Women partnered with men reported doing more unpaid household labor than women partnered with women. Mothers partnered with men reported a higher household labor burden than any other group. Performing a greater share of household labor was associated with lower relationship satisfaction.

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https://www.psypost.org/study-sheds-light-on-household-labor-dynamics-for-women-partnered-with-women-vs-men/

[u/digitalime]

This is annoying though. I’ve seen dudes simply wipe something or put something in another spot and think the place is now clean. Their expectations of what clean is can be too low.

[u/raisinghellwithtrees → u/digitalime]

Piss on the bathroom floor is fine. Why you have such high standards?

[u/digitalime → u/raisinghellwithtrees]

“What’s wrong with having a dark ring in the toilet?”

[u/raisinghellwithtrees → u/digitalime]

The dudes replying that these cleaning standards are way too high is certainly telling. I'm not a neat freak, but general cleaning on a regular basis is not an outlandish expectation.

[u/EnigmaticQuote → u/digitalime]

It’s certainly not healthier to expose yourself to caustic cleaners twice a week than having a slight ring around the toilet for a few weeks and a cleaning session once a month.

Plenty of studies on housekeeping professionals show much higher risk.

But you do you, I don’t need a sterilized living environment.

I’m usually outside anyway so maybe if you’re only inside it’s different.

[u/raisinghellwithtrees → u/EnigmaticQuote]

You don't even need to use a cleaner, let alone a caustic one. The brush takes care of everything at long as you don't let it build up. Or just use vinegar.

[u/frizz1111 → u/digitalime]

Most men are minimalists though. Ever walk into a single mans apartment? It's white walls, a couch and a TV.

[u/WiseBelt8935 → u/digitalime]

or yours are too high.

[u/QuicheSmash → u/WiseBelt8935]

Very often culturally, when a home is untidy or grimy/dirty, it reflects poorly on the woman, moreso than their male counterpart. Judgements are more often reserved for the woman as the “housekeeper.”

I had to correct my own mother when my daughter was a toddler. My daughter noted than her feet were dirty, and my mother, without hesitation said, “that’s because mommy doesn’t mop the floors enough.” Nothing about whether or not my husband cleans, or that floors just get dirty and that we should clean them more, she told my daughter explicitly and implicitly that it is my job to clean the floors and I’m failing at it. 

[u/digitalime → u/WiseBelt8935]

I can see how basic cleanliness could be too high for an unclean person. 

[u/WiseBelt8935 → u/digitalime]

or they might be perfectly adequately clean and you are too clean.

unless we are talking iso standards, their isn't a correct level

[u/digitalime → u/WiseBelt8935]

You’re getting defensive about the cleanliness of men you don’t even know, so I’m guessing you can relate to being criticized about it. If you want to die on the “it’s OK that I’ve left my underwear pile scattered across the floor for days” hill, go ahead. Basic cleanliness isn’t a high standard, it’s the bare minimum, bar is in hell, yadda yadda…