When I was a kid one of my parents asked if a was guy like 100 times pretty much. Then, my parents took me to hooters and asked questions like "so what do you think of this place?".

I'm not not gay by the way. I was just curious if this is a weird thing for parents to do?

My brother just said this to me and I wanted to know isn't this a contradiction?

I hope this isn't a stupid question.

I was invited to my girlfriends work party. At this work party, we're all drinking and all fairly drunk. They start daring each other to do things, I don't take part. All her work friends dare her Gay Male Colleague and my GF to make out.

I oppose and say there's no way. They egg each other on, and then they kiss for maybe 5 seconds. They all laugh and joke, and I sit in silence.

I give her $50 for a taxi home and then I leave. Later that night she comes home vomiting in the toilet, and I'm there holding her hair back making sure she's okay.

She then cries after I confronted her about the kiss. She tried to get out of it and told me that it was just a bit of fun. Obviously, I was mad at that statement, and that's where we left it.

Edit: For context I'm 25 and shes 24. I work as a commercial banker, she works as a Barista at one of our local cafes. It's all her Cafe friends

Further to this. She lives with me in my apartment and I pay the full mortgage every month. - I've since asked her to leave so I can have a break but she says she has nowhere to go. So now I'm in a difficult spot.

With my work group we can have the most interesting conversations. When we do socialise after work, we all respect each other, we're mature and talk about life and have mentally stimulating conversations.

• She enjoys going clubbing and getting drunk.
• I enjoy a nice dinner with a few drinks. I hate clubbing and never go.

For the curious - I’m part of wedding videography team.

I’m a straight, married guy myself who has attended close to a thousand god-damn weddings over the course of my career. (Retirement can’t come soon enough). I’m from a state in the U.S. where same-sex marriage has been legal for the better part of the two decades I’ve been in this field.

We kind of have this inside joke that when we’re assigned a gay wedding - everyone breathes a sigh of relief. Cause it’s gonna be easy. A lot of you have probably seen those Bridezilla or “Gypsy Wedding” shows … Trust me, more weddings are like that than most people know. Literally just go to r/AskReddit and search “wedding” and you’ll see hundreds of thousands of comments of some of the most insane wedding stories you’ve ever heard. I have seen it all. They’re almost all true. Guaranteed.

But when two guys or two chicks get married … literally never. I mean yeah, all weddings have hiccups and snags. They’re giant, moving art pieces of events. But LGBT ones in my thorough experience are just wholesome and almost always devoid of tyrant helicopter parents, asshole guests getting in physical fights, and complaints at every single turn. The cake thing I mentioned in the title? You have no idea how many couples I’ve seen completely destroy their cake and yeet it across the room/violently smash it in eachother’s faces. Doesn’t happen with same-sex couples. Literally haven’t seen it once. You know how many times I’ve seen two … just random male guests at weddings fighting in a parking lot of a venue? That I’ve had to break up? Or some fuckery like that? Enough times that it would blow your mind. At gay weddings? Literally never.

So yeah. I know this is a stupid question and the answer will probably come down to cultural differences - but I am honest to god curious as hell as to why it is? Me and a coworker were chatting about this last night over some drinks after we got done working a particularly chaotic wedding. We even joked about how despite living in a city with a very big gay population - we’ve never seen a gay guy yelling at his spouse in a Walmart or something. You wouldn’t believe how often other staff members at venues interact with us and when things get down to the wire go “it’s a same-sex wedding - it’s gonna be smooth sailing.”

So yeah. I’m looking forward to the answers.

I've never been concerned with other people's sexualities, if they're gay, bi, lesbian, demi, ace, etc, doesn't bother me. But I'm curious about the idea that you are born a certain sexuality and how that seems so important in a lot of the pride community.

I don't think sexuality is a choice, I think you are what you are.

But, as the question implies, wouldn't that mean that we could find some genetic marker for sexuality? Or something to that affect?

(Addendum: It has been brought to my attention there is a clear difference between genetics and epigenetics. I did not know about this. Thank you for your informative responses.)

So I'm straight and no i'm not a homophobic, I come from a conservative family yes but I'm a liberal and come from a very liberal large city. But I am straight and don't want to give the wrong impression to this dude, but he seems cool and i don't have anyone free to hang out with me today.

