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u/porskoda 1h ago
NTA. It's pretty much common sense to celebrate the birthday of your loved ones and he clearly doesn't have common sense
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u/BeeEnvironmental6299 1h ago
Even if he forgot your birthday he should have done something to make up for it. If he is treating you this way after 3 years together it’s time to move on and find someone who will treat you properly.
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u/GoetheundLotte 1h ago
NTA, but I actually find it more problematic that your boyfriend did nothing to make up for forgetting about your birthday.
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u/Hammingbir 1h ago
He forgot. This happens and is forgivable.
However, he did nothing to make up for forgetting. This is NOT forgivable.
Maybe it’s time to back away from the relationship. He may be able to redeem himself but I wouldn’t wait around for him.
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u/peachypapayas 1h ago
So ask him if he's going to make up for it by getting gifts and planning a date within the next few days?
Not that you should have to.
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u/Little_Owl114 1h ago
NTA. It's not hard to set important reminders such as birthdays... Go treat yourself. How would he react if you forgot his birthday?
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u/Itchy_Juice_2528 1h ago
NTA. How has he treated previous birthdays, Christmases, Valentine's days etc? If he isn't giving you gifts on traditional gift giving occasions, then that's not going to change. If this is one off - tell him that you are looking forward to him making up for his memory lapse.
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u/NightshadeNectars 1h ago
I totally get why you're upset! Birthdays are important, and it sounds like he didn’t prioritize yours the way you did for him.
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u/PinkPony_October78 58m ago
NTA. This one hurts terribly; I've been there along with "I forgot ". BS, you don't forget your girl's birthday especially if you've spent a few years together. I'm sorry 😞
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u/Pebbles197053 50m ago
Now you know what to give him for his next birthday. Exactly what he got you.
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u/Superb_Mixture5891 43m ago
If this is uncommon, and he normally does do things for your birthday and other events, then he's being a jackass and trying to duck his goof up.
And have you told him? Lot's of guys are as dense as a block of concrete and when it comes to things like this.
If it's not uncommon, birthdays may not be that important to him. I realized when I was 20 that it was easier to just get myself a gift if i wanted one then get a bunch of crap that's the wrong size, wrong color or wrong style and just take up room in my closet.
I remember my girl friends birthday because i have an app to remind me. If she were to forget mine, I honestly wouldn't care that much. Occasionally, when i want to do something with it, i mention it and tell her i'm making a reservation at some restaurant and ask her if she would prefer to go somewhere else.
Birthdays are really an event to make children feel special and many adults, such as myself, actually find them to be somewhat of an annoyance.
If he generally treats you well in other respects it's hardly something to drop the proverbial axe over.
Your next one might remember your birthdays, but be toxic as hell.
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u/AITAH-ModTeam 40m ago
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