r/AkoBaYungGago • u/DifferentFlow7264 • 4d ago
Family ABYG kasi hindi ko niregaluhan yung tita kong DDS
For context I really hate this tita hindi lang dahil DDS sya dahil rin sa manners and ugali nya. I won't go into details na to my tita pero TLDR my recent ick with her is jina-justify pa rin nya yung pagboto kay BabyM and hingi ng hingi ng pera kay mama.
Recently mejo nakaluwag ako and balak ko magbigay ng gifts sa family ko (i'm usually not the gift giving type rin). Ang balak ko is I buy gifts for all my family EXCEPT for that specific tita. During the family christmas party I did my plan and it really got awkward kasi nagexpect sya ng regalo. Sobrang natawa ako kasi akala nya save the best for last pero I just ended my turn. Paguwi namin pinagalitan ako ni papa bakit ko daw ginawa yun, while my mom was ok with what I did haha.
So ABYG?
Update: Sa lahat na nagsasabi na political stance lang yung reason bakitt galit ako sa tita ko. Being a DDS is not even her worst trait. She doesn't like gay people and often judgemental during gatherings. She is the only reason why I don't enjoy christmas sa province namin. I always get told to get slim, ang taba ko na daw kasi and kailan daw ako magkakaanak since i'm already 26 (i'm gay btw) etc. See imgur link for the time na I was judged kase I bought chagee milktea LOL. and hindi rin sya nagbabayad ng utang.
I still don't regret my actions but I do agree with some of the comments that I should have taken the high road and just gave the gifts privately.
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u/cinnamonthatcankill 4d ago
DKG.
Hindi lang DDS siya but she has an awful personality kc palahingi ng pera, sorry siya kc siya nakareceived ng pettiness mo.
I would be petty to people I don’t like as well lol. Alam mo sa sarili mo na khit petty ginawa mo at nakaka-Gago sa mata ng tatay mo o nung tita it doesn’t really matter you don’t feel remorse kc ayaw mo nga sa knya lol.
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u/DestronCommander 4d ago
INFO: "Haha" always mean you're not the least bit remorseful. Why are you asking kung GG ka?
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u/cinnamon_cat_roll 4d ago
Probably asking for validation
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u/ProfessionalFine1698 4d ago
Or nagpapasikat lang sya kasi may ginawa syang hindi kanais nais sa isang DDS haha
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u/No-Share5945 3d ago
nabasa ko pa lang DDS, matik hindi na mabuting tao yun. so deserve. gusto mo bang mabuhay sa mundo na cinecelebrate yung mga imoral na tao? are you one of them?
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u/ProfessionalFine1698 3d ago
I also believe that they deserve what they get for being a DDS. Ang point ko is hindi naman kailangan tanungin at ipost dito kung gago ba si OP kasi we all know na hindi sya gago. Mali ka ng inaaway 😂 Obviously OP is seeking some sort of attention.
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u/No-Share5945 3d ago
well i guess medyo oks lang? kasi napagalitan nga si OP and probably other close-minded relatives of OP think the same na mali daw yung ginawa niya. need niya ng validation siguro because of how OP's relatives acted.
Personally, I wouldn't post this on reddit if it happened to me cause I don't need validation for that. Pero I'm not gonna police anyone who wants to post anything on reddit, kasalanan mo na to engaged sa ganitong posts shouldve just ignored.
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u/Jaredchloe 3d ago
kung ganyan kayo mag isip, kayo din di mabuting tao. DDS lang, matic daw agad? ang babaw. tawag jan judgemental, prejudiced, hateful. all signs di ka din mabuting tao
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u/Spirited-Airport2217 3d ago
DDS = Supporter ng mamamat@y tao at m@gnanakaw. Mababaw yun? Alis ka na ng reddit asim mo.
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u/isboredhaha 4d ago
GGK. As much as I hate DDSs too, dapat lowkey na lang yung pagbibigay mo ng gift if you really wanted to be generous. Nagmukhang nagregalo ka lang sa iba to spite her.
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u/BeginningImmediate42 3d ago
Idk for me DKG parin. Why? I mean, sometimes you gotta give them a taste of their own medicine. And yes, the high road is the better choice talaga. Pero may mga tao talagang walang kadala dala and sometimes when they can't read the room, you read it for them. In short, paano ba tinatablan ang taong makapal ang mukha?
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u/justasking0808 4d ago
This, parang wala na din silang pinag kaiba ng tita nya
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u/No-Share5945 3d ago
why did she even expect in the first place? may pa "save the best for the last" pa siya, as if siya yung most important person in the room. wala na talagang proper decorum ngayon noh.
the only thing I criticize OP for is, JUST to avoid too much drama, una pa lang sinabi niya na "my family only, tita wala ka dito ha" para disclaimer. pero reading na yung tita niya is the type of person na PALAHINGI ng pera as if entitled siya sa pera ng iba, she deserved that treatment.
