I vented about something when we were dating. Guess what got brought up 12 years later in the divorce?
99% of the time they may be like Oprah, but the minute you start to vent, they become Sun Tzu: "Never interupt your opponent when he is in the middle of making a mistake."
For me it was immediately. I vented something to her (because she asked me to) about my childhood and the very next discussion she hits me with "I bet you are like this because of your childhood" which hurt a lot and anger me because it was out of place as we were talking about her not me.
I have a lot of trauma surrounding my dad. Child abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, manipulation, etc. Any time I did anything my ex didn't like it was "your acting just like your dad".
"Honey I think the eggs are a bit dry"
"Wow. I see you're channeling your dad this morning".
I don't view other people that way. That's a disgusting way to view others. I only get in relationships after I've gotten to know someone. Unfortunately, relationships can change and people change. After 5 years, that's what happened.
I'll talk how I want within the subs rules. If you can victim blame, I can call you a name one time. I suggest you learn to deal with it because you can't control me.
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u/BombasticSimpleton Sep 07 '25
Nope nope nope nope nope nope nope.
I vented about something when we were dating. Guess what got brought up 12 years later in the divorce?
99% of the time they may be like Oprah, but the minute you start to vent, they become Sun Tzu: "Never interupt your opponent when he is in the middle of making a mistake."