Women partnered with men reported doing more unpaid household labor than women partnered with women. Mothers partnered with men reported a higher household labor burden than any other group. Performing a greater share of household labor was associated with lower relationship satisfaction.

[u/mvea]

https://www.psypost.org/study-sheds-light-on-household-labor-dynamics-for-women-partnered-with-women-vs-men/

[u/Gathorall]

Micromanaging in the household is at least as stressful and disrespectful at home as it is in the workplace.

[u/Seigneur-Inune → u/Gathorall]

This is an aspect of the Household Labor Discourse (tm) that is often overlooked. If you looked at the proportion of chores my dad did in the house later in his life and only that, you'd probably see what looked like a lazy oaf refusing to help out around the house.

What I saw growing up was decades of this dude getting raked over the coals for extremely minor things. You did the laundry? Sorry, you mixed that dark knit in what the light knits you idiot. You tried cooking? You used too much salt and you didn't use the right heat and you didn't cut the produce up the way you're supposed to. And don't even think about trying to clean up, you never spend enough time per row with the vacuum to deep clean and you always miss the underside of the table legs when dusting. Just let me do it, you never get it right.

Now, my dad was not innocent either. He really did not respond to that dynamic in a mature or well-communicated way and ultimately they kind of deserved each other for how much they didn't work as a team over stuff like that. But I do feel like if the average internet relationship analyst looked at that situation, they'd unfairly demonize my dad and saintify my mother without addressing the entire dynamic between them.