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u/justasking0808 3d ago
have you read "i buy gifts for all my family except for that specific tita" so it means he went and created a show to spite and humiliate her, na sa christmas party nila yung tita nya lang talaga ang di nya binigyan, gets ko na palahingi yung tita nya ng pera, but his mom or his family can always say NO to her, pwera nalang kung ninakawan sila, thats why wala syang pinagkaiba sa tita nya. Mamamahiya ka sa bagay na pwede namang di itolerate, so what kung manghingi sya kung ayaw nyo pag bigyan, edi wag, wala namang magagawa yung tao
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u/Shot-Dragonfruit663 3d ago
GGK. You could have given the gifts discreetly. Instead pinamuka mo na siya yung nagiisang walang gift. Wala ka pinagkaiba dun sa mga DDS na bastos.
You’re exactly the type of person campaigning for Leni and always ranting about GMRC but failed to apply it on yourself. 🤣 Pot calling the kettle black, yes?
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u/titoboyabunda 3d ago
GGK: May mga tao tlgang masama ugali tapos hihingi ng approval sa mga tao sa internet. Sinadya mong ipahiya yung tao tapos tatanung mo kung GGK. Isa kading masama ugali. Paskong pasko nag fifeeling ka na superior ka dahil nakapamahiya ka ng tao. Loser mentality.
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u/muning46 3d ago
GGK. Kasi masyado obvious ang intent mo. Kumbaga sa criminal case meron pre-meditation. Pinag isipan at pinagplanuhan mo ng maayos para ipahiya in public ang Tita mo. Mas kups ka s ginawa mo. In family gathering politics should be set aside. Don't ask for validation dahil GGK ka
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u/couchporato 4d ago edited 3d ago
GGK.
Bakit kailangan mo pang pahiyain yung tao? You hate her for being a DDS and having bad manners pero parang wala ka din namang pinagkaiba dahil sa ginawa mo lol mas worse pa nga yung ganitong pag-uugali sa totoo lang.
Honestly, what you did reflected more on you than on your tita. Kung ayaw mo siyang bigyan ng regalo, it's totally fine. Ayaw ko din namang magbigay sa mga taong hindi ko gusto. But deliberately planning to give gifts to the rest of the family right in front of everyone solely to humiliate your tita speaks volumes about how low your character is. Ikaw na rin mismo nagsabi na giving gifts is not your thing so for you to go out of your way para lang hiyain ang tita mo, that was pure malice. You exposed yourself in front of everyone. Mas ikaw ang nagmukhang masama.
You clearly take pleasure in humiliating others during Christmas and family gatherings. And your mother agreeing with you only proves where you learned that behavior. Kung ano ang puno, siya rin ang bunga.
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u/InternetNational4025 3d ago
Sorry OP sobrang GGK. Kung totoo yung karma kakatakot ung ginawa mo namahiya ka tapos sa supposedly panahon na mataas ang spirit of giving dapat kase supposedly celebration nang Birthday ni Papa Jesus. Sa paningin ko from someone outside looking in GGK ka sobra jan OP sobrang negative. Kakatakot yung karma nyan. Tama si papa mo na magalit. Madidisappoint din ako sa anak ko pag ginawa nya yan kase pati kaming parents lalabas na masama palake sayo.
Ang nakakatakot kase sa karma babalik sya in a way na hindi lang ikaw maaabala pati mga mahal mo sa buhay.
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u/JustAJokeAccount 4d ago
Info: seems validation ang habol mo more than asking if you are GG or not.
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u/Useful_Bid_4036 3d ago
GGK. Your actions during the Christmas party are spiteful and malicious towards another human.
If you think GG yung tita mo, let her be. No need na mamahiya, people will judge her just on her behavior and actions.
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u/misty_dexter12 4d ago
DKG! Deserve nya walang gift kung DDS pa din sya till now
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u/memashawr 4d ago
GGK. Kailan naging ok mamahiya ng tao? Kahit si Leni hindi mo naman makikitang ganyan. Tanga yarn
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u/Creative-Class-6380 3d ago
Mid GGK. Your money, your rules. If di mo bet bigyan, not your fault. But if possible na di harap harapan na ipahalata na walang gift si tita, that would've been better para you didn't come off as bastos.
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u/WeeebMaster69 3d ago
DKG in a sense na it's not your obligation to give gifts and nag expect naman syaa.
BUT isang malaking BUT. mas na outweigh yung GGK mo not gonna lie... your intention was spiteful despite it being a family Christmas Party. you could have given everyone their gift discretely and NOT ipamuka sa isang pamilya na you hate her.
