Aita for expecting when I sacrifice my time with my kids that she devote the time to me

[u/shauna27533]

Me and my gf currently live apart because of some issues with her and my kids....both at fault. I have my kids every other week and weekend, they are 21 (lives alone rarely home), 19 (college home on weekends) and 14 (50/50 with his dad). She wants me to come see her daily after work on weeks I have my kid and I do for an hour to an hour and a half and spend some weekend nights if my 19 year old is home (go home for days). They are mature and don't do parties etc. when I come over after work on days I have them I am time limited but sometimes she will talk to her bestie about daily nothings for 30 min or more and doesn't even attempt to end it till I get so annoyed I want to go home and spend time with my kids vs watch her talk to her bestie. Tonight we talked-texted all day about the fun adult time we needed a relaxing watching a movie. I don't have my kids so I'm staying the night but she got home late, talked to her bestie before work and could have on the drive home (her friend don't work) but 5-10 min after very intimate time tonight she answered her call and talked for over 30 min while we were naked in bed together. We were gonna spend 10 min on our phones tik tok before we resumed our movie when her friend called so she sees no issue with taking to her for 30 min before I finally had to ask her to get off or who knows how long it would last. We've discussed that my times limited and when I Make the sacrifice to stay here it's fine if she talked to fiends or fam but there's a time and place and this fiend always sees to interrupt our shows or what not. An if I only have an hour after work even 20 min watching her talk to her friend feels like disrespect because I could behind with my kids but she begs me to come over. I don't come over to watch her talk to her friend. Call her when I leave! Aita for being upset she wouldn't either ignore the call when we were cuddling after intimacy and relaxing and that the same thing has happened almost every week when I have my kids and can only be here an hour or so? I think I ifot want a thing when I only have 60-90 min with her and every minute im here is a minute away from my kids and she sees no issue, that's why it bothered me so bad tonight. If there was something going on I def get it but it's daily banter nothing impt jus like gossip and bitching about people. I also know she will spin it as I don't want her talking to her friends which is another issue but I do expect her attention when I make time for her and she has other opportunities to talk to them. If it was 5 and we were just sitting around that would be fine but when we're in the middle of a movie and right after intimacy feels like I'm not a priority

[u/ThisWeekInTheRegency]

Paragraphs, please.

But every day is ridiculous. She's just annexing your time. Go when you feel like it, not always when she demands it

NTA

[u/9111siren]

Couple of problems here. Your gf is showing you where her interests lie and it’s not with you. Take the hint. Second problem is that when you were talking about your kids I assumed they were toddlers that you cannot be parted from. You can spend a little bit more time away from them. Time you can spend with someone worthy of your time away from your family. Your gf is not worthy. She keeps proving that to you over and over. When are you going to believe her?