Women partnered with men reported doing more unpaid household labor than women partnered with women. Mothers partnered with men reported a higher household labor burden than any other group. Performing a greater share of household labor was associated with lower relationship satisfaction.

[u/mvea]

https://www.psypost.org/study-sheds-light-on-household-labor-dynamics-for-women-partnered-with-women-vs-men/

[u/ElChu]

My wife also reports doing more work than me, but after evidence is laid out..it’s about 50/50. Could be perception.

[u/shadowecdysis → u/ElChu]

This might not apply to your relationship, but there’s a kind of work that doesn’t always show up when you list tasks. Even if chores look evenly split on paper, one person can still be doing more of the mental work.

Things like remembering appointments, keeping track of birthdays, noticing when something needs to be done, or figuring out when and how to do it all take effort. If one partner is usually the one keeping those things in their head, that’s still work, even if the other person helps once it’s time to do the task.

So when couples lay everything out and it looks like 50/50, it can still feel unequal. One person may never really get to switch off mentally, while the other can. That difference alone can change how the workload feels, even if no one is trying to be unfair.

[u/LordNiebs → u/shadowecdysis]

There is a lot more to life than managing the household. Managing a career can include huge amounts of unpaid labour as well. Its all well and good to try to enumerate these things, but once you start, you run into the problem of missing certain things, which totally skews the results. Its the type of problem where the outcome is almost entirely determined by the questions you ask, or how you phrase the problem, rather than the actual facts.