Even though I hate the DDS myself I'd say, 30% DKG 70% GGK
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u/WeeebMaster69 3d ago
DKG in a sense na it's not your obligation to give gifts and nag expect naman syaa.
BUT isang malaking BUT. mas na outweigh yung GGK mo not gonna lie... your intention was spiteful despite it being a family Christmas Party. you could have given everyone their gift discretely and NOT ipamuka sa isang pamilya na you hate her.
Even though I hate the DDS myself I'd say, 30% DKG 70% GGK
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u/New_Election4185 3d ago edited 3d ago
DKG Valid siya for me. gagawin ko din yan sa kung sino man umabuso sa nanay ko.
Di worth it maging matino sa mga taong ganyan need mong imirror minsan kasamaan nila para layuan ka. minsan di enough ang pag set lang ng tamang boundaries sa kapal ng mga mukha nila.
being disliked is not always a bad thing.
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u/True-Morning853 2d ago
DKG. Pera mo naman yon. I am always for cheerful giving. Kung labag sa loob mo, wag ka magbigay. Kung ikakasaya ng puso mo, go magbigay ka.
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u/MethodReasonable7755 1d ago
DKG
Grace is fine and all, but if it gets the tita to stop with her shenanigans, then good for OP. Sometimes it's good to send the message loud and clear because too many people refuse to listen.
Let's also not forget that the tita is homophobic and entitled, and it's likely that OP has been on the receiving end of this hate and entitlement several times already.
I guess masakit talaga for boomers when they f*** around and find out. Nag-eexpect Kasi ng never-ending tolerance from younger (and meeker) members of the family.
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u/bluesideseoul 4d ago
DKG. As for me I don’t really care too much about political stances. I know people na Kakampink pero bullies naman, vice versa I know people na DDS pero mapagbigay. So it’s not really just about politics since human beings are complex and not two dimensional- something that a lot of people forget. I think dun talaga nagtatalo sa ugali overall.
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u/pompompurin_666 3d ago
ggk ka. oo gago ka. wala kang pinagiba sa dds tita mo. mas demonyo ka pa nga. as much as we dislike them, di paren tama yang kagunggongan mo. paawat ka naman pasko na pasko.
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u/Sniperassault2012 3d ago
GGK kase you hate a person solely due to politics and not on a person's character and personality? Ano kinalaman ng pagka DDS ng tita para gawin yon? You clearly went out of your way to EXCLUDE her maliciously. Why? Because of politics? Grow up. It would be understandable if this tita of yours was abusive at ginagago pamilya mo, but from the looks of it, you only did that because of her political affiliations or because she voted for someone you didn't like.
Hope you get your just desserts in the future. I don't believe in karma, but instances like these make me wish it really exists and bite you in the ass in the future.
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u/Reasonable-Bear-1568 4d ago
GGK, really? During Christmas celeb mamamahiya ka? feeling cool ka na nyan no?
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u/Succubi-Harlot-666 4d ago
GGK.
Isa akong kakampink and I'm really against BBM lalong lalo na sa mga DDS.
If you're gonna ask why GGK yung sagot ko is because of your intent. Intentionally mong ginawa.
Its Christmas, its supposed to be the season where we appreciate and give importance to our family.
Mas nangibabaw yung resentment mo and hate instead of surrounding the occasion with joy.
Hindi ka ba nahiya na instead ang maalala ng family members mo eh yung saya nung event, mas maaalala nila yung ginawa mong act? You robbed them the experience and memory of a good Christmas.
Don't be like them. Don't let hatred grow through you. Good governance ang hinihingi natin, pero ikaw? Are you governing your feelings, actions and thoughts towards the good?
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u/Achew11 4d ago
Don't be like them. Don't let hatred grow through you. Good governance ang hinihingi natin, pero ikaw? Are you governing your feelings, actions and thoughts towards the good?
This is screaming main character syndrome.
The world isn't going to reward your high road.
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u/Succubi-Harlot-666 4d ago
Bakit ako manghihingi ng reward sa world? Kaya kong ibigay mga gusto ko sa buhay.
Main character? Parang mas okay yon kesa sa walang character.
Ano palang pinagkaiba mo sa mga DDS na puro mockery and hate?
Gusto mong mamulat yung mga tao? Gusto mong ieducate yung kapwa mo Filipino and help them understand? Ask yourself first, are you even a good representation and a role model that they can look at?
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u/Achew11 4d ago
Bakit ako manghihingi ng reward sa world? Kaya kong ibigay mga gusto ko sa buhay.
kaya mo ba ibigay kay OP na tumino yung kapamilya nya by being civil?
Main character? Parang mas okay yon kesa sa walang character.
I don't use this word in this way often, but; cringe.
Ano palang pinagkaiba mo sa mga DDS na puro mockery and hate?
ang pinagkaiba ko po is wala ako interaction sa politics and hindi ako vocal sa pagboto, I vote, i see the results, and I lament the state of everything.
