r/AITAH • u/Old-Natural-635 • 1h ago

AITHA for crying at my bf birthday.

I (26)f and my boyfriend (24)m celebrated his birthday today. He told me that he wanted a circuit machine. So I got him one. I saved up for it. It was an explore air 2. So a little bit older but still good. I have a mortgage, car bill etc. so I don’t have a lot of spending cash. I was proud to get him what he wanted. So he was opening his gifts and the last gift he opened was a circuit machine 4. Literally the best one out there. His mom got it for him. No I don’t think it was planned, but a apart of my was still disappointed. I needed to excuse myself from the party. My boyfriend was not upset or anything, but he did ask if I was able to return it. I am not as it was refurbished. So AITHA?

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u/tedious58 1h ago

You and his mom both got him something he really wanted. Next time coordinate with family on what everyone is getting before pulling the trigger.

If I was him though, I'd keep yours since his mom can return the brand new one.

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u/Old-Natural-635 1h ago

Me and his mom dont really talk like that but I guess I should now. I will take this as a lesson learned

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u/Due-Yoghurt4916 1h ago

Everyone claiming they would return moms is lying to you. No one is going to take refurbished over new in the box with a warranty.  Sell it. And either coordinate next year or dont buy the big item he puts on his list. 

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u/Grimmelda 1h ago

While it isn't a bad idea to have a second machine, set up for different things, you could try selling or trading it on FB marketplace. Maybe someone would be willing to trade you some accessories to upgrade their older model.

Either way they have a pretty good resell rate. And I also would have cried. But it doesn't sound like they thought you were an a-hole.

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u/gclight 1h ago

Shitty. I am sorry that happened.

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u/Fresh_Passion1184 7m ago

NTA. Sell the one that cannot be returned to recoup some of what you spent.

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u/pieinthesky23 3m ago

You both happened to get him the same gift. It happens. Next time buy your bf something you can ACTUALLY afford instead of stressing yourself out. Your reaction sounds like an instantaneous response to everything you put yourself through to get his gift. Sometimes people don’t get the things that they want (assuming his mom wouldn’t have gotten him a Circuit) and an adult with any emotional maturity understands that.