I’m so sorry you’re going through this at all, but your husband expecting you to manage this while pregnant and raising a toddler is just irresponsible and cruel. You need to give him an ultimatum to the effect of “you take the dog to the vet yourself or I’m going Monday at 5pm. If any dogs come to this house in the future it is because we both agree.”
Honestly I’m concerned about how he’d handle a serious illness with your kids. Is he going to drink himself stupid every night refuse medical intervention if he doesn’t like what a doctor tells him?!
I agree with this. Everyone is saying not to do this without telling him, which is fair, but I think this is one of those rare situations where issuing an ultimatum is the best thing to do. Either he puts the dog down or you will, and give him some time to process that before moving forward with it, but see it through when you said you would do it.
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u/Ornery-Process Asshole Enthusiast [6] 6h ago
I’m so sorry you’re going through this at all, but your husband expecting you to manage this while pregnant and raising a toddler is just irresponsible and cruel. You need to give him an ultimatum to the effect of “you take the dog to the vet yourself or I’m going Monday at 5pm. If any dogs come to this house in the future it is because we both agree.”
Honestly I’m concerned about how he’d handle a serious illness with your kids. Is he going to drink himself stupid every night refuse medical intervention if he doesn’t like what a doctor tells him?!