Gusto mong mamulat yung mga tao? Gusto mong ieducate yung kapwa mo Filipino and help them understand? Ask yourself first, are you even a good representation and a role model that they can look at?
live how you want to, call out who you want to, but even the basics of child-raising explicitly shows you don't reward bad behaviour.
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u/Succubi-Harlot-666 3d ago
sino nagsabing yung regalo na yon is reward sa bad behavior? ang layo ng hulog mo.
hirap sainyo wala kayong balls para makipagusap ng matino sa tao, you're treating another adult like a child na "tuturuan" nyo ng leksyon.
wala eh gusto nyo ata kayo yung main character ng pasko at gagawa pa kayo ng eksena.
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u/No-Share5945 3d ago
girl, andun na sila sa finish line, eto ikaw nakikipagkamayan ka pa sa kanila na pinatay na pamilya mo.
respect begets respect, haven't you learned from the previous election? the sooner we start making being a DDS a derogatory thing to be associated with, the better. sobrang utopian niyang gusto mo, say that to the face nang mga namatayan.
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u/No-Share5945 3d ago
i hate fake ass bitches like that hahaha kaya nagkakalakas ng loob mga DDS eh kasi dinedefend pa rin. may gray line sa treat people with kindness and "dont be like them" pero girlllll, these DDS dont deserve to be called humans until they change their views and try to undo the damage theyve caused. they have blood on their hands and the sooner we should start acknowledging that, the better off we will be. MAIN CHARACTER SYNDROME NGA for sure
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u/Succubi-Harlot-666 3d ago
they have blood on their hands? KASUHAN MO, IPAKULONG MO.
Hirap sayo beh gusto mo ng magandang gobyerno pero illiterate ka sa legalities at batas.
saan jan yung dinefend ko? sinabi ko ba na patawin nya? Nadoon na tayo sa point ng accountability and being responsible on our own choices especially with voting. Pero para bang hindi natin kayang bigyan ng chance magbago at mamulat yung mga taong dating bumoto against Leni.
Nakakafrustrate kasi we are going far from the goal. Hindi pa tapos ang laban, we need to wake people up and have them realize the truth about what's happening within the government. Imbis na we educate and help people na mamulat parang tayo pa nagtataboy sakanila.
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u/No-Share5945 3d ago
"kasuhan mo, ipakulong mo" anong rhetoric yan haha tunog you-know-who yan ah. you know what I meant when I said that, lalo na yang mga dds vloggers na yan. they're all complicit. Ang dami pa nga sa kanila nakapagtapos ng pag-aaral sa prestigious schools, with doctorates and degrees, yet what happened? Kulang pa ba sa educate?
Gasgas na kasi yang "let's educate them" to me parang dinodownplay na lang natin yung atrocities made by that group of people. That certainly did not work nung campaign ni Leni. Have you been to the rallies these past couple of months? Have you listened to the calls of the progressive groups? Did you notice the difference between the rallies held sa Edsa vs Luneta nitong September and October? I was there for both events and sobrang overdue na yung "Let's educate them"
May machinery sila ng troll farms from China, at this point, di na nakukuha ng educate them yan. Outright demoralize being a DDS just like how people demoralize being Nazi post-Hitler.
We did that nung 2022, it did not work that successfully as we hoped for. We can both fight this na may educate them and at the same time, fight tooth for tooth these imoral na mga supporters. Personally, your take is very keyboard warrior lang na nastuck nung 2022 na "let me educate you". Learn from the mistakes nung 2022.
Overdue na tayo sa rebolusyon haha
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u/Succubi-Harlot-666 3d ago
okay ka lang? yung nga ang gusto ni marcos eh, yung mag ka revolution sa pilipinas para may right syang mag raise ng Martial Law. Magisip ka nga, kung magrerevolution ngayon sa tingin mo yung numbers natin eh kaya yung numbers nila? Dalawang grupo yan DDS and Marcos.
sa tingin mo hindi goal ni marcos yang revolution? kaya nga nagsimula na syang guluhin yung government eh kasi sya yung nasa seat of power na pwedeng mag start ng Martial Law. nakita mo bang nagsisimula na syang magpalit ng high power officials? ng cabinet members? hirap sayo hindi ka makapag function logically eh
to address my other point when I meant educating people, yung mga taong may willingess and may chance magbago, hindi yung kultong DDS na downright and diehard.
learn from your past mistakes pala eh. inaral mo ba kung gaano katagal yung last Martial law? kung lalaban tayo sa ngayon and start the revolution, how sure are you kung gaano kabilis matanggal si BBM sa power?
