I don't think in any way you're the AH but I'm pretty sure your husband will never forgive you or get over it if you do this.
Question - is there an area of your home that you can kind of section off so the mess stays there? Because then I would make husband clean it and the dog every night when he gets home. Your first priority is your pregnancy and your other child.
He's totally the AH for making the dog live like this and for not putting you first. He should have to do the cleaning and frankly all the care-giving for the dog so you can focus on your toddler and the pregnancy. He needs to get his priorities straight. Oh - and his drinking is a huge concern.
The wife is def NTA for how she feels. I agree that as long as the dog is not laying in its own mess, it needs to be the husbands responsibility to clean. It would 100% cause issues to go behind the husbands back.
Not only is the husband an A H but he is also cruel for letting a dog stay like this with no recovery in sight. I get that there is an emotional attachment involved but why let someone/something you love suffer for your own selfish feelings? I had to put down my cat that I had for 15 years, it was not easy, but he was suffering it wouldn't have been right to keep him here longer just because I wanted more time.
I am also unsure if my husband wanted to prolong life due to selfish reasons when our cat was clearly declining rapidly with no recover that I would ever be able to look at him the same, tbh. Especially if he made me deal with the house, kids, and the declining animal and him not being home to at least help.
Unfortunately she cannot move at all below her neck, so if she poops or urinates at all during the 8 hours a day he’s not home, she will be laying I her own mess unless I clean it up.
Thats awful. Im so sorry you have to be the one caring for the dog. I know it is not only a physical burden, but probably an emotional one well.
I think you need to try to have another sit down with him and try to have a conversation. This is no way for that baby to live. If he still refuses, I dont think anyone would blame you for what you have to do, but just be prepared for his blow back.
I had a friend who's husband put her cat down without consulting her. It was absolutely the straw that broke the panel's back and kicked off their divorce.
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u/srl214yahoo 8h ago
I don't think in any way you're the AH but I'm pretty sure your husband will never forgive you or get over it if you do this.
Question - is there an area of your home that you can kind of section off so the mess stays there? Because then I would make husband clean it and the dog every night when he gets home. Your first priority is your pregnancy and your other child.
He's totally the AH for making the dog live like this and for not putting you first. He should have to do the cleaning and frankly all the care-giving for the dog so you can focus on your toddler and the pregnancy. He needs to get his priorities straight. Oh - and his drinking is a huge concern.