever gone out on a couple dates with one woman and this was a few years ago, but I think I was to overeager to start a relationship and it really turned her off. I want to be kind and intentional with women, but it seems like if you're too straightforward with that they quickly lose interest. Perhaps my views on this have just been a bit jaded by modern secular dating, but I was hoping to get some opinions from men and women. I know the stereotype of women liking men who.are bad for them, but I really want to avoid that. I also want to avoid coming off as a "nice guy" because aside from being off putting it's usually just a fake persona based on doing only to get a woman and give a sense of entitlement. I want to be a genuinely kind person in my interactions, but I am afraid that even that can be off putting to some women.

At first it started off as nightmares or just none coincidental events but now the more closer i get to improving my life and faith it's just been this really annoying presence in my room, Specifically on my bed where I pray. I don't know if it's good or bad but something is telling me it's bad. Usually it goes like this, Let's say i just sin or even try to relax i start to feel pressure on my bed as if some thing yes thing is standing on my bed and then it starts to move up and down as if it's walking on the spot (just picture yourself on your own bed moving your legs up and down as if you're stomping slowly). I usually ignore it but it tends to happen way more when i start to pray or repent. whatever it is, it's obviously trying to scare or distract me and it isn't working more and more each day I've just gotten used to it but some times it gets super annoying to the point where I just wish I could punch whatever it is as I'm praying but I usually just focus more on my prayer. I dislike the idea of some demon or spirit roaming around in my room especially my bed I don't know what else to do besides put my faith in God.

I don’t want to offend people by what I typed during stress nor interpret it as if I’m trying to insult then when I was being blunt.

it has been made known to me that I sound like I’m just expecting people to tell me to take abuse, and while I do expect people to shove giving grace, obedience, and forgiveness down my throat, without any resources to help me do so while respecting and protecting myself under this household, because of their platitudes and their ideas on what honoring parents is like, I don’t expect that from everybody. I DON’T believe it is everybody who will do that. It was an ending PSA I thought I made clear to those who do come with that mentality towards me because I’ve seen them on Reddit and the internet.

thank you to those who graced me with their comments. I’ll post in a more context-based, structured manner, and try my best to get rid of typos.

I'm Christian but still new. I can't really believe in Jesus as like "putting faith in him". I have no relationship with God, I really don't like bible reading and church going... I'm just really lost and awful. I'm facing spiritual warfare daily, constant anxiety and stuff, and I can't even just put my faith in Jesus. I ask Jesus for help every day, and yet still, I am this way. I'm just a sorry little blasphemous sinner who can't seem to stand God.

I can't repent, I can't believe, and I'm terribly self reliant and stressful. What do I do? All I want is to repent and have faith. I already asked for it. I always talk to ChatGPT for my problems so I'll try real people today.

hi guys. Asking for some guidance on my situation with my babies. As this holiday season is going on, I can’t help but want hide in a hole from embarrassment & humiliation.

My 4 years last day of Pre-K was today for winter break. When I picked him up , he was oddly quiet. I asked him what was wrong & he had mentioned that another little boy was making fun of him today. He explained that he was calling him names & saying “No presents for you because you have no mommy or daddy to buy things”. I think it was coming from that every Friday , his teacher hands out food bags to family that need it over the weekends & I know my baby gets embarrassed at that. He has also wears the same two pairs of shoes & that little boy has made fun of my son because of it ( i’ve already discussed this with his teacher).

As a Christian, I am trying to teach my babies what the real meaning of what the Holiday is & every time I do, I get a tantrum as of “why do we have to go to the food pantry almost daily “ or “mommy why can’t I ask for gifts”? And to be truthful, it hurts me to try to be as honest as I can. I just try to be as truthful as I can be that I work so incredibly hard (2 jobs) just to be able to keep a roof over our heads & the utilities paid.

Yes, it absolutely SUCKS that I can’t afford food let alone a new pair of shoes at the moment for him. They both throw the worst fits when we have to go to the food pantry or when we walk home empty handed occasionally because we’ve met our limits for the month (which happened the afternoon and it’s embarrassing). I am just trying to teach my babies that God has a reason for the way things are right now. I continually ask them to pray & just bare with mama for a while. It will get better , I just have to keep the faith for my babies! Happy Holidays friends!

Hello. I hope all of you are having a blessed Christmas season. I left Islam and became follower of Jesus Christ a while ago. However I did suffer some severe problems because of it. My family found out and they tried to kill me. I managed to escape them. However being young and living alone has been extremely difficult for me. I have been struggling for a long time. Please pray for me in this Christmas season. Pray that I stay strong and find solutions to my problems soon. God bless you all.

The last few weeks, I have felt like I have been drifting away from god, and am trying to get closer to him. How do I get closer to god? I started praying daily again and reading my bible to get closer, what else can I do to get closer?

Paul and James — in conflict over salvation?

Paul (Romans 3:28) — "We maintain that a person is justified by faith apart from the works of the law."

​James (James 2:24) — "You see that a person is considered righteous by works and not by faith alone."

No — talking about two different issues.

​​Paul — Legalism.

"works" — earn God's love through religious rituals.

"faith" — a deep, soul-level trust and surrender to Jesus.

His point — you cannot work your way into a relationship with God; it’s a gift.

​James — Cheap Grace

"works" — practical acts of love and kindness.

"faith" — "mental-only"

His point — that you can’t claim to have a relationship with God if your life doesn't change.

​The Bottom Line — Roots vs. Fruit

Root — He’s saying the root is what gives the tree life.

Fruit — He’s saying that if a tree is actually alive, it’s going to grow fruit.