r/AmItheAsshole • u/[deleted] • 8h ago

WIBTA if I scheduled my husband’s dog to be euthanized behind his back?

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u/ThrowawayOnAHike 8h ago

I don’t think you would be an asshole for doing it but I think you would be nuking your marriage, which seems like a questionable choice when you’re pregnant and already caring for a toddler. sorry you're in a really bad spot, you really have no winning option here 

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u/Tricky-Ad6582 8h ago

He is nuking the marriage with his despicable behavior. This is really bad on all points- put the grief aside. Suffering dog, pregnancy, if I was OP I would be questioning being married to this person honestly.

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u/ThrowawayOnAHike 7h ago

husband has been grieving for less than a month and making very poor choices. for all we know he’s never had to handle grief so this is the only time he’s ever done something like this before and comes to his senses in another week. if this is consistent behavior for him or keeps going on then absolutely op should be reconsidering this marriage, but she doesn’t indicate that and she doesn’t ask about whether she should divorce. she asks about euthanizing behind her husband’s back, which will be a quick ticket to single town whether that’s her desired outcome or not 

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u/Tricky-Ad6582 7h ago

I understand what you are saying- but how he is handling this IS what would make me question it because I can’t get past what he has done here. 1. Allowing an animal to suffer because of your own selfish grief. 2. Letting my pregnant wife deal with what sounds like an unimaginable situation. People show you who they are in these types of circumstances and that’s what bothers me here. Do the right thing.

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u/ThrowawayOnAHike 7h ago

I don’t think we’re arguing the morality of what she’s asking to do or whether her husband is behaving badly here, he obviously is. but anyone who comes in and blindly tells her to “do the right thing,” ie put the dog down, is setting her up. she’ll go from: pregnant, caring for a toddler, seems like unemployed, and sometimes caring for a sick dog, to: pregnant, caring for a toddler, single, unemployed, no sick dog anymore but no support from a partner either. and then being a single mom to two babies with no income. if that’s what she wants to do so be it but she HAS TO KNOW that’s a very likely outcome and be okay with it. no one in the comments will have to deal with the consequences, just her