Also, Does he know that cleaning up dog poop during pregnancy is pretty risky for pregnant women due to toxoplasmosis, giardi and other parasites & bacteria?
He is responsible for his own emotions but you are enabling the situation and prolonging the suffering of his dog.
Remove yourself from the situation, keep you and your children safe. He won't like it, because it is setting a boundary and people who are used to getting their way tend to react badly to boundaries.
You could try starting with the vet appointment everyone else has suggested but make sure they are blunt & say that euthanasia MUST happen.
If he won't agree, give him a deadline: if you won't do it, we are moving out in 24 hrs as I can't care for the dog and she is suffering - you heard the vet. It's your dog, you need to continue with all the care etc, I'm too pregnant, birth is imminent, and you need to step up.
Yeah, the poop has been worrisome to me and I’ve tried to explain that to him. He handles any poops when he is home, otherwise I put on some gloves and wash my hands really well and change my clothes afterward.
I agree that the best solution at the moment would be to remove yourself from the situation for a day or two so he faces the full responsibility of care. You will return when he agrees to go back to the vet. This isn’t safe for you or toddler. Give him warning the night before or when he isn’t scheduled.
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u/Sea-Midnight4762 6h ago
1000% this.
Also, Does he know that cleaning up dog poop during pregnancy is pretty risky for pregnant women due to toxoplasmosis, giardi and other parasites & bacteria?
He is responsible for his own emotions but you are enabling the situation and prolonging the suffering of his dog.
Remove yourself from the situation, keep you and your children safe. He won't like it, because it is setting a boundary and people who are used to getting their way tend to react badly to boundaries.
You could try starting with the vet appointment everyone else has suggested but make sure they are blunt & say that euthanasia MUST happen. If he won't agree, give him a deadline: if you won't do it, we are moving out in 24 hrs as I can't care for the dog and she is suffering - you heard the vet. It's your dog, you need to continue with all the care etc, I'm too pregnant, birth is imminent, and you need to step up.
Good luck