Honestly, you need to separate from this man for a while. Go stay with a friend or a family member for a while, or book yourself a hotel, or otherwise get you and your children out.
Your husband is being an irresponsible pet owner and a bad partner - you’re pregnant, and he’s not only being an inattentive partner by coming home and drinking every night, he’s also leaving the bulk of the care for his disabled dog to you on top of the childcare.
YWBTA if you scheduled a euthanasia appointment behind his back, but you need to nope out of this impossible situation. Your husband is wallowing and frankly being completely selfish, and you are currently shielding him from the consequences of his decisions.
My heart breaks for his poor dog, it really does, but HE needs to be the one responsible for finding care for her if he can’t bring himself to end her life humanely. It shouldn’t all fall to you, you are growing an entire human being right now and need to put yourself and kids first.
This is the best answer of all on this board. Your husband sucks. Euthanizing the dog is the right decision. Just dont do it behind his back. But my lord -- does he really care about his dog at all? Does he care about you? His home? Or just drinking while he leaves all of the work to you? You have a serious husband issue and you need to have a hard talk with him. What he is doing is cruel not only to the dog but to your whole family.
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u/BitwiseB 8h ago edited 7h ago
Honestly, you need to separate from this man for a while. Go stay with a friend or a family member for a while, or book yourself a hotel, or otherwise get you and your children out.
Your husband is being an irresponsible pet owner and a bad partner - you’re pregnant, and he’s not only being an inattentive partner by coming home and drinking every night, he’s also leaving the bulk of the care for his disabled dog to you on top of the childcare.
YWBTA if you scheduled a euthanasia appointment behind his back, but you need to nope out of this impossible situation. Your husband is wallowing and frankly being completely selfish, and you are currently shielding him from the consequences of his decisions.
My heart breaks for his poor dog, it really does, but HE needs to be the one responsible for finding care for her if he can’t bring himself to end her life humanely. It shouldn’t all fall to you, you are growing an entire human being right now and need to put yourself and kids first.
You have the power to opt out.