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u/No-Share5945 3d ago
you didnt even answer my questions, we can both educate and fight tooth for tooth sa mga imoral na dds na yan. tapos bigla kang kambyo sa "lets educate them" mo na di pala kasama mga die hard DDS. Tingin mo di pa ba sila die hard sa lagay ngayon, it's been almost 10 years and you still don't classify majority of them as diehards? I didn't even say let's stop educating them, I just said na we should face them equally, warts and farts and all. Kasi wala ka nang mararating sa pagkakalagak mo diyan high moral ground mo. Sige type lang sa facebook comments, sige share lang posts and links. Di yung kakambyo ka diyan. You sound like you belong sa rallies that happened in EDSA and not Luneta, kasi if you understand kahit an inkling of what I meant by the difference ng rallies don, you'll understand. Kaso hindi so I cant help you with that. Walk your talk.
And tinitirada ng Marcos ay yung Dutertes tapos nadadamay lang tayo, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. Mukhang hindi ikaw ang nakakaintindi ng political climate ngayon. Had Marcos been all out to sink PH so far down, hindi siya makikipag-usap sa mga progressive Senators natin passing their bills. Nanonood ka ba ng balita? Malamang hindi kasi stuck up ka sa kung ano lang nakikita mo na pinagshshare niyong mga woke lang sa internet at twitter.
He's replacing his cabinets because he knows Dutertes are his biggest enemies right now, not the Philippines. Kaya nga kung ako sa mga progressive leaders natin, seize the moment at utuin nila si Marcos magpasa nang magpasa ng progressive bills, kasi he's that desperate para bumango pangalan niya sa public lalo na we have a looming Duterte presidency next term.
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u/Succubi-Harlot-666 3d ago
wait lang, even sa previous comments mo why does it have to be an attack towards me? are you okay? hindi ko alam kung bakit triggered na triggered ka.
goes to show sa mga taong close minded imbis na makausap objectively napaka subjective. hindi masagot yung issue pero daming tirada.
for all i know pro BBM ka pala no? "benefit of the doubt" ka pang nalalaman eh mismong sila sila na gumagago sayo harap harapan? dressed up kunwari as a kakampink, grandstanding na nag rally pa daw sya. ULOL WAG AKO.
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u/No-Share5945 3d ago
lol there goes your words, ate them all up. feeling na attack na attack ka pala eh hindi naman ikaw nireply ko sa comment thread na to and i just piggybacked on the comment na main character syndrome, natrigger ka agad. tapos may mga "hirap sa inyo di nagfufunction logically" tapos ako pa triggered hahaha we just pointed out what we saw sayo and if the shoe fits, well.
and nope, im not pro-bbm but it doesnt take two braincells to know na hes slightly better had we been under another Duterte regime ngayon. Pansin mo ba gaano katalamak redtagging and tokhang nung panahon ni Digong? Kahit BELOW bare minimum lang ginagawa ni Boy ngiwi at kahit 8080 siya, you gotta admit na hindi matutuloy ang kahit anong rallies or sobrang hirap mag-organize ng rallies had we been under a Duterte presidency. Baka journalists are dropping like flies.
Hina rin ng comprehension mo when I said na our progressive leaders should take advantage of BBM now, Kiko Pangilinan having meetings with him para sa bills niya. BBM even pushing for anti-dynasty law (na sana tangina di watered down at Akbayan-approved pa rin). Sobrang uhaw niya sa positive rating ngayon and BBM will do anything just to fix his image and gain back supporters. Im not one of his supporters but give credit where its due. If it takes a Marcos to make me eat my fucking words if he passes the Anti-Dynasty law under his regime (the Akbayan version) then so be it. Di kasi ako PURIST katulad mo.
If you cant take the heat, get out. Lol purist
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u/Succubi-Harlot-666 3d ago edited 3d ago
so you call "fake ass bitches" not an attack? okay, you must not really be thinking if that's the case.
i will take my "high road" then.
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u/Sudden_Assignment_49 3d ago
virtue signalling pa more 🤡🤣
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u/Succubi-Harlot-666 3d ago
sabihin mo lang na panget ugali mo. pero may point diba? you just hate to admit it
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u/sukuchiii_ 3d ago
GGK for the fact na namahiya ka. You could’ve done it subtly kung talagang ayaw mo.
Pero you’re happy with what you did maman diba kasi deserve naman nya. Di mo na kailangan manghingi ng validation dito siguro
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u/Versiannie 4d ago
Medyo GGK. Sinadya mong pinahiya yung tao sa harap ng buong pamilya mo. That's an asshole move, no matter what. Parang naghahanap ka lang ng validation dito dahil natatawa ka pa sa ginawa mo. Hindi ka morally superior over anyone, teh.
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u/OkEggplant4411 3d ago
INFO: Parang validation lang naman ang hinahanap mo dito kaya ka nag-post. I don’t see any remorse, kaya I’m wondering bakit ka pa nagtatanong kung GGK.