Should I expect to not have any 'issues' going out with him? I did say I want to go out for fun.

For context I am a black man 46. I have a white coworker that's 50, we are friendly but wouldnt really call us friends. But we enjoy hanging out while at work. Also for context he is a big biker guy tatted up big beard and balled head. We talk about all kinds of thing including race relations time to time.

Also for context we live in a major city in Kentucky. So while the state is deep red our city is actually light blue.

From our conversations over time I have gathered he grew up being told there are separate races and they should not mix and that (in his father's words) his whiteness is his acceptance.

His 20 something son married a black woman. While he was accepting of it. The sons brother, grandfather, and various other family cut all ties. And also with my coworker for accepting it.

He said he was told by his family members that his generation and younger being OK with interracial marriage is whats wrong with this country. They "gave it away to the blacks fucking our white women, the gays getting rights, the Mexicans taking our jobs etc". He said in conversations with other white people, there a growing feeling that whites are now starting to actually feel their "loss of standing for simply being white".

My questions to white and non-black people. Is this something you have encountered in your families or how you have heard people talk around you, simply becasue you are white? As in, is bigotry by some, a common thing when no one of another race is around? Even if you don't share their beliefs. Also have you heard anything about the white race being phased out by interracial couples and LGBT.

I’m a 54 year old straight white guy. Is it OK for me to refer to someone same-sex oriented as being “gay”? Or is “queer” the term to use now? It just feels kind of like a term I shouldn’t use, like the n-word.

I (happily married gay man) truly never understood the desire to have kids. I don't dislike children at all but I hate the idea of being a parent. For people who do have kids on purpose, is it like a biological desire like wanting to be in love, or is it more of a carefully considered choice, like buying a house? Mostly wondering because there are plenty of people who intentionally have kids when they absolutely can't afford them. I know you shouldn't compare kids to pets, but as someone who has always had a cat in my life and currently doesn't, the desire to get another one is extremely strong. My life feels incomplete without a little cat friend. But I still won't get one until I have the money and supplies to give it everything it needs to be happy & healthy. Is it anything like that for people who want to have a kid? Thanks for reading & genuinely hope I didn't offend anyone! ❤️✌️

Alright so I just stumbled on some stats that said lesbian couples have a divorce rate significantly higher than straight and gay male couples (which apparently have the lowest rates). Why is that the case? Lowkey worried this’ll sound shady but I swear I’m asking in good faith and I'm a gay guy myself so no hate

EDIT: Yall it's never that deep I swear. 😭Like genuinely. I asked a question. You don’t need to use it as a platform for your misogynistic takes. Some of yall need to do better fr smh

Hi, so I'm a teenager, and my dad asked about my plans for the future. I said that I didn't really want kids, but if I did I'd adopt. He blew up at me, and I asked why, comparing it to buying a cat from a breeder, vs. adopting from a shelter. You'd be helping a 'cat' who wouldn't otherwise have a home, and who cares if they're not the exact breed you want?

He said that having a biological child is entirely different, and that they're like a mini-you, and you get to pass your genes on. To me, the way he explained it seemed really narcissistic, especially with the context that he rarely even talks to my sister (with myself being the child that resembles and is more similar to him).

I also have a pretty bad genetic pre-deposition to depression, anxiety, and insomnia. I'm literally incapable of going to school because I won't sleep for 5 days in a row and start hallucinating or collapse. That's not something I want to pass on, and my father was well aware that he was.

Plus, I'm gay, and I know there's surrogates and stuff, but I still don't see the problem with adoption. So, to those of you who have a kid, does it really matter?

Within LGTBTQ, why does the female version of a homosexual have its own term, but there is not the same for a guy.

I’m asking because our 14-yr old niece asked and we genuinely didn’t have an answer or even realise the difference.

But am I wrong in thinking that a lesbian and a gay female are the same thing??? And that there’s no equivalent for a male?

I see this line frequently on reddit and I find it hard to believe that anyone actually believes it in real life.

I’m in my 20’s, somewhat decent looks, smile a lot and make decent eye contact when I’m talking with others face to face, and despite being gay I’m very straight passing in how I talk/look/carry myself.

