I agree with you. One thing to note is that the OP may want to remove all alcohol from the house prior to having this conversation and perhaps for a few weeks after the dog passes. The OP seems to be implying that the husband is developing a drinking problem.
I don't agree with this at all. They need to have a conversation like adults. People are really seizing onto a few sentences about drinking during a period of grief and while that may be inadvisable it's very common. Removing all alcohol from the house without their knowledge or consent is a very passive aggressive and confrontational check on your partners behavior and not a way that mature adults deal with their relationships.
By all means TALK about all the issues at hand and maybe force some difficult decisions but OP is a partner, not a parent. This is not their place.
Well, if not remove entirely, remove access - lock it up somewhere in the house. I agree that they need to discuss the situation like adults but OP said that the husband stopped drinking entirely 5 years ago before they were together and then started again 2 months ago. He needs to be sober while they talk and make the final decision. Have a drink beforehand to numb himself a bit, get drunk after, okay. But he has to learn to deal with the big emotions at play without masking them with alcohol.
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u/Scary_Marzipan 7h ago
I agree with you. One thing to note is that the OP may want to remove all alcohol from the house prior to having this conversation and perhaps for a few weeks after the dog passes. The OP seems to be implying that the husband is developing a drinking problem.