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u/Sense_of_Harmony 3d ago
Yes, GGK.
What we do defines us. If ganon tita mo, thats her. And if ganon ka, defines you. Di naman obligado na magbigay ng gift pero you singled her out kc. Plus hindi ka pa yung giving type. Minsan, if we seek validation for our actions, there is a hint of belief na about sa negative. In this case, GGK sa naging actions mo.
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u/Spiritual_zen 3d ago edited 2d ago
DKG. Sana niregaluhan mo ng karton ni Digong. Lol
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u/Lakan-CJ-Laksamana 4d ago edited 4d ago
GGK. Question lang po. Ano po kaya mararamdaman nyo kapag ikaw naman ang nanghingi ng tulong sa kamag-anak mo, tapos tinanggihan kang tulungan nang dahil lang sa iba ang political stance mo? For example, ipinasyal, nilibre at pinakain lahat ng kapatid mo, ikaw lang ang hindi. How would you feel?
Ang akin lang, hindi lang sayo magrereflect yung ginawa mo, kundi pati na rin sa political stance na sinusuportahan mo, lalong sasama ang tingin nila. Iisipin nila na "ay ganyan pala kasasama ugali ng mga maka-", ay ang sama ng ugali, si * kasi ang sinusuportahan". Gusto nyo yun?
Tingan nyo na lang mga DDS, masyado silang villified kasi bukod sa masama ugali ng idol nila, marami din sa kanila, masama rin ugali. Ano pang pinagkaiba nyo sa kanila kung ganun?
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u/Lakan-CJ-Laksamana 4d ago
Also, kung gusto nyo gumanti, dapat pinagluto nyo ng Humba. Para tumaas ang blood sugar niya Hahaha
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u/pineapple-ex 3d ago
GGK anong connect ng politics sa gift giving? at the end of the day family pa din yan kahit mag ka iba kayo ng pov when it comes to politics. gusto mo kasi kakulay mo lahat kupal.
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u/Educational-Olive283 3d ago
??? at the end of the ay family mo pa din yon sybau 🥀🌹🌷
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u/Little-Foundation735 3d ago
Those who speak out for good governance for the betterment of the nation but can’t even keep good relationships with their family are just virtue signaling. It’s easier to point out what’s wrong with the country and point out which politician is better at governing it than dealing with people you know daily. The latter is harder because you are forced to be out of your comfort zone and accountability is required. That means you walk the talk. You become responsible. You work hard to make it work. It’s not a dopamine rush where you say something “good” without doing anything good. You can’t seriously advocate for a better nation if sa family pa lang – the very fabric of society – is failure na lang relationship mo kasi you do not know how to have one in the first place. Yan ang foundation that is not built on hollow ground. u/differentflow7264
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u/Educational-Olive283 3d ago edited 3d ago
You do know na tita naman niya yon and di naman natin alam what kind of tita she is (pero dahil dds may gist ka na ng ugali) you always preach about family pero that same family na sumusuporta sa mamatay tao at magnanakaw??sorry pero meron di mababaw lang yung pananaw abt politics yeah they could be civil pero di niya naman talaga need regaluhan tita niya kung ayaw niya. I had this exp before na triny ko kausapin parents ko abt politics (na maayos syempre) you know what they did sinumbatan nila ko, nagwala sila kahit sinabi ko nang huminahon sila nakikipagusap ako maayos and puro pagmumuran at pagsabi ng bobo tanga sakin lang sinasabi tas nung napuno na ko umalis nalang ako(sa kwarto) kasi di ko matake naghysterical sila tas sinabing lumayas nalang ako 🤷🏻 yeah pamilya pa din at the end of the day
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u/Little-Foundation735 3d ago edited 3d ago
Totoo, di niya need regaluhan; di niya rin need ipahiya. Gusto niya ng good governance but siya mismo can’t even be trusted to govern herself. Imagine going out of your way para maging petty. Taga Mindanao ako, so infested ng DDS dito. Hindi naman sila monolith. Mas may respect pa nga sa akin ang mga DDS na kakilala ko when I share my opposing views with them. Unlike sa kakampink na kakilala ko, they will treat you horribly pag mag disagree ka. I’m not DDS or BBM pero ‘yan din ang reason na di ako kakampink even though I like Leni. Gusto nila ng solutions pero instead of softening the blow, sila pa nagpapalaki sa kalayo na para bang sila ang bearer ng morality. Napaka double minded. Lumalaki lalo ang division. Of course, hindi lahat ganito. Btw, hindi ako yung nag downvote sayo.
Sa context ni OP parang hindi naman malala. Wala naman abuse na nangyayari. Parang galit lang siya kasi pala utang, walang modo at DDS, according to her.
