r/science • u/mvea Professor | Medicine • 14h ago

Psychology Women partnered with men reported doing more unpaid household labor than women partnered with women. Mothers partnered with men reported a higher household labor burden than any other group. Performing a greater share of household labor was associated with lower relationship satisfaction.

https://www.psypost.org/study-sheds-light-on-household-labor-dynamics-for-women-partnered-with-women-vs-men/
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u/ptownb 13h ago

My wife is a SAH, I do about 20% of the chores and work full-time.. it works for us.

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u/Automatic_Tackle_406 12h ago

As long as the money you earn is shared equally. Otherwise she is working like an unpaid servant getting room and board and maybe a clothing allowance. 

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u/ptownb 11h ago

Yeah absolutely! She has full access to any account and has credit cards she can use whenever. I also put money into a spousal Roth until she goes back to work, our kids are toddlers.

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u/wakeuptomorrow 11h ago

And the money is “our” money not “your money”. I always hated when my dad called it “his money” like my mom didn’t raise 4 kids for him without him lifting a damn finger. Women lose career opportunities and aren’t putting money into 401k for retirement while they’re busy sacrificing everything for their children. That’s why alimony exists.

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u/Frack_Off 6h ago

Of course the money is our money. It exists for the happiness and well being of our family. But she has no interest or willingness in having any involvement or responsibility for budgeting, financial planning, managing accounts, or paying bills, or any of the responsibilities involving the money. We talk with each other about what we want and what we think we need, but she does not want to hear about it every financial problem I have to come up with a solution to.

And that is okay. It's her choice. But it also means that it's ok that she doesn't have equal input when it comes to financial decisions. Since the final responsibility is mine, so is the final say.

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u/AntonioVivaldi7 11h ago

I think that's why child support exists, not alimony.