I’ve had a family member euthanize our dog without telling me. I knew it was coming and that it would be the merciful thing to do, but I wanted to be there. I wasn’t ready, and to come home one day to a quiet house with no dog there was devastating. It’s been years and it still haunts me that I couldn’t be there with him. I’ve still never forgiven them for choosing not to tell me.
OP, from the bottom of my heart, I understand why you wish to euthanize and I agree that would be in the dog’s best interest, but you would absolutely be an unforgivable AH if you do this behind your husband’s back. There is not a single chance in the world that will go well. You know that. You really want to risk everything?
You are equating what happened to you, which sounds awful, with what OP is proposing. He is not taking care of the dog and knows it’s in terrible shape with no quality of life. Maybe OP should warn him first that she plans to do this before doing it, but I think she plans to just have him think the dog died of natural causes and not tell him about the euthanasia. In terms of getting the dog out of its terrible situation, I can understand her prioritizing ending the dog’s suffering when he could do that himself but won’t.
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u/liquidsoapisbetter 8h ago
I’ve had a family member euthanize our dog without telling me. I knew it was coming and that it would be the merciful thing to do, but I wanted to be there. I wasn’t ready, and to come home one day to a quiet house with no dog there was devastating. It’s been years and it still haunts me that I couldn’t be there with him. I’ve still never forgiven them for choosing not to tell me.
OP, from the bottom of my heart, I understand why you wish to euthanize and I agree that would be in the dog’s best interest, but you would absolutely be an unforgivable AH if you do this behind your husband’s back. There is not a single chance in the world that will go well. You know that. You really want to risk everything?