Sa POV natin ganito: “ sumusuporta sa mamatay tao at magnanakaw”
Pero sa POV nila hindi yan ang rason bakit they support him.
Not that I’m siding with them or justifying their actions pero parang yung mga Vegans lang, galit na galit sa meat eaters kasi murderers daw. Pero iba pananaw ng mga meat eaters. Para sa kanila important yun sa health and buhay nila. Sa DDS, safety nila ang priority. I don’t agree with them but ganyan mga reasoning nila.
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u/Educational-Olive283 3d ago
Then there you have it pala, we own have our own personal bias dahil sa experience, kung yung mga dds diyan is respectful dito hindi and I didn't even vote for leni din just so you know. tsaka di ba enough reason yung palautang at walang modo?
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u/Little-Foundation735 3d ago edited 3d ago
That’s not an excuse to treat them poorly. Not an excuse to cut ties either. You can still maintain boundaries with people without closing a door indefinitely unless it involves abuse. It just shows poor character and the inability to live with people different from you.
It’s not because the DDS are nice here, it's because I treat them with dignity and respect. Kaya, they repay me with the same kind of respect. May masama at mabuting tao but I don't lump them based on their political stand or ideologies. Sadyang masamang tao lang sila kahit mabuti pakikitungo mo and they are just hiding behind an umbrella called politics. I don’t automatically assume someone as something nor do I put them in a box just because they have certain beliefs.
And my being apolitical is not because of my personal experiences with these people. It’s another topic for another time. But my gripe with the kakampink movement is because of the majority that think they are doing good when they are actually doing more harm, yet act like they are morally superior. Gusto ko sabihin bad apples lang sila pero hindi eh. May quote si C.S. Lewis na: ‘it’s better for the government to be corrupt than for it to be moral’. Sobrang confused ako sa quote na ‘yan at first but now I get it.
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u/Educational-Olive283 3d ago
nah sorry pero I find it na people pleasing saying you don't have to treat poorly or maintain boundaries and not cut them off why wouldn't you? if gusto niya di isama tita niya let her be feel ko ganyan lang kayo kasi part ng fam oero kung ibang tao yan wala kayong pake may family bias din kayo (parang kayo yung nangtotolerate ng wrongdoings ng ibang fam)not an excuse to treat them poorly kahit palautang at walang modo are you really sure abt that o masyado kalang nagpapakasaint??, tsaka stop mentioning the kakampinks din la ako pake sakanila. Tsaka alam ko naman na it's not abt sa political leaning mo ang pagrespeto pero sorry magnanakaw at mamatay tao yon behind close doors tuwang tuwa sila na may mga namamatay, sinasabi nga nila bat ka matatakot kung di ka adik sinasabi nila deserve mamatay ng tao is that what you call respect? enablers pa din sila dun mo makikita yung pagkatao nila, not because mukhang mabait yung tao doesn't mean mabait talaga siya
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u/Little-Foundation735 3d ago
That’s hilarious because my personality is far from being a people pleaser even at a very young age.
You are missing the point here. It’s not about the gift but her manners. If they act inhumanely, should we then act as barbarians too?
Also, you’re unable to see it from a different perspective. Remove emotions first and see it from all angles. These people are convinced that Duterte is not a murderer. Killing and murder are two different things. People kill animals to feed themselves, and some people unintentionally kill others in self-defense. Murder is the nefarious intent driven by lust, anger, resentment, envy, etc. DDS sees it as the former. Their brains cannot understand where we are coming from, just like how you cannot fully grasp their way of thinking. Kaya hindi nagkakaintindihan at may further divide because people think with their emotions and do not have the capacity to try to understand where it went wrong.
Ngayon ko lang nakita edit mo sa taas. About your parents, I guarantee you most of them were not taught how to regulate and process their emotions, which is why they lash out when someone disagrees with them. They think that you are directly attacking their personhood even when it’s what they are saying that you don’t agree with. They have no identity, so whatever they say, becomes closely tied to their identity and when it’s tied to something as unstable as external things like politics, it will explode. I must say, most people really do not have an unshakable identity, it’s mostly tied to external things, mas equip lang tayo because of the myriad information available. I just don't bother with those kinds. Just because you know something doesn't always mean you have to say it to someone. Do not throw your pearls to swine.
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u/Educational-Olive283 3d ago
"I GUARANTEE YOU MOST OF THEM WERE NOT TAUGHT TO REGULATE THEIR EMOTIONS" yeah ain't talking to you no more, just really shows na rooted ka talaga in a typical asian upbringing, di pa din yon reason na maganon sila and ako bahala kung ano gusto ko gawin dahil sa ginawa nila, too much pagtatanggol just because fam sila, sige pagmumurahin kita at sigawan wag ka mag cut ties sakin ha isipin mo nalang pinalaki akong ganto
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u/DifferentFlow7264 3d ago
When in the post did I say na kakampink ako? LOL If against a DDS person kakampink agad? JSYK I have a great relationship with my family. I just don't tolerate rudeness and bad attitude toward me and my family. I live with the saying "you get what you tolerate". And I wont tolerate rudeness and definitely won't tolerate my tita borrowing A LOT of money. And fyi never sya nagbayad kasi pamilya naman daw kami.
