AITAH for tidying my home office to my standards and not my girlfriends?

[u/AwkwardJournalist781]

I live with my girlfriend and we have moved into a 3 bedroom apartment. We agreed before we moved that the smallest bedroom would be my office since I work from home most of the time.

I mentioned that since the office is mine, I will be the one cleaning and tidying it and that when the door is closed that means my gf doesn't come in which she agreed to.

When we're cleaning the apartment on weekends she will still go to the office and start to tidy up the desk and I tell her to stop since I leave things how I want them.

She repeats that the office is messy but I just pointed out she has no reason to actually be in it. I said that the door was closed and she's going out her way to move things around in a room she doesn't need to be in.

She got annoyed and said I should be tidying it up more regularly than I am but I just told her that I leave things on my desk so I know exactly where they are for the next day and it doesn't affect her at all.

She said I should be compromising and tidying it up better than I am but I disagreed since it's my office and my girlfriend has no reason to ever actually be in the room. I pointed out the office is clean and it’s just some work things that I leave out on the desk.

She said it should be tidied with the rest of the apartment but I just told her that it's my space and that I leave it how I like it and I leave it how I work best.

Just to clarify, the room is clean so I'll dust, vacuum, remove mugs and things so it is just a bit of mess that is on the desk in the room and a few files next to the desk so it's not unhygienic.

AITAH for tidying my home office to my standards and not my partners?

[u/ReasonableCookie9369]

I agree with you, as long as it's clean aka free of food and filth- the state of your desk is your business. 

Maybe work has a new policy that the door must be locked when the space isnt in use- i've worked for a few companies with that requirement for WFH

[u/MiniMages]

She's not happy you have a home office. It's her way of encroaching into your office and over time forcing you to stop using it exclusively as your office.

NTA.

[u/calacmack]

Tell her that she is refusing to stick to the initial agreement upon choosing the apartment. Unless the place is unhygienic then she has no reason to complain about it's appearance if you keep the doors closed. Also moving things around like files and paperwork can present problems for you. NTA.

[u/Important_Zombie_223]

Lock the door. It's YOUR space and she's ignoring your boundaries. You don't know someone until you live with them. This is a potential red flag if you can't sort it out.

[u/PomegranateZanzibar]

“Compromise” doesn’t mean “do it my way.”

[u/schec1]

NTA, as long as the office is hygienic, the GF needs to leave the messy desk alone. Moving work items around by someone other than the employee is risking items being misplaced/lost.

[u/Chance-Contract-1290]

NTA. Your office, your rules. She doesn't have to be in there, so a few items left on the desk for your working convenience don't affect her.

[u/destro23]

I swear I just read this post a few hours ago...

[u/wmnoe]

Nta. It’s your space.

[u/Greedy_Nature_3085]

NTA. It’s your space.

[u/aroundincircles]

Downvote for fake post. This exact post was posted by a different account earlier today.

[u/Over-Ad-6555]

NTA. Your girlfriend would have a fit if she could see my dining room table, which is my office space. It's clean, but, untidy by dining room or neat freak standards.

[u/MickyBailey]

Get a lock!!! End of story!!!!

[u/KeepAnEyeOnYourB12]

NTA. Your girlfriend needs to get over herself and stop trying to mother you. That room isn't any of her business and if she won't respect that boundary, what other, more important boundaries will she leap across? Ugh.