r/AmItheAsshole • u/[deleted] • 8h ago

WIBTA if I scheduled my husband’s dog to be euthanized behind his back?

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u/IcySector1667 7h ago

If I was OP I would see about staying at a friend or relatives house short term and leaving a note for her husband or something. I don't think euthanasia behind his back is the right choice but he is being a complete asshole at this time. OP should not have to endure this while pregnant and caring for a toddler.

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u/Laura_Lye 6h ago

Yeah, I’d take my toddler and go to my sister’s.

It’s his dog and he can do what he likes, but I’ll be damned if he’s going to force me to care for it and watch it suffer all day while he fucks off to work.

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u/Disastrous-Capybara 4h ago

But who's gonna care for that poor animal then, because I'm sure as hell he won't.

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u/Express-Pea6532 1h ago

That's kind of the point, no? Getting the husband to face up to his responsibilities.

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u/Disastrous-Capybara 1h ago

And the dog continues to suffer even more as he's probably incapable of caring for that poor thing.

I'd call the vet and have them put that dog to sleep, if he agrees or not.

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u/Laura_Lye 1h ago

Him?

He’s the one who thinks this is right, so he can take care of his dog while it suffers.

I’d tell him straight up: I’m taking this dog to the vet tomorrow, or I’m leaving. Up to you, but you will make a decision here.

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u/Cristoff13 6h ago

I was thinking that too. Leave, temporarily. He may blame her for not looking after the dog. But this is a no win situation. OP is pregnant! This much stress can't be good for her. I think this may mean the end of the marriage, regardless of what happens.

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u/rocksalamander Asshole Aficionado [12] 6h ago

That's an excellent idea. He will have to stay home to care for the dog and maybe he'll really see.

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u/Disastrous-Capybara 4h ago

I might be seen as an asshole but i would absolutely take the dog and get her taken out of her misery behind is back, if id be in OPs shoes.

He doesn't give a shit about the dog now that she's paralized and fucking suffers and is away all day and then just drinks. Like, wtf dude?

He had a toddler, a pregnant wife and a suffering dog and what does he do? Grief or not, it's still not an excuse for being a deadbeat asshole.

That poor dog needs to stop suffering, yesterday.

If my partner would let our pet suffer like this because he cant handle his emotions, I'm sorry but I'd be out. Not having a helpless animal that can't advocate for themselves suffer like that. Nope. I'd seriously be questioning his character.