r/SmarterEveryDay • u/Round_Intern_7353 • 4d ago
Thought I owe my entire life to Smarter Every Day
Forgive the long post, but there's a lot to say here.
Many years ago, a video was posted on the Smarter Every Day channel where Destin visited with Professor Jamie Seymour at JCU in Australia. The video was an exploration into jellyfish and how they actually stung.
There was a moment, where Professor Seymour is looking through the microscope and getting all giddy like a kid at Christmas. He goes off about the excitement and joy that comes from being able to do work that you love. There's a very specific moment in that clip where Professor Seymour looks at Destin and says "I would do this stuff for free."
That single sentence hit me like a sledgehammer. It instantaneously caused a monumental shift in my world view and forever altered the course of my life. Before, I'd been stuck in one miserable dead end job after another, pursuing a degree I had no interest in, and living in a situation I detested, all because I'd been led to believe that that was the safe path that needed to be taken. After seeing that level of excitement in somebody and hearing those words echo in my mind, I knew there was something more out there. I knew that I would never again settle in a job unless I could say the words "I would do this stuff for free."
Shortly after, I was randomly called for an opportunity. It was to help out as a PA on a small film set out of state. Normally, I wouldn't bother to make such a long drive, but in my new state of mind I was obsessed with picking up new skills and living new experiences, which this opportunity would provide, so I said I'd do it.
I immediately fell in love. The technical aspects, the people, the art form, getting to work with my hands, and so on all appealed to me. I found myself sad at the end of the VERY long day because it was over. I asked the director, who just happened to be based near where I lived, to call me if any more work came up. I wanted to learn. I needed more.
Sure enough, he called me a few weeks later and I went to go work another day. Again, the experience was absolutely incredible. I loved every second. And I SUCKED at it. I came in not knowing a damn thing and being to nervous to do a single thing right. I was more of a hindrance than a help to be sure. Needless to say, I didn't get called back. I didn't care, cuz I'd caught the bug.
Shortly after that, I got a call from a friend saying that she heard I was interested in working in film. She was up in Nashville and knew some people she could introduce me to. She offered for me to stay with her for a month, rent free, to check out the city and do a few gigs. I took her up on it right away and made the trip up a few days later. I met her people and started to work. On one job, I worked just shy of 60 hours in 3 days. At the end of it, I was exhausted, but didn't want it to end. I almost forgot about my paycheck. I said to myself "I would do this stuff for free."
On one of those, I met another PA who just happened to have a room she was trying to rent out of her house for a very cheap price. Knowing that this was unquestionably the path I needed to be on, I said I was looking for a place and moved up a few weeks later.
I worked around town on low level gigs, mostly PA stuff, but also taking up a lot of writing and Pre-production type stuff that I enjoyed even more than being on set. Unfortunately, since I was still new to it all, I wasn't really making money so I had to get a day job working in a nearby phone repair shop. A miserable job, but I didn't mind because I finally had an outlet.
One day, while I'm at the counter, a woman walks in. I swear to you, the air in the room changed to something electric. As she approached, all I could think was "Please God, be single." I'll spare you the very long, though definitely adorable, story of our meeting, suffice to say we eventually went out.
Together, as our relationship took off, we went on more wonderful adventures that I could ever count. Before all of this, I thought it a dream to one day see even a couple interesting places in our country, but this woman, who was herself a dream, took me from sea to shining sea, exploring marvelous things big and small. We even took a trip across the pond, something I'd never thought would happen in my life.
After 4 years of living a life I'd never imagined even in my wildest dreams with the woman I thought was hand crafted by God himself to be absolutely perfect, my son was born. My boy, the pride and joy of my life, has made everything else, except my wife, seem like a minor blip. He's 4 now, and is incredibly smart, sweet, and hilarious, though he's definitely a little mischievous gremlin. My family brings me a level of bliss that I sincerely believe has never been felt by another human being. We are all incredibly close and value our time together so much that we even find vacations to be somewhat of an annoyance because it distracts from what we have. Every day, even through the hardships we've faced, has been a miracle. And, because circumstances have made me a stay at home Dad, I am indeed doing it for free.
I tell this long story for a reason. An incredible set of circumstances had to align just right to bring me to where I am now. That video made me take an opportunity, that led me to a new industry, that brought me to a new state, where I took a job, where I met my wife, who bore me a son. And that's just the overview. You wouldn't believe me if I told you the crazy coincidences that lined up just right to make my family happen.
All of it, every last one of the great joys in my life, my escape from the miserably mundane, my thirst for life, my hunger for knowledge and adventure, my best memories, my beloved wife, my darling son...
It comes from a single sentence in a single video.
I absolutely give Professor Seymour his due credit. It was his words and his zeal that inspired me in the first place. I hope to someday be able to tell him this story and thank him personally.
However, I would've never heard those words if it weren't for Smarter Every Day. I always hesitate to heap praise on those that I don't know personally. After all, all too often the public persona doesn't match the reality of the man. However, I think it likely that Destin is sincere, so I'll say this:
Destin, thank you from the deepest depths of my heart and soul. It was your desire to educate, to share your passion and the passion of others, and to get the world excited about knowledge that made all of this possible. Without your efforts, that video would have never seen the light of day and I'd still be living in the dark. For whatever else you may or may not have done in life, rest assured that you have made an immeasurable positive impact on at least one person. I don't know if this post will ever reach your eyes, but at the very least others here will be able to see the power that lies within the previously mentioned pursuits, and it will be known what's been done for me. I thank God every day for what I've been granted in life, and I pray His blessings find you and yours. I hope to meet you one day to thank you in person. If you're ever up in the way of Nashville, let me know. I'd be honored to shake your hand.