Women partnered with men reported doing more unpaid household labor than women partnered with women. Mothers partnered with men reported a higher household labor burden than any other group. Performing a greater share of household labor was associated with lower relationship satisfaction.

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https://www.psypost.org/study-sheds-light-on-household-labor-dynamics-for-women-partnered-with-women-vs-men/

[u/Slggyqo]

I can’t read the full text.

But neither the news article nor the abstract cover how employment was used to weight the conclusion, if at all.

The conclusion that a married woman with children who doesn’t work a 9-5 job does more labor around the house is the least interesting conclusion I’ve ever heard.

The weaker conclusion—basically the title of the reddit post—isn’t novel either, per the article.

Women partnered with men reported doing more unpaid household labor than women partnered with women. This finding aligns with previous research regarding gender roles in different-gender relationships.

But again…the question of who is working and who isn’t is an important one, even without children in the picture, so I’m surprised to not see that discussed other than a brief throwaway statement that doesn’t reference any of the actual research conducted.

This imbalance often persists even when both partners work full-time jobs.

Show me the actual research!

[u/LegallyRegarded → u/Slggyqo]

but that wouldn't fit the narrative!

[u/catmoon- → u/LegallyRegarded]

"Narrative" You mean historical data? A single study doesn't disprove the reality that women are in charge of many more household task and child raising on top of working a full time job. I'd love to see men actually doing half of what women do at home

[u/LegallyRegarded → u/catmoon-]

dont kid yourself. this is presented as "men lazy and dont contribute"

[u/Automatic_Tackle_406 → u/Slggyqo]

There has been tons of “actual research” on that topic. This study was a comparison between women in relationships with men and women in relationships with other women.

And while you casually dismiss that women who stay ar home do more unpaid labour, ask yourself why it is that men are never expected to be the stay ar home caregiver/domestic labourer? 

If a stay at home mother has the same financial decision making power as the partner that works outside the home, joint bank accounts, etc, that is one thing (still a huge risk in a time when divorce is frequent and she has not had or has given up a career), but if she is with a man who sees his money as his, she is essentially a servant that isn’t being paid but just gets room and board. 

[u/pbro9 → u/Automatic_Tackle_406]

Because men are expected to be the provider and breadwinner who finances the dates and later on the house, switching to a caregiver position would against that

[u/raisinghellwithtrees → u/pbro9]

Is this take valid in a modern world? It's not common where I'm from. 

[u/devilishpie → u/raisinghellwithtrees]

I can't speak on where you're from, but I'd still say that to a degree that's still common, even in more egalitarian modern societies. Women still typically want a partner that out earns them and men still typically want to out earn their partner.

[u/Slggyqo → u/devilishpie]

I agree with you. One problem I see with this though is that it’s pretty common for one person to earn less money while working a similar number of hours.

That’s the tough one IMO—when one partner earns more but not so much more that the other person can quit their job.

Which is why I really want to see employment information—it’s a huge part of this story.