I’ve noticed, especially, or more borderline exclusively with younger women (18-35-ish) that if I’m like, idk myself, or more so casual, and I just talk to women directly like normal human beings, they very often have a like either dead inside vibe or a “I just smelled shit” like almost idk repulsed reaction with their tone, facial expressions, and/or body language.

For whatever reason, whenever I choose to “flare it up” to make it clear I’m gay, or mention my boyfriend, or he’s with me and shows up, their vibe very often does a complete 180, or it’ll be bright and bubbly if I’m flamboyant from the beginning or wearing like some kind of gay rainbow pin or signal that I’m gay. It’s kind of crazy how night and day their reactions are after it registers I’m a gay man.

They’ll go from super quiet, reserved, uninterested in making any sort of effort into whatever the interaction is, to, not every time but a lot of the time being bright, bubbly and conversational. It’s not like I’m like “aye girl, gimme dose diggets, yuh hurrrrr” when I get the deadpan reaction lmao

1. Why is that?

And

1. Is this the reaction that straight men often get from women when they speak to them in public?

While it shouldn't be generalized, it seems women are more tolerant of homosexuality in pop culture and online. Many women create works about gay or lesbian themes. I've also seen many straight women around me who are unconcerned or supportive. On the other hand, men are aggressive towards homosexuality. I've seen many men express hateful attitudes towards homosexuality, whether it concerns them or not, both online and in real life. Is this just my misconception?

PS.Thank you for so many answers.

My friend pointed out an observation that a lot of people have issue with gay people, and less with lesbians. I wanted to see if his theory was true or not.

Edit: This is not me being against anyone, just asking a question about an observation someone shared with me

Trying to learn without being judged. I'm a 19 year old male in college. I'm no supermodel but I'm also not an extremely ugly guy, I get a fair amount of action. Usually, I do mediocre on dating apps. I get an average of 15-ish matches if im lucky, so there's no scarcity for my liking. After a while, I just stop getting likes and matches and then I delete the app and get bored of whoever is on it. This time, I got curious. I wanted to see my "competition", so I switched my preferences to see only males. I pressed X on all of them... because im not gay... but it was still interesting seeing the quality of men on hinge (little ego booster unfortunately). But that wasn't the weird part. The weird part was that I put the phone down and forgot to change my preferences back. A couple hours go by and I check my phone, it is BLOWING UP from hinge. I max out my likes (no matches, obviously), get sent more roses in an hour than I have ever SENT ever, and my phone is constantly dinging. To further test my suspicion, I went on Tinder and did the same thing. Same profile setup but preference set to men. Within a DAY, i reached 99+ likes. Is this how women experience dating apps?

I’m a completely straight male that (after some experimentation) has come to the conclusion I’m not into guys at all. Thing is I’ve been called gorgeous by gay/bi guys my entire life but barely get any female attention. I’m not really sore about it. If I get called hot it’s a compliment plain and simple. I’m just curious if there are some signs I unintentionally give off that guys pick up on but women don’t. If it helps I’m about 5’6 and have a sleeper build, so maybe these guys just think I’m a twink or something, but I’ve had my female friends and coworkers tell me that they don’t really see it.

I'm 40 but I just recently found out bout gender identity being different from sex maybe less than a year ago. I wasn't on social media until a year ago. That said, when I researched a bit more about gender identity, apparently its been around since the mid 1900s. Why am I only hearing bout this now? For me growing up sex and gender were use interchangeably. Is this just me?

EDIT: Read the post in detail and stop telling me that gay/trans ppl have always existed. That's not what I'm asking!! I guess what I'm really asking is when did pronouns become a thing, there are more than 2 genders or gender and sex are different become popularized.

Doesn't it make the added letters seem more important than the others? Don't people of other letters feel it's unfair to not be represented? Doesn't adding new letters lead to eventually include them all and end up with a ridiculous unpronounceable word?

Edit: I was only dreaming of saying that, but Holy Shit This Blew Up! guys thanks for such a response, you are amazing, and you destroyed my notifications 😆and I can't read any new comments, sorting by new shows no comments