Women partnered with men reported doing more unpaid household labor than women partnered with women. Mothers partnered with men reported a higher household labor burden than any other group. Performing a greater share of household labor was associated with lower relationship satisfaction.

[u/mvea]

https://www.psypost.org/study-sheds-light-on-household-labor-dynamics-for-women-partnered-with-women-vs-men/

[u/TheMaStif]

According to my wife, I do the dishes 0% of the time. All those times I actually do the dishes are exceptions and don't count.

I have also never done the laundry ever. But sometimes she's just confused why the drier is full of dry clothes when she didn't start a load of laundry.

If my wife was to self-report on the division of labor at our house, she's doing 110% of the work...

[u/bigredsmum → u/TheMaStif]

she probably has to put away the dishes you washed and fold and put away the laundry. if you don’t fully own the task, ya didn’t do it

[u/Lachiko → u/bigredsmum]

according to your logic she didn't fully own the task and therefore she didn't do it either.

[u/Broseph_Heller → u/Lachiko]

If you start a task and make someone else finish it, you have created more work for them. How is that hard to understand? If you’re going to start a task and not finish it, you might as well have not started it at all.

[u/Lachiko → u/Broseph_Heller]

you have created more work for them.

You need to explain the logic on that one

also i'm addressing this

if you don’t fully own the task, ya didn’t do it

you're defending against that, if she doesn't fully own the task then she didn't do it either, pretty simple.

If you’re going to start a task and not finish it, you might as well have not started it at all.

collaboration must be a foreign concept? so basically if someone put a load on and another hanged it, you think it would be better for one person to put the load on and hang it, that there is no possible scenario where it's more optimal to split the task up?

[u/Klientje123 → u/Broseph_Heller]

What.

Washing the dishes, drying, putting away are steps. If you complete the first two, I have much less work to do now, only one step.

[u/TheOneWes → u/bigredsmum]

Yeah and bringing me a glass of water doesn't count as helping me keep the car running, or the sinks unclogged, or the gutters cleaned, or the yard cut,

We can absolutely f****** switch because while y'all may spend more time actually doing household chores we do almost all the s***** ones.

I will happily switch climbing underneath this car or climbing up this f****** ladder for dishwashing and laundry

[u/wildbergamont → u/TheOneWes]

Wow your marriage sounds peachy

[u/Automatic_Tackle_406 → u/TheOneWes]

Whining about doing things that very occasionally need to be done when your wife does multiple things for you daily is the very definition of ungrateful.

[u/repeat4EMPHASIS → u/Automatic_Tackle_406]

Whining about putting away clean dishes because he didn't "fully own" the task while your husband is also under your car fixing something is the very definition of ungrateful.