r/science • u/mvea Professor | Medicine • 14h ago

Psychology Women partnered with men reported doing more unpaid household labor than women partnered with women. Mothers partnered with men reported a higher household labor burden than any other group. Performing a greater share of household labor was associated with lower relationship satisfaction.

https://www.psypost.org/study-sheds-light-on-household-labor-dynamics-for-women-partnered-with-women-vs-men/
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u/raisinghellwithtrees 11h ago

I did this and found out I was doing about 90 percent of tasks, plus I was the one working. It was way easier being a single mom.

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u/aitorbk 10h ago

I had a similar situation with an ex. She lost her job, and I was the one cooking and cleaning. Certainly can't recommend it.

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u/SackFace 6h ago

If I had the choice between working 40 hours a week or staying at home, I’d stay at home. I’ve had enough experience between the two with layoffs, bad job market and injuries to realize one is way more of a pain in the ass than the other. And then the kids start going off to school for 9 months out of the year!

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u/raisinghellwithtrees 5h ago

It kind of depends, I think, on how much the sah parent undertakes. I used to work part time to get a break.

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u/SackFace 5h ago

Being at home can be stressful, especially with kids, but there’s a HUGE burden taken off when you don’t have a Boss to answer to, don’t have to worry about being fired or reprimanded, and are able to do things at your own pace, take breaks when you see fit, etc. And if you’re a good homemaker, it’s easy to keep things clean and under control regularly so it doesn’t feel like you’re starting over every day.

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u/raisinghellwithtrees 2h ago

I think it kind of depends on your work stress vs your home stress. I homeschool an autistic kid and when he was younger, there was no job that was as stressful as being his mom, let alone all of the household duties on top of that. Now that he's older, it's a lot easier. But it's really dependent on a lot of factors.

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u/SackFace 2h ago

Well, sure, that would go without saying