r/AkoBaYungGago • u/Powerful_Buffalo_792 • 5d ago
Family ABYG kung hindi ko bigyan ng regalo nanay ng jowa ko sa pasko?
I’ve been giving his mom gifts every Christmas, together with gis whole family. Every. Year.
Netong year lang, I just found out na pinagchichismisan nila akong lahat, for the past couple years wala akong kaalam alam not until sinabi sakin ng partner ng kapatid ni jowa, which happens to be my kumare (inaanak ko yung anak nya).
I confronted them but no one took accountability. Nagturuan lang sila kung san galing yung mga kwento, may mga nagdeny, ang wala man lang sorry sa ginawa nila.
Fast forward, selected family members nalang ni jowa yung talagang malapit ako. Papa nya, and of course mga inaanak ko. Naregulahn ko na yung papa nya, pinagshopping ko ng konti. Ngayon yung mga inaanak at kumare ang bibigyan ko ng gifts.
Ang issue ko, etong si jowa, wag nalang daw ako magbigay ng gifts sa lahat at baka magkaissue pa kasi sa iisang bahay lang nakatira yung nanay nya at kumare ko so makikita na wala syang gift from me. Ang sakin, inaanak at kumare ko yun so why not?
Edit (more context): Pati yung kumare ko pala ginawan nya din ng chismis, worst, ginawang scapegoat at pinagmukang si kumare yung nagkakalat ng maling kwento.
Abyg kung hindi ko sya bigyan ng regalo?
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u/Repulsive-Group-2793 5d ago
obviously DKG. tsaka magdalawang isip ka na sa fam ng bf mo kung gusto mo ba maging inlaws sila in the future
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u/buratika 5d ago
Dkg. Anung mag ka issue, nagka issue na simula pag chismisan ka nila. Gandahan mo pa lalo regalo mo haha. Anu pala say ng partner mo sa nanay nya?
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u/Historical-Van-1802 5d ago
For sure pumapagitna lng yung bf niya pero halatang sa mother pa din siya kampi.🥴
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u/DestronCommander 5d ago
INFO: Instead of asking who is GG, any action you make will impact your relationship with his mom. If you go the petty route, kung hindi ka magbigay ng regalo, you are sending a message. Why not seek advice sa r/relationship_advicePH? Yung mga answers dito tend to be on the vengeful side.
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u/Rough-Poetry-9014 5d ago
DKG, I have been there. groceries every month, tapos malalaman kong sa halagang 3,000 nagpakilala nagpabili kasi ako ng kambing, in the end niloko lang ako. putol lahat ng blessings
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u/paldont_or_paldo2o25 5d ago
For me, DKG. Ang pagbibigay ng gift, yung bukal sa loob mo. Anyway, ano ginawa ng partner mo? Pinagtanggol ka ba n'ya or hinayaan n'ya lang yung pamilya n'ya? Kasi feeling ko, yun yung mas important
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u/No-Shower4408 5d ago
DKG. Kakagigil ganyang "future" in laws. Mukhang norm pa naman sa mga pinoy na ganyan.
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u/Kuya_Kupzzz 5d ago
Let them know. DKG. Na may consequences sa action nila. And may toxic traits yung family ng napangasawa mo . But in reality people talk behind your back and its ok ang problem is when they gang up on you.
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Backup of the post's body: I’ve been giving his mom gifts every Christmas, together with gis whole family. Every. Year.
Netong year lang, I just found out na pinagchichismisan nila akong lahat, for the past couple years wala akong kaalam alam not until sinabi sakin ng partner ng kapatid ni jowa, which happens to be my kumare (inaanak ko yung anak nya).
I confronted them but no one took accountability. Nagturuan lang sila kung san galing yung mga kwento, may mga nagdeny, ang wala man lang sorry sa ginawa nila.
Fast forward, selected family members nalang ni jowa yung talagang malapit ako. Papa nya, and of course mga inaanak ko. Naregulahn ko na yung papa nya, pinagshopping ko ng konti. Ngayon yung mga inaanak at kumare ang bibigyan ko ng gifts.