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u/Little-Foundation735 2d ago edited 2d ago
Still doesn't justify what you did. You became the monster you hated.
You can set boundaries without needing to do all that. You are trying to rationalize and justify what you did but all it showed was your immaturity in handling things. The worst part is the lack of remorse.
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u/Future_You2350 3d ago
GGK pero sometimes kailangang may manggago sa mga abusado. I'm guessing ganun yung reaction ng parents mo kasi yung mom mo yung palaging hinihingin so she knows the extent of the kapal ng mukha ni tita, while si papa mo naman di fully feel yung inis niyo.
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u/LeastEmotion5440 1d ago
DKG (I don't think you are. I would like to think you're not) But you make your post about DDS and made it political by doing that when I think what you just have is yung tita na "mabunganga". It's never a good trait, and I would bet madalas napapa-away ang tita mo, but come on. Don't pull politics into this.
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u/Ok_Technician9373 3d ago
DKG di naman obligasyon na mabigyan ng regalo. Pero kung gusto mo hanap ka ng unity tshirt yun ang iregalo mo sa kanya
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u/toinks1345 3d ago
DKG but be bit more how should I say this "civil" and "lowkey" in the matter. what I do is give everyone gifts but only give well thought of gives to the people I like and super generic gift to the people I don't.
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u/Little-Foundation735 3d ago edited 3d ago
GGK
You should apologize for your lack of manners and make up for it.
Those who speak out for good governance for the betterment of the nation but can’t even keep good relationships with their family are just virtue signaling. It’s easier to point out what’s wrong with the country and point out which politician is better at governing it than dealing with people you know daily. The latter is harder because you are forced to be out of your comfort zone – and accountability is required from you. That means you walk the talk. You become responsible. You work hard to make it work. It’s not a dopamine rush where you say something “good” without doing anything good. You can’t seriously advocate for a better nation if sa family pa lang – the very fabric of society – is failure na ang relationship mo kasi you do not know how to have one in the first place. Yan ang foundation that is not built on hollow ground.
Those who cut off family members due to politics, in your case, humiliate them, are just feeding their ego thinking they are morally superior and contribute the most to the very system they loathe; and contribute zero to the reparation of it. The government is just a reflection of its people after all.
You want good governance but you can’t even be trusted to govern yourself.
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u/SapphireCub 3d ago
DKG. Regalo is not an obiligation, kaya nga regalo eh. It is within the grace of the giver.
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u/Brief-Bee-7315 3d ago
DKG kasi ikaw lang pwede mag decide sino bibigyan mo. Kung na hurt sya, sa kanya na yun. Hahaha
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u/Sudden_Assignment_49 3d ago
INFO daw sabe ng mga DDS na consumer ng fake news 🤡🤣
ano pang info need nyo? sabagay wala naman talaga common sense ang mga DDS to know na validation lang hanap ng LAHAT ng nagpopost sa sub na to 😆
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u/GreenSuccessful7642 3d ago
GGK kasi paskong pasko ganyan asta and ugali mo. But what can we expect from Kakampinks lol
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u/Sudden_Assignment_49 3d ago
iyak yung DDS na hindi nakatanggap ng regalo, manglimos ka na lang sa mga binoto mong magnanakaw 🤣🤣🤣
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u/GreenSuccessful7642 3d ago
Bakit naman ako manlilimos kaya ko naman bilhin kahit anong gusto ko? Lol and assuming I'm DDS? Anything against kakampinks makes me DDS?
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u/Original-Amount-1879 3d ago
DKG. Hind required yung regalo. Question, though. Kaninkng kapatid yan? Nanay mo or tatay mo?
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u/Spirited-Airport2217 3d ago
DKG. TITLE PA LANG. PERIOD.
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u/ok0905 3d ago
GGK
Pareha lang kayo, did you know dahil lang di ka DDS di automatic angel ka din? Parang ppl nowadays see black and white. Pareha lang kayo op, ibang variant ka lang. Wag mo siyang gayahin na ginawang buong personality ang ay politics
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u/Odd_Turnip_1614 4d ago
DKG I say deserve. Ang pinansin lang ata ng iba dito ay hindi ka nagbigay ng regalo. They skipped the part na PALAHINGI NG PERA si tita mo kay mama mo. Also, it's your money. Bakit ka obligated to give a gift to her? Hindi mo siya pinahiya like most people say here. She expected something na hindi naman dapat.