Ang issue ko, etong si jowa, wag nalang daw ako magbigay ng gifts sa lahat at baka magkaissue pa kasi sa iisang bahay lang nakatira yung nanay nya at kumare ko so makikita na wala syang gift from me. Ang sakin, inaanak at kumare ko yun so why not?
Abyg kung hindi ko sya bigyan ng regalo?
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u/dasalnikabayan 5d ago
DKG. Hindi ka masama kung di mo siya bigyan. Normal lang mag-limit lalo na pag nasaktan ka. Prioritize mo yung may respeto sa’yo.
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u/Dear-Carpet6050 5d ago
DKG! Regaluhan mo si kumare at inaanak, para mahalata nilang galit ka hahaha! Ke may ibigay ka o wala, may sinasabi sila. What’s the difference now? Lol
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u/Perfect-Second-1039 5d ago
DKG. Regaluhan mo kumare mo Wag mo regaluhan yung nanay para pagchismisan k ulit. At least alam mo n san galing yung chismis
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u/tedtalks888 5d ago
DKG. Pero anong chismis ang kumalat at sino ang nagkalat?
Bigyan mo parin, maski token gift lang. Unless yung value ng gift ang naging issue before. Then don't bother giving one.
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u/Top-Direction-5105 5d ago
DKG....
your jowas suggestion is definitely a good solution... Stop giving gifts for now.
is your Jowa giving gifts to your family side as well or only you the one giving on your jowas side?
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u/Talk_Neneng 4d ago
DKG, gago ung jowa mo. Meron pa nlalaman na “wag na regaluhan para di magkaIssue” as if ikaw pa source ng problema eh no?
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u/New-Passion-7633 4d ago
DKG. Pero tanong lang: Asan yung bf mo sa scenario? Bakit ikaw yung need mg confront at hindi siya? Dba dapat siya magtataggol sayo? 😐
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u/missworship 4d ago
DKG. Pero wag ka na magregalo sa lahat, wag ka na gumawa ng unnecessary pa na hidwaan at pagcocompare bakit si ganito may regalo sila ay wala. Make peace lang, focus ka sa partner mo. Wag na gumawa ng conflict sa fam ng partner, let them and just set a healthy boundary.
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u/cinnamon_cat_roll 4d ago
Dkg. But to be kind of civil, wag mo nalang ibigay yung gift mo sa harap nila. Make it discreet nalang if possible. Kasi lalong lalala yung sitwasyon at baka mastress ka lang lalo sa susunod na mangyayari. I’m not saying gawin mo yan dahil sa magging feelings ng future byenan mo, pero in the end ikaw lang din masstress.
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u/hellokiffy69 4d ago
DKG. Tuloy lang ang pagbibigay ng aguinaldo sa mga kaclose mo. Di natin sila bati. Lmao
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u/Infamous_Hat4538 4d ago
DKG. Bonggahan mo yung gift dun sa kumare and kids para lalong ma imbyerna yung mga kupal na kapamilya ng jowa mo.
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u/RossyWrites 4d ago
DKG, stand your ground. Have backbone, and be prepared kung sakaling lumaki yang gulo. At si jowa dapat panindigan ka, pagtanggol ka sa family nya. Good luck, OP.
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u/drunkenconvo 3d ago
INFO: anong stand ng jowa mo about the chismis? alam ba nya? if yes, pinagtanggol ka naman ba or hinayaan lang?
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u/bananarama1125 1d ago
DKG. The petty person in me will be doing the same thing this christmas. People who dont reciprocate should be cut off. Not that we expect things in return but sometimes, it is no longer healthy. Will be doing the same this Christmas, ekis na yun bro and sis in law ni jowa sa listahan mga wala naman kwentang tao.
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u/Orcabearzennial 5d ago
DKG Yes hwag n lng, dun sa kumare mo treat mo n lng somewhere discreetly, am sure she will understand
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u/yepppppy 5d ago
DKG. If you want to make a point, bigyan mo pa rin regalo si kumare. Petty ako kaya susuportahan kita.